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5/17/13 11:24 A

When I was in collage one of my professor said this and to this date I still take it to heart especially when I feel like I'm stuck or no place to turn to.
1. 45% We worry about that happened past.
2. 50% We worry about that will happen in future.
3. 5% We worry about that is happening right now.

So ask you self where your worries are right now.
I hope this helps you, cause it sure that for me.

JESSAELINN SparkPoints: (17,454)
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5/16/13 12:40 P

Thank you very much.

I'm sorry for complaining, it's just a part of my problem that I deal with negative feelings. I probably need medication for it, but that is a different subject. And actually, it isn't just going to be just this next week that I'll deal with stress/life changes. What happens after I get laid off? My husband and I can't actually afford for me to be unemployed. I will be going through unemployment benefit applications, calfresh food stamp applications, etc, and hopefully, just maybe I'll get enough to help with the bills and gas. I could stay with the job I'm in now, but I no longer believe that it is important to go to school. I believe things are going to get worse in this world, not better. And If I try to keep up, I'll be exhausting myself, neglecting my spirituality, my husband, my family.... I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses, and I want to put all of my energy and efforts into my hope for the future, and rely of God to provide my needs. I am no longer interested in putting all of my energy into a system that is doomed to failure. I am tired of being in college. I feel It is a waste of time. So, as you can see, it is a pivotal moment in my life and even though I know my next move, which will be to take care of my Grandma in August, it is still a hard move to make, not knowing exactly what will happen in the near future. However, I feel extremely confident in the rightness of my decision. I just worry that with all the changes and natural stress that comes with change, I might go backwards in my progress with healthy choices.

Thank you so much for the positive advice. You guys are great! emoticon

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5/16/13 12:29 P

Working in such a toxic environment is so incredibly stressful. I worked in two places where cutbacks were taking place and it is just awful. All that stress, combined with your period, is probably why you broke out. Your hormones are probably going crazy.

Why not give yourself a little break for the next week -- a little vacation from the stress of your fitness and eating routine on top of all of the stress you already have. I'm not saying go crazy, but one week of not tracking or a missed workout or two is not going to "ruin" anything. Just set a deadline for getting back to it and stick to it. You'll come back refreshed and ready to pick it back up.

I don't know if you have anything lined up for your next job, but if you don't it's not so bad to take a week or two to clear your head so you are ready to face the next challenges. When you are in such a horrible place, it really saps your self confidence and that could show on interviews. Focus on outlining achievements and things you can do well and talk to people who can help build you back up.

I find if I don't eat well and exercise, it just adds to my stress. But maybe switch things up with walks or runs outside or workouts in the park. Being out in nature has proven benefits for relieving stress and making people feel better.

Just be kind and gentle on yourself during this times. Be your own best friend and cheerleader. It will pass and you will emerge stronger than ever.

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5/16/13 12:17 P

Well, not sure if this is encouraging, but it sounds like you don't actually have to make a huge amount of effort to put a positive spin on the situation you're in now. You only have to endure it for one more week, and then your problems will just go away of their own accord.

Just focus on doing whatever you need to do to stay sane for one last week and looking forward to what happens after that. And make sure everybody knows you aren't going to accept another week.


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5/16/13 12:14 P

JESSAELINN,

Even though you've been a member for a while, I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for all the POSITIVE things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

The fact is, there are going to be days you don't want to track, don't want to exercise and just don't feel motivated. It happens. As long as it doesn't happen every day, you'll be okay. The key is that you don't want these feelings to happen all the time. What to do ? Keep giving yourself credit for any positive things you do for yourself even if it's something as small as taking the stairs instead of the escalator.

Every little bit really does add up. Basically, be kind to yourself as you would to others.




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5/16/13 11:48 A

Thanks Susan. I really appreciate your interest in helping me. I am printing out that list right now, and posting it onto the refrigerator. =)

I find it strange how little amount of encouraging posting there is in this part of the forum. It seems like a lot of people would rather sound like an expert on the facts of losing weight, rather than help someone with their emotions. No denying it, there are a lot of great people here that are very very helpful and I've seen some wonderful encouraging postings for some who need it, but it probably doesn't happen often enough. It is full circle. Most times our emotions are the cause behind why we overeat, don't exercise, and become obese. When we lose control, it makes us feel worse, then the next thing we know, we are trapped in a vortex of discouragement, coping unhealthily, gaining wait, then discouragement again.
Tapping into some of the reasons why I get discouraged is usually the best way I learn how to overcome it. Sometimes it helps to have different opinions on what I can try differently, and many people have many ideas that can be a great help.

So if anyone else has ideas on how to cope with discouragement, I would love to hear it!



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5/15/13 10:16 P

Here is the link for 100 reasons you should work out: www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=100_reaso
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Edited by: SUSANSEARCY at: 5/15/2013 (22:17)
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5/15/13 10:04 P

A COUNTDOWN SOUNDS AWESOME!! Thank YOU!!

SUSANSEARCY SparkPoints: (6,946)
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5/15/13 10:02 P

Perhaps if you try something new for your fitness it will kind of shake things up a bit and make exercising fun again? Another good piece of advice that I've heard for when you get in a funk is to think of all the reasons why you wanted to lose weight in the first place. You could even write them down. Also, there is a great blog (or article?) that I read on sparkpeople a couple of weeks ago of 100 reasons why you should exercise. It is GREAT. Read that through, print it out, and get moving. Make yourself a countdown for your last week of work. Something physical you can see and watch it go down...either a white board with numbers on it, or a paper chain, or something. Keep moving!

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5/15/13 9:55 P

Ever have those days when you don't feel like tracking, or putting salad together or vegetables, and then skip working out? I feel really weird these past few days and have kind of slowed down. How do I get myself out of this? I haven't worked out since Friday, my face is broken out it pimples, and that's embarrassing, I haven't had pimples for years. I am on my period, so maybe that's why I'm in this weird funk, but I am worried. I think I'm a little depressed because it was suppose to be my last day at work and they asked me to stay another week. It's been a long year, lots of bad evals, demoted, working for a few unappreciative and rude people, and now I'm finally getting out of it, yet there is one more stretch of a week to go. ARGGhghhHHH!!
Anyone have inspiring advice?

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