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EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
8/11/13 9:52 P

emoticon Sorry to read of the passing of your dad. It is very life altering when we lose our parents. Hope you give yourself all the time you need to grieve as there are no rules in grieving. Would second the suggestion of PP and think maybe a grief counselor, pastor or support group, friends or even perhaps a family doctor might be helpful to talk to. Be peaceful.

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8/11/13 4:24 P

A grief counselor, Pastor or support group might be helpful.

Also, it has been helpful to talk with friends who
have and are also dealing with the same.

emoticon and prayers.



EOWYN2424 Posts: 5,769
8/11/13 5:03 A

I'm so sorry for the loss of all your loved ones mentioned here. I lost 3 grandparents over the course of several years. It still doesn't feel real to me either. I keep thinking that they can't be really gone, but they are. Hugs to all of you! Just know that they're all watching over us!

GRAPHICS2 Posts: 3,225
8/10/13 10:47 P

I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. Its been short time, and what you are experiencing seems quite normal. Your grief journey has started, and you will have to be gentle with yourself as you go through the different stages.
Its good that your are sharing with us, but if there is a grief support group in your area, it would be good to join.
I am here for you.

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8/10/13 6:57 P

Grieving is a multi stage process and it takes time time to go through each stage. Have you ever considered speaking to a grief counsellor?

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,066
8/10/13 6:56 P

the best way to honor your lost one is
to live in a way that you know would make them proud. emoticon

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8/10/13 3:10 P

So sorry for everyone's loss here. It's unfortunate part of life.

I guess the only thing I can offer is it will get less awful with the passing of time.

You are reeling now; don't make any major life decisions for a while if you can help it. I know for me, I was in a bit of a fog for a good six mos...things like losing my keys, forgetting stuff, etc. would happen. Your brain as well as your heart is still trying to process all this.

Realize it's perfectly normal to walk through a store and think, "Oh, Dad would love that!" As you reach for the item, you realize he's not here for you to buy it for him. Kinda jolting, but when that happens, smile a little smile and picture him in a pleasant moment, remembering something special or dear about him.

Eventually, the happy memories will outweigh the grief, and that is I'm sure how your Dad would want it.

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GYPSYJEWEL Posts: 115
8/10/13 1:26 P

so sorry for ur loss ive lost both my parents and feel similar to u if u need anything im here

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FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,855
8/10/13 1:14 P

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how you feel I lost my mother last July and it still doesn't seem real to me. We all grieve differently I wasn't able to visit her because my family is so dysfunctional.
I try to think of her as home but I'm not able to visit like before she passed away, I find it to be a little easier that way, but there are times a commercial will come on and something little will remind me of her and I'll cry or if I see a hummingbird in the backyard her favorite it will make me cry.
Sometimes when I think I'm okay it will just hit me and I'll cry for hours, I don't think it ever leaves you, but you know that he'd want you to be healthy and happy, he'd want you to take care of yourself and move forward with your life and thrive.
I hope things get a little better for you and you find some peace and realize he wouldn't want you to torture yourself, try remembering the good times live them out in your heart and do something that you'd of both enjoyed doing together and think to yourself I know you'd of enjoyed that to dad thats why it's making me happy. He's always with you watching over you hoping you find your way without his presence.
God Bless!

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8/10/13 1:02 P

LOSE4LIFE47: oh no *hug* That is so recent I imagine it feels like yesterday. I am also sorry for your loss. The first few days were really hard for me too; lots of reaching to call someone who isn't there. I hope you keep going.

MOM2ACAT: I am sorry for your loss as well. Congratulations on staying healthy with some other serious challenges. Thank you so much.

LOSE4LIFE47 Posts: 39,183
8/10/13 12:15 P

emoticon emoticon I understand how you feel dear. My husband passed away July 3--about 5 weeks ago & it is a hard time I know. I don't always eat right either.

Edited by: LOSE4LIFE47 at: 8/10/2013 (12:16)
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8/10/13 12:09 P

I am so sorry. I lost my dad 2 years ago this month. I still have days where it doesn't seem real.

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8/10/13 11:49 A

I am so very sorry for your loss as well. Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate your response.

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8/10/13 11:17 A

I can so relate. In 2010, I lost my father on April Fools Day, 4 months later my husband passed away.

It was a real difficult time for me. I stopped working out and ate a lot.

I am here if you need anything.

MARIEWINDSORA SparkPoints: (25,486)
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8/10/13 11:12 A

Hi ... I lost my Dad in March. I'm having a really hard time. My eating is all over the place, some days better than others. I feel like his death isn't even real.

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