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JUNEAU2010 SparkPoints: (165,250)
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1/7/13 4:53 P

Years ago, I read Dr. Phil's diet book and he suggested relegating those "off limit" foods to a separate cabinet (dry goods) or ... so that they are out of sight and out of mind. This worked for me for about 3 years. BF is a snacker (we both are), but he has an enormous sweet tooth.
. If I don't start on the sweets, I don't crave them, but if I start, I want more!

LONERCHICK SparkPoints: (7,701)
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1/6/13 11:19 P

I have this problem with my bf. When we would go out to eat we would each order our own appetizer. I've stopped doing this (or at least I am trying). Watching him eat deep fried goodness across the table is hard, especially because now I feel like I am waiting forever for my food.
Also he likes to drink, so beer is always in the house. Before, if I decided I wanted a beer with dinner but I was already home in house clothes, I would not bother going out to buy a 6 pack. But now there is a fridge that is ALWAYS fully stocked with beer. It might sound strange but it is the flavor and not the alcohol that I want.
It's hard to cut back when the person you live with is not.

LUVS2WIN67 Posts: 1,060
1/5/13 10:41 A

I am a wife and mother of 4, so I totally understand this one. I do not expect any one to join in on MY journey. If they choose to come along for some or all then I encourage the company. But I do not make demands. This is what I have chosen to do, not them. I have to find the will power within myself to just say NO to the stuff they are choosing to eat or drink. It can be hard, but I'll tell you, at the end of the day I am very proud of myself when my intake is where it should be. I see that I have stuck to my goals.
It's definitely not easy, and sometimes I fall off the wagon, but this is my path. I cannot make every one walk it with me.


STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,346
1/5/13 2:36 A

I can totally relate. I have been with my fiance for 5 years, and it was while I've always been big, it was within the second year of our relationship that I ballooned to 330 pounds. I tried forcing him to join me and to get him excited about the idea of joining me (it's not like he can't stand to lose a few pounds himself) but the reality is unless he actually wants to do it, it's just not going to happen. Three years later, he's just now warming up to the idea of joining me. I think part of it was because when I was just starting out, he probably didn't think that I was willing to commit to it, but now that I've actually achieved results, he's willing to join me. Give it time. He might join you, but if he doesn't don't get discouraged. Do this for you and only you. You could ask him to not eat his foods in front of you. I did that with my fiance, and he politely obliged.

JUNEAU2010 SparkPoints: (165,250)
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1/4/13 9:15 P

I'm in the same boat. Sometimes I have to be blunt and say "this is what I need.: Sometimes, I do the cooking so I can measure and....as time goes on, he starts asking questions, starts measuring and sometimes makes healthy choices too. It's not easy, it takes patience but it can be done.

If you enlist him as a fitness coach, he will buy in even further.

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1/4/13 9:12 P

I'm new to this site, in fact I just signed up on Thursday, but I have a problem that might hinder my progress. I live with my boyfriend of almost four years and I have to admit that throughout our relationship I have gained around 20 pounds. Recently, I have started my new diet and new exercise routine, but my boyfriend is less enthusiastic about joining me. He is supportive of me and my goals, but by him continuing his bad habits, it makes it harder for me to stay on track.

Has anyone else had a problem like this? What are ways for me to stay on track?

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