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NANCYPAT1
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10/8/12 10:35 P

When you want to know whether you are too hard on yourself, imagine that YOURSELF is a close friend who has come to you and told you the story you just told us. I thought you were going to describe a MAJOR binge, pies, cakes, and rich fatty sweet foods and what I heard were a SLEW of successes.

Let's see, you SUCCESSFULLY cooked and served THANKSGIVING dinner to family (maybe even some friends) at your house. WOW, stop and take a bow. The first time for doing THAT is a MAJOR accomplishment.

Then, you ate less throughout the day so you could enjoy your special dinner - THAT sounds like PLANNING to me. PLANNING is one of my BIG things so I think that regardless of how much or how many you DID eat, at least you had a PLAN. Take another BOW please - THAT is also a MAJOR accomplishment.

Next, you tell us that you ACTUALLY stayed WITHIN your calorie range, TAKE THREE OR FOUR bows for THAT one. That is a SUPER-DUPER MAJOR accomplishment.

OH DEAR, now you say you SKIPPED strength training - since when does it say ANYWHERE that you must do that EVERY day. Strength training should be spaced out with breaks in between.

MY DEAR, it sounds like you MIGHT be being just a little rough on yourself when all I saw in your post was successes that I would be proud of even THIS far down the road on my journey - I have to work to get THAT much success on a holiday and I have been on the journey a LOOOOONNNNGGGG TIME.

Be nice, recognize and accept that you MAY not be perfect but you certainly did an awesome job THIS Thanksgiving. Give thanks for your successes. You deserve a MEDAL and I am sure you will find that you get your reward in terms of a healthier body and mind if you recognize and celebrate something as great as this,



EIDOTHEA1
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10/8/12 12:41 P

Today is a new day & a chance to do better. Don't waste time on what's done because it will only make you feel worse.



TRISHAKAY17
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10/8/12 11:45 A

I also just had thanksgiving this weekend, and it was pretty much two full days of eating heavy foods. I knew this weekend was going to be full of calories, so what I did was made sure that my nutrition was very good in the week leading up to it, and I made sure I stuck to my workout routine. I allowed myself a guilt-free "treat weekend" because I just didn't want to calorie count over Thanksgiving. This morning, I got back on track by going for a run and doing strength training and my nutrition is back on track too. Everyone deserves a treat day/weekend every once and while. I think as long as you know you'll get back on track once you feel better, then you shouldn't feel guilty. You seem to be doing great already, so perhaps you deserve a couple of days off. We all deserve rewards for doing well.
Good luck with everything!



JENNILACEY
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10/8/12 9:48 A

I know I shouldn't be feeling guilty, I think I just put a lot of pressure on myself.

On a positive note...

I held Thanksgiving at my house for the first time yesterday! To understand what an accomplishment this was for me, last year I couldn't cook to save my life. If you had told me last year I'd be doing Thanksgiving dinner this year I would have looked at you like you'd grown a second head. We invited my mom, my stepdad, my brother and my husband, 2 bio children and step daughter were here. I made a fruit stuffing and cranberry sauce from Spark's recipes that turned out great. I also did brussel sprouts and corn. My husband did the turkey on the BBQ and my mom brought mashed potatoes. Everything was wonderful. I had a small piece of strawberry/rhubarb pie for dessert w/canned whipping cream and 2 glasses of wine.

I thought for sure I went over my calorie range last night but I just made it, barely into the top of my range. Mostly because I ate a little less at my other meals than I usually do and skipped my afternoon snack because we ate dinner earlier than I usually do. So that's fine... but here's where I feel guilty;

I was feeling really stuffed up yesterday while doing the dinner and in the evening. I thought it was just from the cooking, the moisture and heat or whatever because my mom was saying she felt sneezy and stuffed up too. Well, I woke up this morning with a flu. Not a super bad one, but I feel a bit under the weather; body aches and stuffed up. I also slept in later than usual.

So I made the decision to skip my strength training today and short cardio burst because it'd put me too far behind in my chores today and I feel weak and achy. I usually workout every day, taking 1 day off every 2 weeks. This is my week to take that day off but on Saturday when I go to my inlaws for their Thanksgiving. So I'm missing 2 days this week on top of having 2 days eating at the high end (if not over, hopefully not) my cal range. I can't help but feel guilty, it's very unlikely I'll reach my fitness goal of burning 2000 cals this week. I'll be lucky to burn 1500. Am I just being too hard on myself? I feel like I am but I just can't shake the guilt this morning...



 
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