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KAITLYNN51 Posts: 762
1/23/13 11:51 A

Obviously friends mean different things to everyone, but I do think friends are people who love you no matter what. Having said that I wouldn't befriend someone with traits I didn't care for so if the person was a drug user or thief, I wouldn't make friends with them. I may want to get the person help, but they wouldn't become my best friend on site. If however I had a longtime friend who just started using drug, I wouldn't drop them. I'd try to help them and then if it became apparent that there was nothing I could do to help and they were bringing me down or hurting me I would have to tell them as long as they couldn't/wouldn't change I couldn't be a part of their life until they got better. Unfortunately I did have to do that with a friend and it killed me inside, but she was causing too much pain in my own life and I couldn't change for her, it was unhealthy. I still love her and wish her well but I don't associate with her anymore. If at some point she comes to me and either wants my help on getting straight or going to rehab I'll be there for her in a heartbeat.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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1/23/13 7:02 A

To me a friend is that person who is in your corner and has your back, no questions asked! The person who acts with selflessness and doesn't expect reciprocal treatment for being a friend.

128PERFECT Posts: 3,026
1/23/13 6:51 A

A friend to me is someone that is always there for you. But is always honest even when you do not want to hear it. I have had my best friend for over 35 years she is my heart.

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1/23/13 12:44 A

I choose to have a few close friends that I can trust.

DELRIO1 Posts: 6,449
1/22/13 10:33 P

i hear you

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1/22/13 9:44 P

A friend is a person you can count on no matter what. Someone who doesn't judge you by every little mistake or choice you make. A friend is someone you can continue a conversation with after not talking for months. They're people who love you, and you love back.

And from personal experience, drugs do not make the person. I don't use drugs, never have, in fact I don't even smoke. But I have two friends who struggle with drug addictions. I've been to rehab with one because she wanted (and succeeded) to change her life. The other still struggles with her addiction on her own. They've never stolen from me, brought their crap into my home, and if they've lied it must have been a good one because I've never found out. I can count on these two women with my life!! I have a male friend who has been my best friend for 15 years (Oh, men & women can't be JUST friends right?! Well, it happens). He has lied to me before, I forgave him and it's never happened again. I can count on him anytime I need him!!

I don't make friends very well. I have been hurt by "friends" and I think that's why I don't get close to people too quickly. I have my best friends (explained above) and my family who love me. I don't need anymore.

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1/22/13 5:43 P

I have one very good/best friend that we have been friends for over 20years. We have been through a lot of ups and downs. We don't always agree on things or see eye to eye, but she has helped to raise my son and I helped raise her kids. We have been each others shoulders to cry on and back up in confrontations. A true friend wouldn't steal from you or flirt w/ your spouse. If she were to get involved with something (drugs or other stuff) that wasn't healthy I would be there for her as much as I could and help her in any way possible.

I also have many friends that are much more casual. We will sometimes make lunch plans or hang out with our kids, but it never gets much personal than that....

I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
1/22/13 4:33 P

Really so if a friend got on drugs and started to live a dangerous life and change would you still be friends with them or will there be rules.
If a friend stole from you would you still be friends?
If a friend flirted with your S.O they still be your friend?
I never had any of this happen, I am just curious am I more picky then others when it comes to friends or too hard with the ones I have/had.

Edited by: I_HEART_MY_FAM at: 1/22/2013 (16:35)
GERBEAR1964 Posts: 231
1/22/13 4:18 P

A friend is someone who still loves ya, no matter your flaws!
I have a few of both!

I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
1/22/13 4:15 P

What is the meaning of friend to you? What should a friend treat you like? is a friend more then someone you just talk to? Do you think the company you keep should be similar to you? Do you stay friends with those that are not doing so well like on drugs, treating others bad, stealing etc. I am asking because I expect a lot from a friend and that is why I do not have many. I don't want to be lied too, I do not want anyone taking drugs because it is dangerous and can change someone completely into a stranger, they can do things they never thought they would have etc. I want an honest friend, people who shoot bologna out of their mouths to sound good is lying and I like honesty. Just curious to see how others expect friends to be like. I rather do without friends before having friends that hurt me, family has done that enough. My friends are my immediate family. I have always been the friend dropper and bf dropper , I am picky, and there are rules, guidelines and morals to be had if your my friend. I am not snobby though. I want to meet new friends but being a homemaker it is hard but I am thinking about joining a group or something to meet a few friends. I want friends that will adore my love for them as I would theirs.

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