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COUNTRY_QT SparkPoints: (0)
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3/13/13 1:53 P

Try going to and joining a group!

SARAHMO4 Posts: 336
3/12/13 11:36 P

I know the feeling, I have had mental health issues ongoing since I was a teen. It took me until last year to realize that I had to go beyond taking the meds and doctors advice. I found a great therapist, cut out fwb's, toxic friends, took care of myself and went out of my comfort zone along with other healthy changes. I didnt really want to listen to my therapist or do what she suggested, I did though and it was amazing, I just had to listen more and be less stubborn. You can go to your doctor, though schedule an emergency appointment if you are doing really bad. If you cant remember issues, keep a journal, they can help with a different and better treatment for you. Do what they say and any suggestions, seems basic but its hard when youre like me and think their off their rocker or annoyed at what their suggesting. I guess its you can take any medicine, sometimes changing habits in your life not matter how small can have a big impact.

3/6/13 4:30 P

emoticon I know the feeling and sometimes now I get the same thoughts and get depressed! But my good days out weigh my bad days and it always gets better. Try seeing a counselor or therapist it works!!!

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (197,245)
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3/6/13 12:14 P


It's never easy leaving family and friends and moving to a new city. But think of this as a fresh start !! Where ever you are, look at the city through the eyes of a tourist. Take in all the local attractions to see what makes the city exciting. Take the local museum. Many museums have one day at a certain time where you're allowed in free. Find out when that time is and go see the museum. Walk around the city. Take the subway or buses and see where they lead you.

Don't be afraid to come out of your comfort zone. You're not going to meet any new people sitting at home. You're going to have to be brave. I know it's not easy. there's a lot of uncertainty, but it's only the first few days. Give yourself time to get to know the city and its people.

Also, when is the last time you talked to a doctor ? If you haven't been in a very long time, you have to go. Talk to a doctor about your depression. It's a vicious cycle. We get depressed because of our weight. What do we do ? Eat ! and the more we eat to stifle our feelings, the more weight we gain and the more depressed we feel and the more we eat.

You can stop this cycle ! start by setting up an appointment with a doctor. If you don't have insurance, go online and see what free clinics there are in your area. Don't be afraid to talk to a doctor. they are there to help.

I know things seem very overwhelming right now. that's why you have to take things slowly. don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. How about starting the day by taking a walk ? get out of the house. the longer you stay in the house, the more depressed you will be. Go to the library. listen to a lecture. read a book. libraries are free and another great place to meet people.

Try not to worry ! But you do need to be a little proactive. Like I said, don't be afraid to come out of your comfort zone.

CILER11 Posts: 265
3/6/13 10:52 A

I would recommend talking with your doctor. If you just recently got on medication for depression/anxiety it could take a few months to really notice a difference, and if you've been on them awhile you may need to have it review. I also agree that talking to a counselor could be very helpful, they may even be able point you in the direction of some groups to join.

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3/6/13 10:17 A

I will just give you a ((( BIG HUG ))) and say that every journey starts with baby steps.

Do a little bit today. Praise, love and encourage yourself for it. Hang out here on Spark, blog, and talk to others about your journey. Don't feel overwhelmed.

Do a little bit more tomorrow.

Keep going. Never give up!

“Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.” -- Zig Ziglar

Lots more here.

HAPPYMENOW58 Posts: 2,264
3/6/13 5:23 A

All of the suggestions are good ones!! Hitting the pavement is always good...Go to a few meetings just to get out..Overeters anoyomous, weight watchers, church.....You might make a friend connection there....Don't give up!!!!!!!! Keep sparking, reading, tracking...It will help you.....Volunteer work can also give you a lift and bring you out of a rut!!!!

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3/6/13 1:48 A

It is hard being in a new place where you have no family or friends to talk to. You say you just want to stay in bed, but that will not help the situation at all. Try to get out and explore the area. Take walks, go to the local park, just don't stay cooped up and shut out from the rest of the world. It will only make you feel worse. Can any of your family come to visit you? Have you looked to see if there is a spark team for your hometown? Is so, join the team and see if anyone would like to workout with you. Are you in school? If so, maybe you could join a study group for one of your classes to start making friends. I hope it gets easier for you soon. I find that I get homesick for my family, so I try to make trips back home when I can.

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3/5/13 9:01 P

Hi - it sounds like Depression could be one of the main culprits at play here. You mention that medications aren't working! I am assuming you are talking about anti-depressants? I would be making a Dr's appointment and discussing this with him/her. It is possible that your meds may need tweaking or something else altogether. You don't mention anything about therapy. If you don't have a Therapist, then I would be asking for a referral to one. Also, it may be that you require a Psychiatrist to properly evaluate you so that you have an accurate diagnosis. This means that a proper treatment plan can be put in place according to that.

I gather you are at school, so they should have qualified health help (medical and emotional) for you there.

Below are some links for alternative ways of accessing free/cheap help:

It may be that you are suffering from grief - a strange place, with no immediate support! This can impact on our health, too! A therapist will be able to help you with that, also.

Are there some social groups that you could join? It is the best way to make friends and have a social outlet. It might be a sports group (?bowling), it might be a book club, or just a group of people getting together for a movie night! There will be others in your situation who may really jump at the chance. Maybe you could be some notices up on message boards.

I know it seems hard, but when a person is depressed, getting some exercise in is an ideal treatment. It helps with the 'feel-good' chemicals in the brain. Maybe you could get a walking group together? Good nutrition is also a very important part of dealing with depression. If you don't provide your body with good fuel, you can't expect your body to respond in a totally healthy way. Your brain NEEDS this. Eat lots of fruit/veges - particularly the dark leafy greens, and quality protein, to help you.

You CAN do this, but you have to have faith in yourself.

Good luck,

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3/5/13 7:08 P

I'm really sorry. I usually don't offer unsolicited advice, but I'll take your post as somewhat of a cry for help? Perhaps? At any rate, it sounds like you have a lot on your mind and aren't sure how to make sense of it all. I can tell you from personal experience that it doesn't do any good to make a bad day trick you into thinking you have a bad life (I say that because I've done that very thing to myself, MANY TIMES. I have many years experience with depression, anxiety, sleep problems, being overweight, etc). Also, you seem like you aren't happy with your current emotional and physical state. Maybe you could start off with one or two simple, realistic goals for yourself. That will help boost your confidence AND be helping you feel better as well. When you exercise, you release all those endorphins. I know it's said a lot, but exercise really does help you feel better. Be really, really good to yourself. Be ask kind to yourself as you would be to your best friend, if he/she were feeling the same way. That kind of mindset has really helped me a lot. I hope tomorrow is a much better day for you :)

Edited by: HEALTHYNCGAL at: 3/5/2013 (19:09)
EUREAKA27 Posts: 7
3/5/13 5:38 P

I had a horrible day already and I'm ready to give up on everything I want to work for. School, trying to make friends in a city that I have no family in or relatives, living by myself, and trying to lose weight. I feel like I can't do it anymore. I lost my job, money, and the girl I used to be :( At 23 I was a witty, healthy, fit, and friendly person. I was a fitness instructor, motivated people, and loved life. Now I'm 27,no girlfriend or boyfriend, no kids, no family, no job I'm 100 pounds overweight, I'm constantly irritated and depressed, and medications aren't even working. Is there anyone else out there who is living this way? Because I feel super alone :( Like there's no point to getting out of bed at all every day.

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