I dealt with this in weight watchers all the time with other members. Using the "well, i already screwed up" excuse is going to failure. What we were told was ok, I screwed up. I made a mistake. So the next thing that I put in my mouth or the next thing that I do will be within my plan. Think carefully. Why are you on this journey? What is your BIG WHY? My BIG WHY is big enough to help me through just about every situation. That is not to say that sometimes I falter and have to climb back on the wagon. We are all human to say the least. This is a journey. It is a lifestyle change and sometimes we do falter. It is more on how you respond to the faltering. If you take the attitude" well I already screwed up, so I will just give up" you are just hurting yourself. But if you take the attitude OOPS, I slipped, now the next thing I eat or the next movement I make will be good for me" then you learned something.
Also, you may want to consider what you eat to be less strict. A perfectionist ideal is what often causes us to just stop everything for an entire day. I've read a few times (most recently in Women's Health) that it's better to take an 80/20 approach to it. Eat well at least 80% of the time and you're probably going to be just fine.
This means that when I get a craving for a cupcake and I make myself a bit of buttercream frosting and eat that instead, I'm ok with it. Not because what I did was GOOD for me, but because I'm not doing this to never enjoy food again. I'm trying to find a healthy balance for me, that includes food that I enjoy along with foods that fuel my body properly.
And I really just wanted the frosting on the cupcake anyway.
" every now and then, we might slip up while doing the dishes, breaking a glass. We wouldn't say "well, I've already screwed up" and then take the rest of the dishes out of the cabinet and throw them on the floor. "
Ha! Now that you mention it, that'd be kind of fun. But I suppose that's what got me to this size to begin with.
7/1/13 9:39 P
"Regarding "I already screwed up", I read on here once (and it really stuck with me): every now and then, we might slip up while doing the dishes, breaking a glass. We wouldn't say "well, I've already screwed up" and then take the rest of the dishes out of the cabinet and throw them on the floor. We clean up the single broken glass and we go on with our day. There's no good in destroying everything when we make a small mistake."
THAT is a brilliant analogy! I love it!!!! Thank you so much for posting that!
Thanks for all the positive thoughts and advice I've received so far. It changes your persepctive to read what others think and write. I appreciate it all. Now I'm getting all teary-eyed...darn hormones!
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3,005 7/1/13 1:39 P
I thought I had written this is my sleep! No advice for you because I am going through the same thing. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone.
The last dejected effort often becomes the winning stroke.
Regarding "I already screwed up", I read on here once (and it really stuck with me): every now and then, we might slip up while doing the dishes, breaking a glass. We wouldn't say "well, I've already screwed up" and then take the rest of the dishes out of the cabinet and throw them on the floor. We clean up the single broken glass and we go on with our day. There's no good in destroying everything when we make a small mistake.
As you've found by putting weight back on, there IS a difference when you make a decision to keep making bad choices (and saying "well, you already screwed up today, what difference does it make" IS a conscious decision), and by your post here you know what you need to do. Sometimes this journey is hard, sometimes we don't wanna, sometimes we make bad decisions; sometimes you need to tell yourself it's ok to not be perfect, but your next decision needs to be a good one. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.
YOU CAN DO THIS!
Do something everyday that your future self will thank you for.
7/1/13 11:37 A
Every day, and every moment in every day, is a chance to build momentum. If you feel like you messed up at breakfast, think "I can do better at lunch." Don't think of the day being ruined because it didn't go according to plan. That setback is a chance to regroup and refocus and focus on what you DID right, and what you CAN do right!
You're already achieving a great deal of success! Keep thinking of what you've done right, not what you think you've done wrong. You can do this!!!!
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7/1/13 11:03 A
You have done so well thus far, I do not think a swift kick is needed. You have all the tools you need to be successful (clearly). Maybe you just needed a vacation from the focus of diet/exercise. Sounds like you are now ready to recommit. Think about why you started and what your goals are. Try deep breathing and meditation. Try pre-planning a day's meals and see if that helps. Good luck.
7/1/13 10:36 A
I'm totally out of control! I haven't been tracking my food, have all but given up on exercising, I'm eating like a pig and have put 10# bak on! I need help! I'm catching myself saying "well, you already screwed up today, what difference does it make" and I still keep eating and eating. I need a good swift kick in the butt to get me back on track.
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