At 52 many of my friends are experiencing empty nests. There seems to be a trend towards those couples that are taking advantage of this new time in their lives to strengthen their relationships and others who realize that without the kids there really isn't anything else there. About half my friends are soaring in their marriages and half are tanking. As I lose weight and gain more confidence and look forward to my children leaving home, my husband becomes more entrenched in his old ways and can't seem to find a way out of his old roles and into a new relationship with me. I have tried booking active vacations with him, but it's tough. He puts on his professional face and forgets about us, becomes that person who meets everyone else's needs. But after 26 years of marriage and 32 years together, 5 kids, I am not giving up. For better or for worse.....so now as we both try and find new paths and develop this post-kids, after 50 marriage I think we will come out on the other side just that much stronger.....I have faith....Good luck to everyone who is facing the challenges of keeping a their marriage alive and vibrant!
I can definitely understand why you feel discouraged. It's no fun when you feel like you are the only one doing all the work in trying to make a relationship work out. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Do you think maybe you are depressed? Maybe you need some counseling by yourself. Do what you need to take care of yourself. If you are happier with/about yourself, then other things won't seem so bad.
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I was feeling down about my relationship a few months back. I was so unhappy all the time. I took the plunge into getting healthy & fit & that has made a huge difference overall. I realized that most of my unhappiness came from me & how I felt about myself & my lack of confidence. Hang in there. You've taken the first step in improving YOU & that is huge! Once you see results, you'll want to keep going & realize that you are unstoppable! And when I say results, I mean anything from weight loss, toning, more energy, & realizing that you're starting to make better choices with eating, activities, etc.!
Hi, I am new, but wanted to reach out and get advice. I am 47.I have been married for 15 yrs. and have 2 girls(14 + 12). I am finding that my relationship with my husband is dull and lifeless.I have been emotionally down over my weight and aging, could be the beginning of menopause to top it off. I feel like I am falling out of love with my husband and it scares me. I do love him and don't want to ruin our family in any way. We have been through lots of anger issues on his side, which we are working through. We have also done counselling, which helped a bit. I feel like in ways I am giving up and not trying as hard as I should. I use to initiate dates, things to do, talks, but don't anymore. I guess I wanted him to get involved in strengthening our relationship too. Anyway, I would appreciate any thoughts or advise. I apologize if this is too heavy a subject.
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