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CHOCOHIPPO
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3/13/13 3:41 P

Hi.

I've done this too. You need to replace the negative self talk with something positive. For instance, instead of saying to yourself, "I always blow it at this point", say I have the tools to be successful this time. I'm going to celebrate my success so far. It takes some time, but a counselor I was seeing taught me this trick and I use it to this day. And you can see by this thread that there is support, understanding and no judgement where you are concerned. Good luck. I know you can do this.



ZOLETTE1
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3/12/13 11:11 P

You didn't develop this negative self-habit and dialog over night...you won't solve it over night either. You will however, re-frame the negative into something more positive and do it over and over again no matter how many times it takes! To win, you have to get up just one more time than you fell down! You can do it!!!



VSPLASH
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3/12/13 11:15 A

Perhaps the question you should ask is what am I afraid of.? Is it the fear of success or the fear of failure. What voices are telling you that you cannot or will not have a healthy body? Remember you have all the power to be successful and success for you may not be a particular number on the scale. It may just be getting past the first two weeks on a more disciplined plan. You may want take some time to rethink and re-organize your goals.



HAPPYMENOW58
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3/12/13 6:35 A

This is part of your weight loss journey...Hang in there..You are learning how to eat and how NOT to eat!! You can't learn everything all at once...So, calm down...and get right back on your program the very next meal....That's what thin people do!! They don't obsess about the extra pizza, piece of candy,etc....Remember to keep drinking a lot of water, think positively, and reward yourself with non food items such as a magazine or hand cream.....You CAN DO IT!!!!!! Say to yourself.....Eating a limited amount of food will give me a LIMITED BODY....Eating an unlimited amount of food will give me an UNLIMITED BODY!!!! Which body do you want....??



STARDUST2K4
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3/12/13 2:07 A

I do that too! A couple of weeks ago, I was down to 235lbs, and then I started sabotaging myself! It's so frustrating! And then today I ate a ton, and it seems like this entire month so far, I haven't been able to go more than about 2 days in a row without going over my calories. And then when I do go over my calories, it's always by a TON. I'm trying to reel it in before I gain some serious weight, but I'm really sick of this! I hate it! I think the most frustrating part of this is I KNOW that I feel so much better when I eat right combined with exercising properly. I guess I have a true addiction to food, and I should probably get help for it.



ACHIEVE2012
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3/11/13 9:09 P

Hi Kittkat,

Start by examining what you did in those 2 weeks that you saw success. Was it that you severely restricted your calories or deprived yourself of everything you normally eat? In short, went on a “diet”?

Did you exercise too intensely in those 2 weeks? If you exercised very intensely coupled with restricted diet, that will take a toll on the body and force you to take notice by increasing your appetite since your body would want you to replenish the nutrients that it needed and didn’t get and overcome the tiredness.

Psychological aspect of it should not be ignored either. Sometimes, we give ourselves a pity party for being so “good” and exercising and restricting food, the time spent on exercise, preparing food, that is pretty much on our minds the whole time. It all becomes too much and there starts the downfall.

For next time, be prepared for this issue to crop up. Write down a plan for workout on a calendar for 2 weeks. So you can be sure that it is feasible and not overly exhaustive. Plan meals for 2 weeks. Make sure to include atleast a few of your favorite foods. And not be very restrictive. But do mind your portion sizes. Since it is only for 2 weeks, it wont feel as overwhelming.

By the middle of the 2nd week, anticipate how you usually feel by week 2 and plan some activities that will take your mind off from this downfall. You could reward yourself with a hike with a buddy, a new workout clothing, a salad place lunch/dinner with a friend, movie (minus the popcorn), etc… Have some healthy snacks in the house so if the binge monster attacks, you show the monster who is in charge now!

You can do this!

I also wrote a blog on binge eating with reasons I could think of for why we binge. If you are interested please check out the blog through my sparkpage.






CJYOUCANDOIT
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3/11/13 8:57 P

I have also self sabotaged. It is one of the meanest things I do to myself. I have found that I need to take each incident and work through it. I am very stubborn and it is not easy to deal with myself. But as soon as I recognize what I am doing I try to figure out why I did what I did and try to come up with a plan so I don't do it again. I am just going to keep tracking and exercising and working through this until I am successful.



64CHEVYGIRL
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3/11/13 8:47 P

I wish I thought to come here before my own munchies binge struck! I tracked it all and realized that I'm human and it's 700 calories that I can take back. I have to be grateful that I've done really well even over the weekend which is usually my hard time and move on from here. I feel icky and will remember this feeling when (hopefully a log time from now) this strikes again.

Don't look back, but move forward and we'll be okay!





AMDODSON12
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3/11/13 7:45 P

I too have been a self-saboteur and this time I managed to pull through. not because I didn't have binge days because I did but because I tracked the days I binged (as painful as it was) and then decided to get back on track. The binge days became further apart and I realized that physically I do not feel well for a day or so after. What I try to do when I feel a craving coming on is drink water and tell myself that the craving will only last 15 minutes and then I stay away from the kitchen. Also I don't have any food that is off limits I just make sure to track it. You can get past this moment-keep working hard.



SP_COACH_NANCY
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3/11/13 6:00 P

Hi KITTKAT,

Unlocking the door as to why we binge is probably one of the toughest parts of the journey.

First of all recognize that many times we are led to a binge because physiologically we allowed ourselves to get too hungry therefore as the old saying goes when we are exposed to food, many times "our eyes are bigger than our stomachs."

Secondly, you must really decide if you are truly hungry, or if you are eating out of stress, boredom, because you are tired or lonely, etc, etc. This is honing in on what I call, "the why we do, what we do, when we do it" scenario. This is where keeping a journal is a VERY helpful tool as it will help you see if there is a pattern with your bingeing.

Thirdly, know that when we continually deprive ourselves or make certain foods off limits, many times this draws us even more so to them. There are no 'good' foods or 'bad' foods, just choices. But if you allow yourself to occasionally have them (this is where planning is key), they no longer carry the stigma of thinking this will be it. And of course for me that meant I was less then perfect, therefore I would allow guilt to move, therefore I would abandon my plan until I was ready to try to lose weight again...no more.

Lastly, know that you are in full control over the food. In other words, food does not have control over us unless we allow it to.

I hope this helps!

Coach Nancy



KITTKAT
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3/11/13 4:47 P

I don't know what my issue is, but whenever I see some success (usually at about the 2 week mark) I immediately start self sabotaging and almost binge eating! Anyone else? Any suggestions?



 
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