The "putting his junk on the highest shelf" doesn't work for us -- I'm considerably taller than my husband and when I have done that, he asks me to get it for him LOL!!! So instead of him just getting it and me never knowing, I have to handle it myself! Luckily my husband isn't a junk food addict, just a Nutella addict. For a long time, this was a big problem for me because I would stand there with a spoon in the Nutella - it's a calorie bomb and it's addictive so this was disastrous.
So what I did was brainwash myself that "I think Nutella is gross." Do I really think that? Well actually yeah. It worked pretty well. I told myself that enough times that I eventually believed it. Now when he eats it, it doesn't affect me at all. He doesn't even offer it to me since he knows I don't like it.
You could try that. Just tell yourself you "don't eat junk food, it's disgusting." You might be able to convince yourself :)
Well, when it comes to "his" snacks, you could just keep tossing them up on the highest shelf, out of sight out of mind...
but this "AND always with some special treat he knows that I like"... you'll have to do something about this. You have to tell him that although you appreciate the gesture, food-treats are just simply not-on right now... ask him - TELL HIM - to respect this request.
If he doesn't - the next time he comes home with something "just for you" - ask him, if he will be eating it? If so - high shelf. If he says no, it's for you hunny - say thank you, and then PUT IT IN THE GARBAGE. When he expresses shock and dismay, remind him that you DID ASK that he not bring these type of "treats" home. This might help him get the idea!
Honestly, just because it's there, you do NOT have any obligation to eat it. It just becomes a battle with your willpower, which doesn't feel good at ALL. I have been known to eat things that were "tempting me" just so they would be gone, so I wouldn't have to do that emotional-struggle-with-myself - it's hard! So i'd eat to be rid of that struggle. Sigh! If that's my only reason for consuming, it is something better off in the trash.
I HAVE had these kinds of issues with my spouse. About my 2nd or 3rd day in to my current "fix my life" effort, we went to a bakery-cafe for a "cup of coffee." I ordered coffee. HE ordered coffee and a HUGE greasy sugary apple fritter. The important thing in this story is - *He does not like apple fritters.* I am the apple fritter fan! But for him, they're his least favorite of the entire donut family! Soooo i sat there and drank my coffee. He picked at the fritter, offered to "share"... i said "no, not hungry, thanks anyways" (inside i was just dying lol). He tried to pawn it off on me several times. "You sure, it's really good..." as he picked and picked at the darn thing, eventually "are you SURE? it's just going to go to waste..." - and eventually we finished our coffee and left a half-eaten fritter on the table. SUCCESS.
In the subsequent couple of months, the sabotage ended and he's gotten on board... first by becoming "considerate" and more recently by jumping aboard the Healthy Train himself.
It is possible to deal with "spousal sabotage" but you have to be prepared to do what it takes to "Win" a few battles early on. They will get the point, once you show you are determined.
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55 3/12/13 1:18 P
Now that I think about it....I have asked him not to bring stuff home for financial reasons, but I guess I really haven't put it to him as a health risk. I'm sure he would try for a while, but I'm also pretty sure he'd break down eventually and go berserk. This is a man who's never had a weight issue. He was blessed with a super metabolism that, now at 50 has only just allowed him to gain 10 lbs. His is a whole different mind-set. I will try again though. And again, as I assume (yes I know I should never assume ) that this will be an on-going dance of reminders and will power.
Thanks Pookie, for making me think this one through :)
Have you flat out told him you can't do this without his support?
Heart laid bare and SAY you need to do this for your health, please buy me some delicious new fruit as a treat instead if he enjoys treating you.
I recently broke down (as in near tears) saying I needed my fiancÚ's help to do the right thing... no take-aways allowed etc.
And it worked when I made sure he knew how really 100% serious I was.
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55 3/12/13 12:27 P
Ok folks, I need some inspiration here.
My sweet hubby is practically perfect in every way but one. He's a junk food junkie. Now I have pretty good will power but not THAT good. I try to do all the grocery shopping but due to Lupus fatigue I sometimes need to rely on him for groceries and even when given a list, he comes home with at least 3 extra bags full of junk. AND always with some special treat he knows that I like. It's sweet but infuriating at times.
Has anyone else had to deal with something like this? If so what did you do, either to curb the influx of junk food or to bolster your will power to not just grab that "quick fix" when you are too tired to cook a decent meal?
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