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JAMIRBLAZE Posts: 1,735
1/15/14 4:49 P

I had chronic stress, as defined by a therapist, for about 5-6 years which eventually led me to a very bad emotional place. Therapy is the number one thing that helped. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne had some very helpful exercises that my therapist and I went through. But ultimately, what helped is leaving the number one bad situation that I was in. Exercise and being healthy also helps.

HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/15/14 2:14 P

I like the idea of having something to look forward to. Since trying to get out of unhealthy relationship I am having to reach out to people and try to fill my day with other things. I do find journaling helpful...just need to do it!

KRAFTYKRAFT SparkPoints: (92,850)
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1/15/14 2:09 P

I went through a period of intense stress and my big survival tools were my listening to music on my IPOD, writing in my journal, finding a few sympathetic allies. I also tried to have one thing each day to look forward to - reading my book, a favorite flavor of yogurt - whatever got me through

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1/15/14 12:43 P

WATCH A FUNNY MOVIE, read an inspiring book, exercise, etc.

HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/15/14 12:42 P

Does anyone else have ideas on how to reduce stress or how to cope with it?

HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/14/14 1:53 P

I rarely drink soda..woohoo. Coffee (decaf) Tea..herbal mostly. And of course water.

I have always wondered about aspartame because I started using it several months ago and noticed more flare ups. Will read more into that. I just never know who is correct and who is not. I have read conflicting reports.

Thanks again for the info. Glad you have found your triggers.

MUSICMOM27 Posts: 576
1/14/14 1:26 P

definitely check with the allergist. the first thing my rheumatologist told me after the fibro diagnosis was no coffee, tea, coke or chocolate. well, i'm a mormon, so the coffee and tea wasn't a problem and i didn't drink much soda. the chocolate...i was going to fight him on that one. he said caffeine was a problem with fibro patients. that and tomatoes.

at the next appointment he asked if i was feeling better after no caffeine and tomatoes. i said yes ( i did have the occasional barq's rootbeer with seafood) so he said give up the rest of the nightshade family, which are potatoes, eggplant and peppers. it turns out eggplant was giving me migraines right away and potatoes had a cumulative effect. bell peppers burned my mouth and that was a sign of allergy. i went to an allergist and found i had a few more food allergies and i eliminated those foods, too. it works!

i still have fibro pain if i don't sleep well, get stressed (it's always there) or don't move enough. long car rides aren't easy and even a long movie makes my legs hurt.

also, aspartame will make symptoms worse. google it for the research.

GOALIEGRANDMA3 SparkPoints: (118,200)
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1/14/14 1:12 P

I do a lot of imagining......daydreaming, etc. I call it my coping technique.

HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/14/14 1:11 P

MUSICMOM27~ You have certainly gone through a lot. I admire the changes you made. I have been wanting to go to an allergist to see if I have any allergies that might be causing more flare ups with fibro. One great thing I did recently was go to Physical therapy that was specifically for fibro patients. Part of it was pool therapy and that really helped a lot. I joined the Y and intend to go 3 times a week.

MUSICMOM27 Posts: 576
1/14/14 1:03 P

i was in an unhealthy relationship for way longer than i should have been. i worked up the courage to end it and then lived with the stress of being a single mom with two special needs kids. my fibro was in full swing when hurricane katrina took our house and the divorce happened soon after that. i had a major depression after the divorce with job problems (i'm a teacher) and after i remarried and found a music job, the stress eased up some. i went through more job stress and the migraines came roaring back so bad i went on sick leave. the doctor told me to either quit or live with it. my program was cancelled so i worried about where i would work all summer. i got placed in a fantastic job and that part is good.

what worked health-wise was water aerobics, a chiropractor that does myofascial release and making better food choices. a lot of fibro patients have food allergies that make the fibro worse. i also got my sleep apnea diagnosed and started treatment six weeks before katrina. that made a HUGE difference in how i felt.

the bottom line is you have a choice. you react to the stress or you change the situation. the good news is you're taking steps already and reaching out.


HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/14/14 12:55 P

I have not heard of Steven Covey, but will look into him. 7 habits sound doable. emoticon Thanks!

Am still open to other suggestions. I appreciate the help.

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (231,348)
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1/14/14 12:50 P

Stephen Covey changed my life. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People completely turned things around for me.

I listened to & read so many 'self help' books trying to find something that would click. For me, 7 Habits was it. I keep an audio CD of the book in my car for a refresher when I feel myself slipping back to my old ways.

check it out from your library and give it a try. If that one isn't your cup of tea, try another one. Keep trying until you find what works.

Another one that I've heard a lot about is "The Purpose Driven Life". That did nothing for me, but it might be the answer for you.

HLTHAPPINESS4C Posts: 25,963
1/14/14 12:43 P

Hi. Cynthia here and I really am in need of some suggestions.

I have had chronic stress for as long as I can remember. It seems like I am almost always in fight or flight mode and often overreact over things that aren't that big of a deal. Does anyone relate? The more stressed I get the more my body tenses up,, my fibro flares, and migraines hit.

My dr. told me the other day when I went in for my migraines (had had them for nearly 2 weeks). I told her about all that has been going on the last 6 weeks or so. She looked at me and very kindly told me that there was nothing she could give to reduce stress, that I would have to make life changes; one includes getting out of unhealthy relationship.. She did however give me medicine for the headaches.

So how does one get out of fight or flight mode? I've been there for years due to PTSD. I want to relax but honestly don't know how. I do in some ways...the relaxation CD's with breathing exercises, hot bath and such, but it lasts short term. Is there a way to learn to be less stressed?

In short all the stress has taken its toll on my body. I have had migraines since my teens and fibromyalgia for 4 years.

I do see a therapist. Just am hoping to get some ideas from y'all.


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