They are probably lovely, and everyone loves being complimented, so they won't be rude if you approach them. When I get comments at the gym I am more confused than anything else, so I stare blankly until I realise what they are saying is directed at me. Then I am flattered!
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I agree wi Nausikaa that most fit people take pride in their fitness level and would be flattered and willing to talk. I would start by spotting them finishing up on one of the machines you would like to try and asking them About it. Let them know that you admire their fitness level and would like to try some of the machines they use.
My sister-in-law is a fitness junky and she LOVES to talk about it. It's one of the very few things that I have in common with her.
I wish I could say that yes, this has happened to me -- but it hasn't, not yet anyway. I go to the gym first thing in the morning which is not really common around here, here the busy time is in the evenings. There are many mornings when there are only 2 or 3 other people there, mostly retirees who are doing totally different types of stuff. I wish there were some other people more my "genre" of fitness. It can be lonely at times!
I have been on the other side of this though. I have been approached a few times by women who are just starting about how to do a specific exercise or how to lose weight or how to get stronger, etc, and while I admit that I probably am not the most approachable looking person, they have found the courage to talk to me haha! I have a bit of a "mean face" when I work out LOL!! But I am always very chatty when this happens because we "fit girls" LOVE LOVE LOVE fitness and talking about fitness!! So I would say, don't be afraid to approach someone - just be sensitive to the fact that obviously if they're in the middle of a set, you don't interrupt, and most of us are on a bit of a tight schedule so don't expect them to be able to talk long - but many of us gym rats would love to talk to fellow fitness-minded person for a few minutes. And anyone with earbuds is completely off limits.
I suppose you could strike up a conversation in the non-workout areas as well - like the locker room, the gym lobby, etc.
I wish there were more people at my gym to talk to, to be honest. Outside of the gym, I don't know any fit people really. My entire "fitness community" is online basically, plus the owner of my gym. I am really excited that a friend asked me to work out with him once or twice a week, I'm looking forward to a break from the silence!
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Some people are genetically blessed with better muscle definition. There are also people who value looking good more than you might. I would ask them if it were me!
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I hear ya. There is a lady at my group power weight lifting class that is so fit.....and has serious muscles going on. I would love to pick her brain for ideas. I have chatted with her a litte at the spin class we take.
Most people are approachable and flattered to be asked about their workouts.
Wait until they've finished their routine, don't interrupt the middle of it. and then when they're nearly done stretching go over and say something like "Hi, you girls look really impressive, I would love to know how you got started getting to the fitness you are now. Do you mind telling me about it?"
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At the gym I go to there are a couple gals that are extremely fit and I'd love to pick their brain on their routines, how they started, etc. but I'm far from being in their fitness league and don't use all the weights/machines they use so its not like I'm working out right next to them to strike up a conversation. The other thing is I don't feel like they are easily approachable.
Has anyone else been inspired by someone at their gym that you wanted to get to know them better? How did you approach them?
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