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SUNSCREENISGOOD Posts: 355
8/24/11 11:18 P

Like I said in my post..... I wish you the best.

I thought you might have been curious what a woman thought. Most certainly I don't know the whole story.

Generally speaking, I don't fault you for having multipule girlfriends. However, I would never date someone who had multipule people they called their girlfriend is all.

I hope you find a woman who has your best interests in mind. Not all women are selfish in the bedroom. Keep an open mind, you might get suprised.

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8/24/11 10:11 P

The thing is, I never met any of my women at bars. That's why I'm trying to meet women at bars. Because the women I meet at not-bars have been completely selfish both in and out of bed. Being a gentleman wasn't working for me either so I decided to stop using a useless tactic. Hot girls as a rule don't go for gentlemen, after all. The aggressive alpha male is more often seen with desirable females, since the gentleman is too much of a gentleman to assert his needs for fear of offending the female, thus winding up stuck as I was in unsatisfying relationships.

Edit: Of course, this is the internet so I'm certain to keep being berated by people who know the situation much better than me. I'm just wondering if this will kep going long enough for Godwin's law to be invoked.

Edited by: MRAGGRO at: 8/24/2011 (22:13)
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8/24/11 8:23 P

You might want upgrade and stop meeting women at bars. Maybe the bedroom action and their willingness to pleasure you the way you want would be better. Also be a gentleman not a jerk women don't like jerks. Don't talk about all your women. Women don't like that either and might not feel like giving you what you want when you are making them feel bad. I don't know if this is what you do when are with them. Just throwing that out there.

Edited by: SARAHO228 at: 8/24/2011 (20:25)
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8/24/11 6:29 P

Sunscreen-- Sure, most girls understand the words when you make suggestions. Damn near none of them are ever willing to follow them. I say something I like, they tell me they "don't do that." I say I like it slow, they refuse to do it any speed other than their favorite. I make suggestions all the time, always in a way that isn't nagging or offensive, etc. But women are so spoiled in the bedroom that they don't think about my pleasure at all.

Also for the record, I didn't become suddenly single because it's the "natural" result of having multiple partners. I became single because of a third party who came into things with bad intentions, determined to destroy everyone's good time, and subsequently succeeded in doing so.

SUNSCREENISGOOD Posts: 355
8/24/11 4:20 P

I'm not one to chime in much in the guy's lounge.......

I can't help myself on this one!

For the record, I'm single and happy that way. I'm just picky. Why waste time with someone who isn't right? (What is good for me is certainly not right for everyone.)

However, I think the fastest way to become single is to have more than one person that you call your "girlfriend". As for the women not performing up to your standards, give them some direction!!!!! (Sure, there are some people who are just plain hopeless when it comes to sex.) In the end, most chicks understand the words- harder, faster, turn this way, i really like that, ect. Also, girls can usually tell if there is someone else in the picture. Instead of giving a great performance, if a girl thinks someone else is spending time around her man, she will be paranoid about her skills and/or how clean the other chick's kitty is.

I could be totally wrong..... maybe I am.

In the end, I wish you the best!



GRACEFULIFE Posts: 1,705
7/29/11 12:18 P

I'd say it's highly unlikely you'd find that at the bar. It's all about where you look, and if _that_ is your focus, there are definitely better avenues.

You may find that once you find one that can keep up, then that actually loses its position as your main concern anyway.

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7/27/11 6:19 P

Well, Hail, that would be because sex is fun, and I've never met the one woman who could keep up with me in that department.

I could go into specifics :P



HAIL_10_ Posts: 386
7/27/11 12:52 P

:P Emotions are definitely a hurdle when it comes to relating to men. I'm trying not to "read" (obsess/overthink) when it comes to determining what the hubs means when he manspeaks...Although it isn't much fun to believe what he says is *actually* what he means.(although it is definitely less complicated...)

*Sigh*

Ah well.

(for me) There's nothing sexier than cultures' definition of masculinity. Now go eat some bacon, and for pete's sake don't cry when the grease burns you.

...And to come back from that tangent...

Why does this guy want more than one woman again? :P

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7/27/11 12:31 P

Complex, perhaps, emotional ... definitely. And I have a really hard time relating on that level.

HAIL_10_ Posts: 386
7/27/11 10:28 A

Bahahaha!:

"Jesus, I can barely handle one." Funny how this is the response of most committed men. (Pun intended).

We ladies are complex beings. Or we at least like to make it (seem) that way...




Edited by: HAIL_10_ at: 7/27/2011 (10:29)
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7/27/11 9:01 A

Jesus, I can barely handle one. I dated 2 one time, never, ever, again. There is no way I'd be into two or more. I've been single for extended periods as well and I look back on those days with great fondness. It was a different time with different experiences. I don't have any regrets with either position.

So I guess I cannot even relate to OPs original gripe.

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7/26/11 9:39 A

Hail 10 speaks truth. Time alone, however you define "alone", is good for you.

If being alone includes a "friend with benefits" and you can handle that, then good for you. If it means being solo girlfriend/dating wise for a while and you just hang out w/ friend s or lose some more weight and get your act together, great.

But you have no idea how much there is to learn!

HAIL_10_ Posts: 386
7/26/11 8:28 A

Also wanted to add: I suppose my whole response may be altered dependant on how loosely you use the term "girlfriend"..

In my past, I've only used "boyfriend" for those whom I was actually committed to. I dated, but I'm sure the fellas I was "dating" were dating other people as well, so I threw myself into the "single, not lonely" category.

Edited by: HAIL_10_ at: 7/26/2011 (09:56)
HAIL_10_ Posts: 386
7/26/11 8:23 A

:P Silly. I didn't mean it that way at all. From the obvious bitterness and stereotypical bar girl reference, I take it you've had some bad experiences. For the record, in my past all I had to do was sit there and watch the silly boys buying trashy girls unlimited drinks while I was sitting back taking the tips (I used to bartend part time... I didn't lurk at the bar to steal tips, haha). :P Bar hook ups are never your best bet. Leaves too many options for either party to get off the hook if they're not really interested.

In my past experience, you can always tell which girls are only paying attention because of the drinks: They're the ones that run off to the dance floor with a "guy friend" as soon as you hand them the cup. *shrug*...

Anyways, I just found your post interesting. S'all... My main point was that single isn't all that bad. I love my husband to pieces, but complete independance is liberating.

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7/25/11 7:18 P

LOL, I grew up being the fat kid in the Babylon 5 tee shirt. Believe me, I know all about how being single feels, for both brief and extended periods, and yes through these experiences I learned a great many things about myself...and about women. Because of how lonely I was growing up, I don't like to go any real length of time without at least casually seeing at least one person. Granted, I'm no longer the fat kid in the back of the class, so being single doesn't last as long as it used to, but it's still not something I like.

LINDSAYLUU Posts: 210
7/25/11 5:05 P

LOL....I don't think that is what she meant at all. Actually I know she didn't. The reason you have problem with woman is because of how you think about them.


"Dangerously close to being single"......Ooooooo sounds scary. You should try it! You might learn somethings about yourself.

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7/25/11 4:45 P

Oy vey.



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7/25/11 4:42 P

You're right, Hail. Being single is great, if you're a girl. You don't have to do anything, you just sit there and wait for guys to start buying you drinks before choosing to either pick one of them to hook up with or just lead them all on for unlimited free alcohol.

HAIL_10_ Posts: 386
7/25/11 2:40 P

FYI: Being single isn't anything to be afraid of. This is coming from a married gurl.
Sometimes I believe life is easier when you're flyin' solo. Pfft. You don't need "safeties", there are enough trashy girls out there that I'm surprised there is even a market for prostitutes anymore.

Final note: It's quality, not quantity. :D Bazinga!

Edited by: HAIL_10_ at: 7/25/2011 (14:43)
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7/22/11 9:33 P

DWRO: Not cyptic at all. I had 2 girlfriends and a girl I slept with every couple of weeks (not counting her as a "girlfriend" exactly). A chain of events just came out of freaking nowhere last weekend and cost me both of my steady girlfriends. Now I'm down to just the girl I sleep with here and there, plus a backup and a couple prospects. There are also a couple of "safeties" that I can use if I fall into any kind of a cold streak out of this. So close to being single, but not quite there.

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7/22/11 7:29 P

Very criptic!

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7/21/11 4:52 P

Now I've got ya.

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7/20/11 2:13 A

It makes more sense if you take the idea of the wife out of the equation. Not married, never will be. What I mean is I'm down to one actual girlfriend. I need to fix that as soon as possible.

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7/19/11 11:13 P

I can understand being close to being single if your wife found out about the girlfriends, but I' not sure I follow you.

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7/19/11 4:39 P

I've broken up with two of my girlfriends in the past couple days. I swear, the drama level around here has reached critical mass and I am dangerously close to being single now. Although I'm not too mad about it, honestly. Mad about some other things, just not too much about this.

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