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CARO_D23 SparkPoints: (2,317)
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7/16/13 1:30 P

Hi WANNATHIN,

We have not really spoken yet, however I read your post and encouragement is always good. Maybe we could talk some more, if so message me personally. However, a little tip, try weighing in once a week the numbers tend to be higher and therefore more motivating --- at least it is for me. I thought maybe we could help and motivate each other.

caro


WANNATHIN Posts: 380
7/16/13 4:36 A

When I sat in the IVF doc's office and he said I needed to lose all that weight by the end of the year, all I could think about was how long it had taken me to lose 66kg before.... 15 months!!! So being "ordered" to lose 50lbs in SIX months or have no baby, made me feel like a mountain had fallen on me and crushed my hopes and dreams. And then I got over my self-pity and got to work.

I feel as though I'm on the way to losing MOST of the weight at least. I've done some research about the stats regarding overweight women and IVF success and it WILL definitely make a difference that I have shed a significant amount of weight, even though I'm not at my "goal" weight by the doc's standards.

For the last three weeks, I've felt really great and very motivated and positive that I can achieve this. Just had an off day yesterday. But you are right about people prescribing weight loss and thinking it will just magicallly happen. It's damn hard WORK. It's like another job. I spend hours working out, planning meals, shopping for meals, tracking workouts, planning workouts. It's not easy, but it's very rewarding (which is more than I can say for my ACTUAL job! hahahaha!).

Thanks for your support. I have decided to let more days go by between weigh-ins, at least 2. Weighing every day is harming me, not helping me and I need to stop it.

I don't want to be perfect. Gosh, that would be too darn hard! ;) I just want to be the best me I can be and give my husband and I the best shot at having a healthy baby. That is my focus and motivation, every day.



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7/15/13 11:24 A

a 50 pound loss by the end of the year isn't out of the realm of possibility, but it is extremely ambitious. It does imply that you have to be pretty diligent for the next six months. I won't say it's impossible, however, I hope your doctor should cut you some slack.

Most don't realize how difficult it really is to lose weight. They assume that if they say lose X pounds by Y date, people will just do it. The problem ? It's not easy to change the human body. It really does take time. Which is why you shouldn't beat on yourself if you have weeks you don't lose. That really is perfectly normal.

As I've told other members, you don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Think progress, not perfection.



WANNATHIN Posts: 380
7/15/13 10:17 A

Thanks for everyone's input and support! I really appreciate it so very much.

I am feeling better this afternoon, after having a good chin wag with a girlfriend. Not about my weight loss issues, but just about stuff in general. Just venting and chatting released some tension and I feel better.

Regarding my job, I have tried all I can to make it better here, to no avail. I have been looking for something else since February 2013, but the job market is very bare where I live at the moment. I am hoping to hear about an interview soon and I've been working through the job spec preparing for it and listing my experience and skills against the job requirements etc. I'm very hopeful that I'll find a better job that will make me happy, since I have so many other great things in my life, but this one piece of the puzzle is making everything wobbly.

I am currently pushing myself really hard to lose weight before we go and see the IVF doc again on 26 July. He wants me to lose 20kg by the end of the year and has referred me to another specialist in assisting fertility patients with weight loss. I guess in my head, I just want to be able to say "Look at what I've done on my OWN" before going to get help, ya know.

I have until next week Thursday to get to the double digits and I think it's a realistic goal. I need to lose another 1.2kg in just less than two weeks. Doable?

Today just wasn't a great day, but tomorrow will be better. I also took a rest day today, so my day didn't start off with an endorphin enducing workout. Tomorrow I'm back in the gym at 5am, and that always makes me feel good!

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
7/15/13 10:10 A

Don't worry too much about the scale. And if weighing yourself makes you feel so unhappy, I would really limit it. Your body weight fluctuates quite a bit because of water. The average women's body is about 55% water. I just go by how my clothes fit. If your tightest pair of pants are getting too tight, it's time to dial it back if you're in maintenance or use a tape measure if you are trying to change your body composition.
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And, yes, your attitude is spiraling down. Chocolate will only continue it. If you really are miserable in your job, what are you doing to change things? Looking for a new one? Building skills to get a new one? Trying to fix the things that bother you about work? If you have hope of change, it will help you ride out your job and if you really believe nothing can change, you still can change your attitude.

BTW, you are not on a wagon. It's life. You still can have some chocolate, but it should be for the right reasons, not to drown your sorrows.

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7/15/13 7:06 A

WANNATHIN - I took 5 days off SparkPeople when I visited relatives. They are amazingly thin, so I figured if I ate what they did, I'd be OK. I got back and had gained 3 pounds. OK. A failed experiment is still information gained. I'll never be able to eat like other people. 2 days later I weighed again and had lost 3 pounds. Since it is impossible to lose 3 pounds in 2 days, then I probably hadn't actually gained those same 3 pounds in 5 days. I can't explain it by bodily functions, either, but there are factors at work that can't completely be understood. When I've felt like you have, I just remind myself that SparkPeople has worked for me in the past. I trust the principles. If I follow the calorie guide each day and make sure I get the nutrients my body needs, eventually it WILL reflect on the scale. Can you take a quick walk outside? Fresh air and exercise can lift your spirits sometimes. I hope you get to feeling encouraged soon! emoticon

WANNATHIN Posts: 380
7/15/13 6:24 A

I did, in fact, have a poop before I weighed. It's not TOM, so it can't be water retention for THAT reason. However, I have just pressed my thumb to my shin bone and noticed that the indent remained, so I suppose I AM retaining water.

Honestly, I'm just so keen to get to double digits, i.e. 99kg. It's this HUUUUGE milestone for me and I've been stuck on 100.something for what feels like FOREVERRRRR!! It's really getting me down.

I know all the logical stuff about water retention and muscle mass vs fat mass etc. etc. etc. BUT I'm still just so anxious to get below 100kg. I keep telling myself I should just weigh at the end of the week and THEN gauge my loss / gain, but it's soooooooo haaaaaaaaaard!!!!

And then my husband and I treated ourselves to a cinnamon pancake on Sunday, but I feel so GUILTY about it! Eeeeeeek!!! Get me out of my own head, please!!!



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7/15/13 6:14 A

WANNATHIN,

400g = pound, more or less. That's NOTHING to beat yourself up over !!!

Ever notice your weight goes up during TOM ? Most women tend to gain weight during their menstrual cycle, is that a fat gain ? Nope, it's nothing more than a temporary water weight gain that passes in a few days.

I can easily gain or lose as much as 3-4 pounds in a day because of a shift in my water weight. So, don't assume something must be wrong because the scale went up. There are many different reasons the scale can go up that have nothing to do with the food you eat.

Not to get TMI, but did you have a bowel movement before you weighed yourself ? If you don't do a poop in the morning, the physical weight of all the food and water you ate the day before is still in your intestines. Water has weight. Food has weight. Your body's waste products have weight. And all of these can cause the scale to go up.

And that's perfectly normal. Don't tie your emotions to the scale. There is more to good health than a number that stares at us from between our toes in the morning !!

Trust me, you're doing fine ! but the beatings have to stop. Your self esteem and good health IS NOT determined by the scale.


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7/15/13 4:54 A

I'm sorry you are having a bad day at work and because the scale doesn't reflect your hard work. Is there something nice you can do for yourself right after work that isn't food related or if it is, is healthy food? Even if it is just a nice hot bubble bath? If you promise yourself something nice sometimes it gets you through the day. It helps me to listen to music, to swim or to go for a walk even if I don't feel like it when I feel that way...I always feel better after. emoticon

WANNATHIN Posts: 380
7/15/13 3:31 A

I weighed myself this morning and I've gained 400g. It's a Monday morning, I'm back at the job I hate and I'm just not feeling great. I ate a good bowl of oats with almonds and honey for breakfast, so I'm definitely NOT hungry, but I just feel like I could shovel anything and everything into my mouth, just to feel better.

I just need some positive motivation and inspiration to keep going and not fall off the wagon. I'm just having a bad day and I can recognise that, but I don't know what to do to get out of this funk.

I'm unhappy at work and I just really don't want to be here. It's just a bad bad day and I don't want to go out and buy a slab of chocolate to make myself feel "better" coz I'll only feel worse.

HELP!

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