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CMADELINE1
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3/27/13 5:44 P

Keep on keeping on and do it with as positive an attitude as possible. Good luck!



BETTYBOOPIN15
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3/27/13 3:30 P

One thing is a certainty: life is GOING TO happen. As much as we may want to continually convince ourselves that we are in control, we just aren't. Events in our lives happen that we have absolutely zero control over. During these times, we can choose to stress out about the lack of control we have or we can choose to go with the flow and trust that like with all other challenges we'll get through it and, hopefully, come out having learned a thing or two about life and ourselves.

My advice would be for you to be patient with yourself and understand that your body has just recovered from "battle" and now it's needing to replenish itself. In the meantime, go out for long walks, do low-impact exercise, and keep your regimen relaxed and non-demanding. Use these times alone as quiet times to get in touch with your inner self. I know for me, having a strong inner life has contributed greatly to my physical changes, overall loss in weight, and my outlook.




BE-THE-CHANGE
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3/27/13 2:19 P

Go back to the beginning and make small changes. Track your food. Don't worry so much about how much you are eating at first, just enter it all and get a grip on where you are. Try to be more active. Definitely drink the water. And keep coming back here for support!



CK0307
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3/27/13 1:45 P

I joined Spark many years ago...then went over to WW. I'm trying to REALLY watch my budget, so quit WW and I'm back. I love Spark! But, I still find it hard to stay motivated.

We can do this!

Charlene

Edited by: CK0307 at: 3/27/2013 (13:47)


ARCHIMEDESII
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3/27/13 12:53 P

SNOWFLAKE66,

Every single member of spark has been through the same thing. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. That was the past. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated.

Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals. then you set new ones.

No, all or nothing mentality. Start with one small change. Because one small change will lead to another and another and another. Before you know it, all those small changes add up into one BIG accomplishment.

We all get sick. It happens. Don't beat yourself up. Your body needed time to heal. Now that you're better, you can get back all those healthy habits you adopted before you got sick. You never lost them. they're still there ! Just take things slowly, that's all.




NAUSIKAA
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3/27/13 7:45 A

Snowflake, I can most definitely sympathize! I don't know how much weight you had lost but I had lost 100 lbs and reached my goal weight when I got sick (in my case it was gall bladder disease) and just about everything made me sick except... potato chips (strangely - fat is supposed to be very bad for gall bladder disease!). It was the only thing that not only didn't make me feel worse but made me feel better. I gained 20 lbs just waiting for surgery! Then after surgery, I was finally able to eat normally again and of course, well, I did so , and gained a lot more than 20 MORE pounds! It took me a long time to realize what was going on and to turn it around, and it really sucked that I had to slog along again and re-lose 50 lbs!!! I mean, come on!!! Those 50 lbs were hard work to lose the FIRST time, and even harder the second time because I was now older, sans gall bladder, and p-ed off at myself! So far I've lost 32.5 of them and I still need to lose the other 17.5 but I believe I can most definitely do it.

So here is my advice/thoughts:

First and foremost: YOU WERE SICK. Your first priority was (as it should have been) to get better. And you DID get better! You kicked pneumonia's ass! WTG you!! I had pneumonia in my teens and I remember how absolutely miserable it was. I couldn't even walk across a room. The only thing I could stomach was orange juice. I kept a gallon jug of it on my bedside table. But the point is, you did what you had to do to get over the illness and that is the most important thing. If ice cream is what you could keep down, then you did the right thing to eat it. It would have been WORSE if you were undernourished and couldn't fight off the pneumonia. And maybe you ate a bit more ice cream than you really needed, but you know what? Oh freaking well. It happened. You were craving it and sometimes, like when we're really sick, we get to eat what we're craving and deal with it later.

Second, now you're well again, and so now you get to ... um deal with it now. LOL. "Later" has arrived! But that's okay -- first, it's good to remember that weight rapidly gained is almost always rapidly lost, so it probably won't take you as long to re-lose it as it did to lose it the first time. (In my case it took much longer to re-lose it! But that's because I waited 4 years.... ugh, don't be like me!!)

Your previous work has NOT gone by the wayside. I used to think that too. But you what I found out -- it actually hadn't. Once I restarted, I was able to access the knowledge I had gained the first time around relatively easily. A lot of stuff came back to me. I didn't have to relearn SP from the beginning. I was familiar with the principles. I had a kitchen scale. When I started working out again, I got re-conditioned to exercise MUCH more rapidly than I had initially. (If you're not 1000% after pneumonia, definitely take it easy on the exercise, especially aerobic exercise.) I used to be involved in a sport called powerlifting, basically weight lifting competitively. Once I restarted, within only a few WEEKS (and this was after YEARS off) I was able to lift the same amount of weight as before -- how??? Because I didn't "burn off" that muscle tissue when I was overweight. The body doesn't trash muscle mass when we stop working out, as long as we're eating enough to support it -- which a high calorie diet certainly is. Now I was out of commission for YEARS and within 6 weeks I was basically an athlete (granted, a fat athlete) again. Now that I'm down 32.5 lbs, I'm just a plain ol' athlete now. So my point here is that it was NOT wasted work. It was NOT a waste that you have already learned to use SP, to count calories, to plan meals, to schedule exercise, to perform certain exercises, to come here for support, to read labels, and so on. You get to start out on a much more "advanced" level than you did when you came here the first time.

Whatever you do, don't think for a moment that it's too much to tackle and that the frustration of seeing the pounds you already lost on the scale again is too demotivating. Try to reset your start weight in your brain so that every pound or 1/10 of a pound (I have a sensitive scale LOL!) is a NEW LOWEST WEIGHT to you. Not a "I was last at this weight in October". This does help. I actually don't take this advice all the time but I did more in the beginning of my restart. Now that I'm closer to my goal weight I think it's fun to look back and see when I was last at the weight I am now (August 2007!).

The second time I also did a lot of things more wisely than the first time. I learned a lot from my initial mistakes. I have been doing things in a more balanced and lifetime-maintainable fashion this time. I try to find the positives in everything. Based on your signature , it sounds like you do too!



GOLDTAG1
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3/27/13 7:24 A

I had lost 100 on weight watchers, doing up to 45 minutes of exercise a day. About the time they changed to program I developed some medical issues that seriously got in the way of working out. I have since gained back about 40 pounds.
I have restarted now with Spark People, and am trying to get back into the groove. It is taking a lot of determination and dedication, but the support, the information and help here are getting me back on track. Just keep sparking. It will work



MISSRUTH
Posts: 3,311
3/27/13 6:35 A

You could go back to the beginning... by making some small changes. Drink 8 cups of water, eat 3-5 servings of fruits/ vegetables, exercise 10 minutes a day. Log on to Spark every day, spin the wheel, plan your meals in the Nutrition Tracker. Read an article or blog.

There will indeed be times where we fall down (or fall off the wagon, or however you want to put it). The important thing is to always get back up. Every time I've fallen-- and I've done it a bunch of times-- I've done my best to just get back up and keep going. Sometimes there are things I can learn from my slip (peanuts are a trigger food for me, for example).



SNOWFLAKE66
Posts: 42
3/27/13 5:49 A

I was an avid member of SparkPeople for months and then I got sick. First I had the flu and that turned into pneumonia. When I was sick, all I craved was ice cream. It was one of the few things I could get down without throwing up. Since I wasn't on the computer, I stopped signing in. It took six weeks to heal and now I am not only back at my original weight but I've gained a few pounds!

I need some encouragement and inspiration. I am frustrated that all my previous hard work has gone by the wayside. I don't know how to get back on track and stay in control. I am eating whatever I want, which I know is the worst thing to do for myself.

Please give me some advice, tell me some of your setbacks....I don't want to quit. I want to go the distance...I need all of you...please guide me.



 
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