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SARALEE11 Posts: 1,085
5/1/12 1:42 P

I like the tire analagy too. I heard a similar one that helps me make it to the end of the day...

If you got pulled over for speeding, would you just break all laws the rest of the day? NO! You would even drive a little more cautiously and "mindfully".

When I do blow it ... refill my bowl of cereal, or eat a couple of pieces of bread w peanutbutter, or eat (2) skinny cows.. lol.. usually if I run to the tracker.. I see I'm not all that off course. I may just have to tighten up on the carbs for the rest of the day... eat a nice lean meat & veggies for dinner, and poof.. it was a great day afterall!!



Edited by: SARALEE11 at: 5/1/2012 (13:43)
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5/1/12 11:30 A

I'm still in the process of getting out of the "diet" mentality, but I really think it's about changing the way you think about what you can't or don't have and what you want. Instead of saying "I want a donut but I can't have it" say to yourself "I want to feel good for the rest of the day, and I don't want a sugar crash this afternoon, so what I really want is a healthy breakfast."

I can't make myself stick to a healthy diet if all I focus on is numbers. Instead, I focus on how I feel now and how I want to feel later...and that makes eating healthy something I WANT to do instead of something I HAVE to do.


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5/1/12 10:50 A

Once I stopped thinking "bad" foods are good and "good" foods are bad, I was able to stay off the binge/purge cycle much longer. What I came to realize (unfortunately after many many years) is that I really LIKE healthy food. I am not really a foodie- I just like to eat. So, I eat all I want- of lean protein, fruit, veggies, and whole grains. And by doing so, I have been able to avoid the cravings for garbage,sustain a normal wt. It sounds so simple, but took me a long time to figure out. DUH!

CONFIDENTCHIX Posts: 14
5/1/12 6:04 A

i once heard someone say that the word diet, has the word "die" in it. lol, I concur !!! Diets do not promote LIFE .

SUZYQSINGS Posts: 97
4/30/12 11:09 P

as I was gagging on yogurt today I was desparately craving donuts and cheetos.. emoticon Only eating yogurt because it's healthy food. Gross stuff. Making myself eat foods I dislike because they are appropriate "diet" foods is counterproductive for me and makes me feel VERY deprived.

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4/30/12 5:39 P

I hate the word "diet". It immediately evokes a feeling of being restricted. Not good. I eat anything I want, it's all about portion size. My food intake & fitness plan is called "my lifestyle", not a diet.

SUSANS706 SparkPoints: (46,011)
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4/30/12 4:09 P

Loving the tire analogy, I really need that one, and plan on using it in the future. I always do that, throw in my whole day when I blow it! Thank you for sharing that one!

HEIDIANKRUM Posts: 312
4/30/12 11:44 A

I used to have the same problem. Once I realized, that what I'm doing now is not a diet, but a lifestyle change, it became easier to say, "I want to eat ???, so I will eat a smaller portion of it, account for the calories, and adjust the rest of my meals accordingly." You can do it! Keep at it.

AMANDAMYCHELLE SparkPoints: (5,496)
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4/30/12 11:41 A

That is a GREAT analogy about the tires! So true! I am going to start using that when I mess up, thanks for remembering it and posting it, even if you couldn't remember where you got it from! Very good post! : )

RABBLERRABBIT Posts: 353
4/30/12 9:12 A

I follow the advice of my doctor and dietician (you may have heard similar advice elsewhere):
Look to put things INTO your meals: veggies, fruit, whole grains, water, water, water, and be aware of what you're doing. That will keep you busy! Don't ban anything (except in my case, it's doctor's orders to not eat red meat and saturated fat): indulge when you have to.

DMJAKES Posts: 1,605
4/30/12 8:24 A

Mountaingirl - looks like you're moving in the righ direction....

You mentioned in your first post that if you felt as if you'd blown it for the day, you'd not track it and then go totally off course. Someone posted a great analogy regarding this (wish I could remember who it was--I'd give them the credit). If you have a flat tire, do you pull off the road and think to yourself that since one tire is bad you may as well flatten the other three as well? Or, do you get out the spare and keep moving? I try to bring that picture to mind whenever I make a poor choice and it's bugging me.

MOUNTAINGIRL41 Posts: 139
4/30/12 7:57 A

So another update -- yesterday was back to my normal pattern of intake. I tried to be mindful of the differences I felt. Both days I was within my calorie range but the day I included my movie night treats left me feeling bloated and uncomfortable --I guess due to the high sodium and consuming so many calories that late in the day. Yesterday left me feeling balanced and more energetic. No regrets to my movie night but I am glad I was able to go back on track and feel the difference of eating empty calories versus nutrition packed calories.

I know people like to steer clear of words like "clean" eating or labeling foods "bad" or "good," but, for me, not all foods are created equal. Some leave me feeling sluggish and bloated and some give me a feeling of overall health and increased energy.

I do plan to regularly include all foods that I like but in moderation and only after planning for it. I also plan to keep trying substitutions to provide the taste I am looking for without the high number of calories. (I made an awesome buffalo chicken salad that gave me the wing taste I was craving without do much damage calorie-wise.) I think this is what I need to do to get to feeling like this a new lifestyle not a temporary diet.

I agree with a previous poster that cutting out whole classes of foods for forever is probably not sustainable for most of us.


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4/30/12 7:56 A

For me the word 'diet' makes me feel as if this is a temp way of life. As if as soon as I've got where I need to be I can go back to the way I was

This can't happen, I prefer to use the term 'way of life' as I know this has to be perm for me to succeed. I can't ever go back to eating the foods I ate 'pre diet'

MRSWCISEL Posts: 35
4/30/12 7:52 A

Now that I've been at it for several months, it definitely has become more of a lifestyle choice instead of a diet. I look at the food that is processed and unhealthy for me and I can just tell myself that I don't eat that stuff anymore (on most days that is, I'm not completely against treats from time to time!). Walking and working out has just become part of a routine that I do now and eating healthy is the choice that I make in order to be a healthier person. =)

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4/30/12 7:16 A

Yes, it has become more of a way of life than a diet, for me.

Went to a lunch party yesterday, and used a wrap instead of one of those humungous rolls to wrap my cheese and salad in, with some mustard. Took a small taste of the chili since it was home-made and not store-bought; had more salad (no salad dressing) and a little fruit salad for dessert. As my contribution, I brought "portobello pizzas" -- mushroom caps with tomato sauce/oregano (no sugar added), topped in most cases with a little mozzerella, and some with an addition of onion, chopped olive, drained chopped artichoke heart, bits of fennel frond, and/or small smidges of a spicy beef stick from a pastured source -- made it look like mini-pepperoni. Bake for 20 min at 350, and good to go, and definitely filling on my nutritional plan.

While I probably ended up with more sodium than normal, and I ate some of the pasta in the pasta salad, I kept it healthy but adventurous. I steered away, no problem, from the processed deli meats and the outright desserts. And my mushroom dish was well-received.

One gets beyond a diet mentality of automatic yes or no, and eats in balance. It becomes fun, actually.


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4/30/12 6:07 A

You're doing EXACTLY what I've been doing to try to have a healthier attitude towards food, and it's WORKED. I used to be a "black and white" type of eater, but now I'm seeing a little more grey, and it's not a bad thing.

One of the foods that I'd just dive into before is ice cream. I didn't meet a threesome with Ben and Jerry I didn't like. However, this time around, I got a store brand ice cream that has a little sweet and a little tart in it (lemon strawberry) and that had MUCH fewer calories and fat than any of the B&J flavors. A half gallon lasts me a week and a half these days, because when I record it, I know that's all I can have, so I make sure that it's satisfying. Before I decided to really get healthy, I could down a half gallon of ice cream in two days.

That kind of "training" helped me when I was at a cookout this weekend. I had a hot dog and a small brownie as part of my meal, but I also made sure that I had green peppers, carrots and tomatoes as well. My stomach didn't react well to the hot dog and I went over my sodium limit for the day, but I still was able to enjoy those kinds foods in moderation. For me, that was a triumph!

I'm not sure if what I did will work for you, but whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck in learning how to eat in moderation. It's not easy, but I'm so glad I'm finally learning that lesson myself.

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4/30/12 4:44 A

Im right there with you all! I feel your pain. I can't seem to just "live differently". If I am eating healthy and exercising then I am on a diet. If I eat something unhealthy I have fallen off the wagon. I don't know how to get over that mentality. Let me know what works for you.

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4/30/12 4:24 A

The subject of food and diet is obviously a personal issue for everybody that we all have to deal with. For me I think there is a big difference between good and bad foods. However, I like to label them as more healthy and less healthy as opposed to good and bad. I can eat less healthy foods but just not all the time or as the majority of my diet. Some foods have a lot more nutrients than others for the same amount of calories. Also a calorie of fat is not the same as a calorie of protein or carbs. If you have excess calories you will gain weight. If you have a deficit you will lose weight. However, each has a specific job to do in the body and they are not always interchangeable. Fat will never provide the amino acids needed to build muscle so now I have extra calories that would have been used up by my body but instead I have to find another way to get rid of them like additional exercise. I am deployed military overseas so I can't make any of my own food and have to eat at a dining facility. For lunch I had 4 oz of baked fish, 1/2 cup of grean beans, 1/2 cup summer squash, 1/2 cup of white rice (they didn't have brown rice today) and 2 hot wings. The hot wings are very low on the healthy scale but based on the rest of the meal I could eat them and keep my total intake of calories and nutrient ratios within normal limits. Although it is true that you can eat most foods in normal portions and exercise and maintain weight, this is not equal to eating more healthy foods. I am not saying it is wrong, but eating more of the "more healthy foods" and less of the "less healthy foods" will cause you to lose weight faster and gain muscle faster (if that is part of your plan - which ultimately burns more calories anyway). Again you don't have to cut out unhealthy foods altogther but if you limit them and eat more fruits/vegs, lean proteins and complex carbs, you will lose weight faster. This can be daunting for a beginner and we want to avoid discouragement so in my opinion the best advice is to start slowly to shift your eating habits. Smaller portions and start including more vegetables in your meals as well as fruit for snacks in between meals so you aren't so hungry at meal time. If you make it too restrictive, it is too difficult to maintain, but don't discount the benefits that come from choosing a higher percentage of healthy foods.

BILBYGIRL Posts: 980
4/30/12 1:29 A

I freak out every time I read somebody giving advice to a newbie in particular about protien powders and the like that they 'need'. Since when isn't low fat protien a reasonable thing? I figure that if we are attempting to get healthy, that means eating healthy foods - ie - the less processing the better! Mind you - I also think there's space for high calorie foods just less often.

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4/30/12 1:17 A

I am so sick of value judgements about what foods are good or bad. Food isn't good or bad it just is! No need to deny myself anything if I'm keeping up with my exercise and eating reasonable portions.

MEGAPEEJ Posts: 732
4/29/12 10:05 P

My friend at work is on WW, and I've obviously been doing the SP program. A third friend asked "how can you do it? How can you give up so many great foods?" I was so surprised at the question and replied that I hadn't given up anything - I'm still eating everything I want to eat, but since I plan for it and I've learned to recognize an appropriate serving size, so I don't go overboard. If I want cake I'll eat cake - not 1/4 of a cake and not everyday, but I fit it in to my tracker and maybe have a smaller serving of rice with dinner. It's also helped my husband be more on board as he sees we're eating normal foods, but we're eating serving sizes for one, rather than 2 or 3.

The WW friend is much more extreme and has cut out a lot of foods - that would not be sustainable for me, as soon as a food is "off limits" it becomes all I want or think about. I don't ever want to think of any foods as being "bad", "wrong", "dirty", etc. Food is good.

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4/29/12 3:53 P

What has really helped for me is trying to pre-plan and pre-track meals so that I know what am eating ahead of time. That allows me to either work in something that I know I want, like your movie popcorn and candy, or allows me to leave a good portion of calories available for an evening out.

I have already made tomorrow's breakfast and lunch, and put them on my tracker, along with the snacks that I have in my desk at work. I know I am going to my book club tomorrow night, and that there will be wine and all sorts of tempting things, so I purposefully planned a lunch with fewer calories than I would normally bring to work.

It's not a diet for me at this point, it is about making choices. I am choosing to have a glass of wine tomorrow night, and I am also choosing NOT to eat a heavy lunch. The way I got into this mess was by not making choices, just acting blindly without giving a thought to the long-term results of my actions.


USHAMATT Posts: 102
4/29/12 3:41 P

Instead of thinking of 'good' food and 'bad' food or 'clean' food or 'dirty' food, I tell myself that nothing is off limits forever. I can eat a piece of chocolate but not because I am hungry, but because a little treat is fine. When I am hungry I eat a well planned meal that satisfies my taste and fills me up.
It takes 3,500 calories to gain one pound of fat. If I eat something I hadn't planned, it is a diversion. It is rarely 3,500 calories. It isn't bad or dirty. I haven't blown it. I can get back on track just as if I am driving and take a wrong turn I don't have to continue down that path. I stop and turn around. The sooner I turn around, the sooner I will make it to my destination.
I don't have to wait til Monday,the weekend, a new month or a new year.


Edited by: USHAMATT at: 4/29/2012 (15:45)
COOKINGGRANNY Posts: 518
4/29/12 3:16 P

I try to think of it as eating healthy. In my mind I think of food as being dirty food and clean food. I always remind myself that I have the choice of what I will eat.

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LIZBETH99 Posts: 292
4/29/12 1:05 P

Someone mentioned it before........Sustainability, and something else for me is SUbstitution....If I want to succed at a healthy lifestyle I find that When I want something I have to have it.. or I fail every time. If I want that potatoe chip I have it..or even a couple.......but I don't have the whole bag. Usually that is enough to end a craving. If I'm at a party, instead of a hugh slice of cake I take a really thin piece, I don't ever feel deprived. I also try to substitute healthy. Veggie burger for a hamburger, etc

SUSANK16 Posts: 494
4/29/12 1:05 P

I support Griz1girl 100%.....lifestyle changes has no end date .... and that in itself makes every goal attainable. As long as you are living healthy your goal is attained!!!

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4/29/12 12:53 P

That's really what SP is all about--teaching you to make a Healthy Lifestyle Change, instead of helping you diet!

The lesson to remember is that a diet has an end...you reach the goal weight & stop dieting. Living a Healthy Lifestyle there IS NO END DATE. You don't ever get to stop exercising & eating healthy to stay thin & fit.

It's never over...that's the difference between living healthy & dieting.

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4/29/12 11:44 A

I'm an all-or-nothing eater and actually went to counseling for over a year to help out with my binging. I have found that focusing on not binging is more helpful than dieting. I don't let myself think about the new fad diets, or the new "superfoods" or supplements. Instead, I eat what I want, in moderation. And I make an effort to eat REAL foods, like fresh veggies, pasta, dairy, a little meat, and good fats. I find real food is more filling and healthy overall, no matter what. But I still have a candy bar if I really want it. I track most days, but if I feel the numbers are driving me crazy, then I stop. Its all in my head, so I use my head to solve the problem..

Basically when I stop "dieting" and start eating real foods, with occasional real treats, and focusing on activities and fun (instead of dieting), I generally eat better and less.

SUSANK16 Posts: 494
4/29/12 11:31 A

This is what I did. I decided that I wanted to take off some weight. However I knew that I have failed in the past by being to restrictive. The key word for me is sustainability. Can I sustain the changes that I make in my diet and exercise for a lifetime. If so, I incorporate them. If not, I do not. This has made the changes in life easy and acceptable.

FORESTGHOUL Posts: 569
4/29/12 8:58 A

"Diet" is the dirty word here. certain foods are "bad" because that's what the diet industry has led us to believe. In my opinion a food should never be "off limits" unless you are allergic to it or just plain don't like it. Moderation is key.
I've found that if i allow something often enough it becomes less appealing or less "naughty." for example, somehow in the last couple years i've become obsessed with different varieties of chocolate (wasn't before). so i allow myself 1 or maybe 2 pieces a day. now it's only "naughty" when i have say, 5. it's just what i do. over time now i've found that some days I'm not even in the mood for it so i just don't have any.
Or the flip side of that: I have some things in such moderation that they are that much more enjoyable to me. Example: if i'm going out for a burger, a drive-thru is a waste of time. I will go to an actual restaurant, where they actually ask how you want it cooked, once or probably twice a month and top it with whatever i might be in the mood for. (i recently visited a Fudruckers. oh, dear. that concept is genius!!!) or in the summer we grill our own homemade burgers quite often.
sometimes i even forget about somethings i used to love, some cookie or chip. one day i might pick up a small bag of something i haven't had in say over a year or 2 and when i eat it, somehow it doesn't seem as great as i remember, because i've found better alternatives.

MOUNTAINGIRL41 Posts: 139
4/28/12 10:25 P

So here is my follow-up -- it is the end of my day out here in Rockies. Had my planned foods without going into a tailspin. Since I had planned them into my day, the "voodoo" surrounding them was banished -- they were just simply foods I fit in. Getting off the diet mentality of not being to eat certain foods.

In case you were worried - it was not an entire batch of cookie dough or anything. It was movie night with my kids. I wanted to be able to have some regular oil-popped popcorn and a pre-portioned amount of the "movie" candy. In the past, this would turned into "might as well order in wings, pizza, and have 5 kinds of candy."

Part of this journey is teaching my kids that -- if one eats a predominantly healthy diet -- occasional treats are fine. That message was NOT taught to me by my parents. I want to give my children a different legacy with food than was given to me.

That being said, although I think any food can fit into your day if you plan around it, I do feel better on my "normal" foods.

I liked hearing everyone's thoughts and think this is a common issue for a lot of us! Good night to everyone and here is to another great day tomorrow!




SUZYQSINGS Posts: 97
4/28/12 10:22 P

let's not overthink the word diet. The word simply means "what you eat". I am choosing healthy foods over most junk or nutrition-poor foods. I don't want to get caught up in definitions. My focus is staying within a certain calorie range and nutritional parameters. This is my fifth day on my program, I will weigh in tomorrow. Been doing well but having the Sweet Tooth from H*ll, it's been hard not to plunge my head into a bag of donuts and gobble til I'm sick. Ok there's an attractive image. emoticon

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4/28/12 10:02 P

I'm a compulsive eater and when I add the stress of "beling on a program" I tend to wig out at some point. I've done WW, Medifast, HCG and so forth. At some point, the deprivation mindset takes me out and I regain what I've lost.

I'm not an RD but I worked under public health nutritionists and dieticians for 5 years and know darn well what's good and whats...not so good. So this time around, I'm setting a different goal. I must have my 5 a Day (vegetables and fruits) and my fiber. I'm also trying to get my protein needs met. Beyond that, I'm counting calories and keeping within my limit regardless of whether I take up those remaining calories with cookies or an apple.

I'm also pushing the exercise goal, even if I have to march in place in my living room. Since this is my first week and I don't have a scale, I don't know if I"m making any progress. I'm trying to creep up on it.

PIXIEWIXIE Posts: 255
4/28/12 6:46 P

MEMEME75 is singing my song. I could have written her post. I try to buy pre-portioned goodies because I'm still learning control, e.g. I'd prefer a box of cookies packed in 2-cookie sachets than a whole sleeve that would require more determination. I like my chocolates individually wrapped rather than a whole bar where I have to eat only one or two squares and resist the rest. For me nothing is off limits. Now that people have noticed I'm losing they sometimes ask me, "What are you eating?" and the reply, "Everything," sounds a little smug. But it's amazing in its simplicity. I also don't make any change to my diet or lifestyle that I can't sustain. That keeps me from falling into the temporary, diet mentality. As I go along I find things I was loathe to let go of in the beginning are now falling away on their own.
I hope you find your own sustainable solution.

DIETER27 Posts: 6,415
4/28/12 5:19 P

I also am a true believer that it is a lifestyle change. I loathe the word diet. When people use the word diet with me i state it is not a diet it is a lifestle cahnge. That mentality has kept my determination going through good and bad days.

TACDGB Posts: 6,132
4/28/12 4:20 P

I am a true believer that it is a life style change and not a diet. When I realized that I was in control of what I ate and the food was not in control of me things started to get better. When I realized that eating from an emotional place only cause more pain and it wasn't worth it I did better.

MEMEME75 Posts: 658
4/28/12 3:58 P

I hate the word diet. I don't use it. When people ask if I am on a diet I tell them no, I am just eating the right amounts.

The only way I can do this is telling myself that I can eat anything I want to. Anything doesn't mean any amount. That's the hard part to learn and follow. Some days are better than others,

Eating any amount of anything I want is why I am here losing all this weight, So, truly I don't believe in the idea of diet and things that are off limits, because as we all know as soon as you put something on the do not eat ever again list, you go out and buy 10 more to eat (...but that's the last...!) It really is about making conscious choices.

And,a big part towards getting away from the emotional eating is telling myself it is okay that I over did it today or 2 days. I can choose now to get back on track.

PACIFIC_PEARL Posts: 135
4/28/12 3:28 P

I loathe the word "diet". It conjures up images of lettuce, carrots, celery and not much else.

I think it's fantastic that you're planning for higher calorie foods, because you're right. You have to allow for these foods in order to maintain this lifestyle long term, and that is the keyword. Lifestyle.

A "diet" implies an eating plan that lasts for a period of time usually followed by everything turning to custard again, and the return of any weight lost and then some. A "lifestyle" implies the style in which you choose to live your life - for the rest of your life.

I've gone from living on fast food and energy drinks to having rice, tuna, rye crackers, salad, fruit, yoghurt and so on. At first you feel like you're on a diet, but as Gravelridgeboy says, after a while your appetite decreases, and you become used to your new way of eating. It no longer feels like a diet, but your new way of eating in which you nourish and respect your body.

I'm only just starting to introduce a square of dark chocolate now and then, the first allownce I've made for anything even remotely related to my old eating habits. The truth is, I love the way I eat now. It doesn't FEEL like a diet, although I'm sure to everyone else it LOOKS like one,

I eat a balanced diet. I achieve all my goals for calories, carbs, fats and protein. They are foods I enjoy and I don't feel hungry all the time, and really, that's all that matters.

I think it's very important to plan for higher calorie foods into your lifestyle, but I also think it can be a double edged sword. I refuse to call them treat foods, beause that implies that they are somehow a reward. For all the foods I used to love, there are "healthier" alternatives.

The way I eat now is the way I want to eat for the rest of my life. When we become obsessed with how to fit high calorie, high fat, high salt foods that are of little or no nutritional value into our lifestyle, then we need to evaluate our goals and plan of action. Of course there will be occassions that we should allow for it, but we need to find a balance between what is going to help us reach our goals and maintain them long term, and what we enjoy, because food is the key to losing weight. Exercise alone will not bring us long term weight loss, we need to get the food sorted out.





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4/28/12 1:27 P

On and off the diets for years and years now. Maintaining a reasonable weight is always a challenge. I used to do all this manually! So much easier. That is what the internet should be for!

BRENNAGIRL Posts: 309
4/28/12 1:12 P

This is exactly what I have struggled with for years, but for some reason in the last few months I said said enough! It only took me 50 years.

Changing from 'diet' to just figuring it out - how to live in the real world and be thin is like a huge weight loss in itself. Because the weight that is taken off your shoulders is immense.

I loathe diets. Every time I 'diet' I will get to a point, and then go 'off' the diet and quickly start to regain. I am done with that. I want to live my life AND be thin. I have gone from counting every calorie to looking at my food for the day and seeing whether it's healthy or not. Seeing that I don't get enough calcium on a daily basis and I need to do something about that. Things like that. Spark is awesome for that if you allow it to be.

My family doesn't even know that I've changed anything. Nothing has changed in our house except for the volume of food that I eat. We eat the same meals (which were granted, healthy) but still I used to eat like a lumberjack. DH has no idea. Neither does DD. I went through Easter fitting everything in and basically staying within calorie range. I had my daughter's 21st birthday party. I made lasagna - really fattening lasagna - and fit it into my plan. Enjoyed a piece of decadent cake too! All within calorie range. Took her horseback riding - therein too was the difference. I look for more active ways to enjoy life. Not the gym necessarily, just things that I enjoy.

I have finally realized that life is about living. Not dieting. Living. Enjoying as many moments as you can. I enjoy wine. I try to incorporate it into my life. I enjoy chocolate - actually enjoy isn't an adequate enough word. At any rate, I incorporate it into my life. So I encourage you to try it. Change your mind set. It is awesome when the light bulb switches on. It took me a long time of pondering and mulling to get there but I did and I am so glad.

Thank you Spark!



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4/28/12 12:34 P

I struggle with this, too! I'm such a control freak, and if I go "off course" it can send me into a downward spiral. I've not found a way to change it, I just cope with it. In a way.... it really works for me. It keeps me disciplined and I'm able to maintain my weight.
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FEZZA11 Posts: 34
4/28/12 12:27 P

Apparently, since starting with SparkPeople, I have discovered a love for graphs, daily nutrition reports, feedback and general nutritional balance. How cool, to have it all there, calculated for you! This is the most NON-diet diet I've ever embarked on, and I somehow think this will actually work.

GRAVELRIDGEBOY SparkPoints: (32,163)
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4/28/12 11:53 A

I had to go all out and watch my calories and the sizes of my meals for a few weeks at first, but then I seen that my appetite decreased because it got use to having smaller meals. I have just learned that I can eat a variety of foods, just at smaller amounts. I also keep healthier snacks around like raisins and yogurt that I can grab when I get the munchies and want to eat even though I am not that hungry. If you do wait to get the hungry feeling though you can have the problem of over eating. So I just have a bunch of small meals, If I want to stick with an 1800 calorie day I would rather do 6 meals at 300 calories each than 3 meals at 600 calories each...

MEWHENRYSMAMA Posts: 6,702
4/28/12 11:22 A

Yes, yes, yes! I know exactly what you are going through! i am sure many/most of us do...it has to do with a mentality of diet vs lifestyle. PLEASE GO READ MY BLOG I POSTED TODAY, I THINK IT WILL HELP...Good Luck! emoticon

3RDTIMEISACHARM SparkPoints: (11,734)
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4/28/12 11:20 A

This aspect is important to me...short term I am loosing weight slower than I would on the all or nothing mindset, yet long term I do not have to give up items I love, which is super good!

Also life without guacamole would be pointless in the long run. And heaven forbid if I ever have an egg Benedict - honestly I like food, this is one of the reasons I have appreciated too much food.

The balance is learning MODERATION, eating healthy food (which I like!) and balancing in the indulgences I do not want to give up, and keeping an eye on portion control.

For me, at this time, it is paying attention to portions that matters the most.

Edited by: 3RDTIMEISACHARM at: 5/4/2012 (23:40)
MONTREAL12 Posts: 4,169
4/28/12 11:10 A

Very important to do so! Mind-set has to be re-programmed

DRAGONCHILDE SparkPoints: (57,411)
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4/28/12 10:44 A

I have found that I can't diet. Literally, I do not have the willpower or interest.

I deny myself nothing. If I want something, I enjoy it in moderation, without guilt. The idea of "clean" eating implies that other foods are "dirty". I think we should avoid such language. I don't eat "bad" or "fattening" foods (seriously, no such thing as a fattening food) - I eat things that are sometimes less than great nutrition, and healthy foods. And that's okay.

DROPCONE Posts: 1,540
4/28/12 10:15 A

I struggle with emotional eating in general. I use a lot of different strategies to combat it, most of them work sometimes, but not all the time. I'm always looking for something new to try!

It's just reality that one can't make perfect choices all the time. It sounds like you have a good plan to keep to at least one of your goals. The challenge will be focusing on that success (to combat the "all or nothing" thinking). Good luck to you!

MOUNTAINGIRL41 Posts: 139
4/28/12 10:01 A

So I know how to eat to lose weight. I am actually an RD. My issues with food are emotional. One thing that has hurt time and again is an all or nothing approach. I would only eat really "clean," and if I broke down and had something off that plan then I would just give up -- not track that day, eat other unhealthy stuff since I already "blew it." You all know what I am talking about.

So today, I have planned some of the foods that are not necessarily the best choices but I have fit them in and figured out how else to plan my day so I stay within my calories.

I am doing this because I know if I can't unlearn my "all or nothing" approach, I can never learn to live a new lifestyle that will lead to lifelong health.

I want to know if others have struggled with this issue and how they dealt this.

I'll try to post tomorrow as to whether this worked or not.

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