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11/12/13 8:50 P

Just remember ..... "Rome wasn't built in a day!"

Kris xxx

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11/12/13 8:07 P

SLIMMERKIWI: Your absolutely right. I know im going to feel silly when I get to my goal weight and even long into maintenance when I look back at this post :) Im working on it all. I know this is going to be a lifestyle change ive just got to take it slow. Cant wait to be able to do a 10 min mile and see what else I can accomplish.

Thanks everyone for the pick me ups. If/when I make it to month 2 & 3 im certain my mind frame will be better. I have a bad habit of starting and somewhere after 1 month I fall off. Im determined to stick with this -its been a rollercoaster but ive been hanging on for the ride. Hopefully for life this time!

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11/12/13 8:01 P

JCWIAKALA: Thank you. A thought that crossed my mind: if they can lose so fast why cant I? I do try to remind myself to focus more on me and not what everyone else is doing/have done. I haven't learned to control my patience just yet and knowing that I can get there makes me want to rush it all and get to the end. Ive been there before. Ive been at a healthy weight. I just have to remember the time its going to take to get it off. I dont have extreme goals. While it would be nice to lose 30 lbs in a month I was at least hoping for 10 but I know that gives no wiggle room being that is the max that one should lose in a healthy way. Im still working on getting these concepts down - normally I do fine and don't get so down but I had a slip up. Still pushing forward though :)

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11/12/13 5:14 P

"it used to take me about 20 mins to do a mile and im down to 14mins now Working on getting to 10."

THAT, my friend, is SUCCESS :-)

You are OBVIOUSLY doing lots of things right because otherwise you wouldn't have seen that improvement. AND that improvement will include many things you cannot see about yourself - the goings-on internally :-}}

Kris

JCWIAKALA Posts: 347
11/12/13 4:55 P

I sympathize. Sometimes others make it look so easy. It's not. And we all have different lives and challenges to face. You appear to have a child. Others battle depression. Some have health limitations. The success stories make headlines because they're sensational. They're above normal so to speak.

The truth is, I find some of the things they do in those success stories to be unhealthy. Some people cut back to way too few calories. Some do excessive cardio and no strength training. I might still have 30 pounds to lose, but I value what I have learned in this process and I have confidence that I will be successful. I might not make a Sparkpeople or People Magazine feature story, but I will be a success story. I hope you can find that same confidence.

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11/12/13 6:50 A

Thanks. At times I lose focus. I did try to put the scale away but while I was reading some articles and posts I saw a few things that say if you track your weight you can possibly see a pattern in your weight loss so I decided to pull it back out and weigh weekly. I was hoping I would find some useful pattern so maybe I wont get all freaked out when I gain if I know it will all drop back later. I know that I have been making improvements as it used to take me about 20 mins to do a mile and im down to 14mins now Working on getting to 10. I guess I just get discouraged when I dont see results as it makes me think im doing something wrong. I track my food and exercise daily. I do pretty good staying within my cal range I need to lower my sodium intake though and increase my protein a little bit. Ill just focus more on other things and remind myself as long as im doing things right the scale doesnt matter that much.

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11/12/13 2:01 A

No...totally encouraged to join them

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11/12/13 1:20 A

I agree re focusing more on what you eat :-) Hopefully you are using the Nutrition Tracker, and weighing your food so that you can then see where your calories are coming from, and have the informed ability to tweak as and when necessary.

It sounds to me like you could be expecting big things in a short period of time. It took me 16 months to lose the first 50lb - that isn't fast by any stretch of the imagination, and there are many who have done it even more slowly. The fact is, THAT is the healthy way, and the way that is far more likely to stay off in the long term. For me, on went on to lose even more, and have been maintaining for nearly 3 years. I STILL weigh all of my food and use the nutrition tracker daily to ensure that THAT is exactly where I stay - at goal.

I had always been motivated to lose the weight, but had been unable to, even tho' I had always eaten a really healthy diet, and got some exercise - at one time LOTS of exercise including strength-training type. I was still gaining and could never understand why. It wasn't until I was referred to a Dietitian and took her some printouts from my Nutrition Tracker that I discovered why. It took her less than 5 minutes to figure it out. Once I was gotten on the right track, the weight starting dropping, slowly but surely.

I wouldn't be inclined to worry too much about the scales and you have already noted this in another post you made previously. Instead focus on that 4lb you lost - odds are you will go up a wee bit at times, too, because we all do - even in the course of a day, I could fluctuate more than that. That doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong. There are heaps of reasons, some being hormones, some being the amount of sodium in the diet - even if you have been on your feet all day (it can affect me like that big time :-(

In time you will notice that you have lost heaps - others will notice the same thing too. Odds are that will be enough to motivate you on further :-)

Take care,
Kris

MATHINA1 Posts: 6
11/11/13 11:56 P

I think you have to focus on the lifestyle change rather than the numbers. I've found that concentrating on making new positive habits helps, but I can understand how you're feeling. I've also felt that way about my weight and my career too. It can be so frustrating! I usually look at success stories as a means to formulate my OWN strategies. What works for others might not work for US. I guess sometimes all we can do is take it one day at a time and celebrate our milestones. Visualizing your goals also helps too. Keep your chin up. As long as you keep trying, eventually the scale will move. The effects can be slow but they are cumulative.

Edited by: MATHINA1 at: 11/11/2013 (23:58)
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11/11/13 9:44 P

Okay maybe im just being moody & in my feelings lol. Normally I get excited and have a more " I can do this" attitude when reading other success stories on here but tonight, not so much. I feel like ive been at this same weight ( in the 230s) for awhile now and I cant seem to get below it. I started out at around 270 and got to 220 on my own. I went back up to 234 where I stayed for awhile and then 238, when I hit 242 I joined SP. Now im 237.8 and don't see much movement going on. I read several blogs about members losing lbs a week and 30 lb in 3 months ect. I know everyone is different but man is this difficult! *Yes I know it was easy putting it on and no one said It would be easy taking it off lol. Ive been making changes so I know I need to give it time I just would hate to weigh in another week and not move down. It took me 4 weeks to just lose 4 lbs. I guess I need to just focus on the small victories and stop looking for big losses so soon esp when I know ive had some slip ups!! Lol. I blame my hormones being out of whack this week for this crappy feeling I have right now. I better focus more on what I eat and working out harder instead of the scale.

How did you all push past negative thoughts etc??

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