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JESSICAMONT32 SparkPoints: (0)
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2/8/13 1:00 P

Thank you all for the replys

I have been working really hard over the last 5 or 6 months on my disorderd eating patterns and exercise patterns as well. On the whole i feel like i come a very very long way. I slip up here and there but really feel like that i am learning slowly new coping skills. Yesterday was that i didnt plan my meals accordingly. i have been dealing long term feelings being nauseous and bloated all the time, going to see my onocologist this week to see what is going on and when i went out for errands i expecting not to be hungry like usual and by the time i got home i was so hungry that i was shaking..... won't let that happen again...

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
2/8/13 11:24 A

You are not "bad" because you ate. And you certainly don't need to punish yourself on you birthday.

I used to have some issues with binge eating and experienced similar feelings. Now that I've stepped away from that disordered pattern, I've really been able to see how much those emotions and reactions just fed the binges.

I know it's a huge leap, but please work on divorcing your emotions and self-worth from what you eat. I know some will argue saying you are good or bad for eating something is just an expression, but words have meanings that you internalize. You are not bad for eating sweets and you are not good for eating veggies.

Food is fuel for your body and can be pleasurable. Some choices are better than others. Instead of saying, "I was bad," say, "I made a poor choice." And then figure out why you did it. Was it emotional? Did you not plan your meals well? Were you too hungry? Sometimes, the answer is just going to be "Because I really wanted it." And that's good enough. Enjoy it and savor it without guilt and then just go on with you healthy eating., One meal didn't get you here and one meal or one day is not going to "ruin" it all.

As I've moved forward in this new way of thinking, the times I decide to make indulgent choices are much few and farther between. I also don't feel compelled to eat as if it is the last time I will ever have it. I know I can have it again if I really feel like it.

Of course you deserve to eat birthday cake! And enjoy every bite.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (196,935)
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2/8/13 11:24 A


Don't worry, you didn't do anything wrong because you ate a little too much. These things happen to us all. It doesn't make you a bad person or an unhealthy one. As the old song goes,"Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative".

Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

EMELYN21 SparkPoints: (1,676)
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2/8/13 10:03 A

HI Jessica,

Don't beat yourself up too much. It happens. And just because you messed up last night, that doesn't mean the rest of the week is shot! Have a great healthy Friday and Saturday.

Sunday is a new week, so there's no need to punish yourself on Sunday for a slip up the week before. Start your new week and your new age with a small celebration. Go ahead and have your slice of cake, then go out and enjoy the day, walk around the mall, the park, whatever.

Sometimes a little self-forgiveness goes a long way.


JESSICAMONT32 SparkPoints: (0)
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2/8/13 9:57 A

That I wasn't feeling nauseous last night and what did I do.....went straight for the sweets and ate and ate and ate. I know one day will not make or break my healthy life style and that I need to live a little but I feeling a little guilty because Sunday is my birthday and I always allow myself to eat cake on my birthday ( most times of the year I don't go near the stuff because I have no self control) feeling like maybe now I don't deserve to eat my birthday are for being bead last night.....

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