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2/1/10 10:42 P

1st, you should probably talk to grandma and explain what is expected, and that you would like her to help instead of waiting 'til its late, then you and your daughter should sit down and ask her if she knows what the rules are, and what are the consequences if she breaks them... we started this about 2 weeks ago and it sure has helped!

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2/1/10 2:14 P

First, Hugs! It's hard being a parent and even harder being a work outside the home parent. You did the right thing by apologizing to your daughter, so give yourself kuddos for that.

I would ask the adult in the equation, the child's grandma, for help in putting the after school schedule into effect. Let her know that if not all, at least SOME, of the school work needs to be completed before you get home. I know Grandmas like to play and be their grandkids "fun place"; but when she agreed to help you out by taking your daughter after school, she agreed to help in ALL ways and that means school work.

Good luck.

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1/29/10 10:10 A

Are you a single mom? I know how it is and it can be so very tiring, stressful and frustrating!
I was a single mom of 3 boys for 4 years. The only way we got through it was a schedule. When we got our work done, we got to play. All of us. In that way, the boys knew that they had to do their work and then there would be a reward (fun!).
Best of luck.
Melisa

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1/27/10 6:15 P

Thanks ladies, I did give her a hug and I also consoled her and apologized right after I did it and she told me that "next time you get mad mommy hit the pillow!" I said " I will" it wasn't her fault, she is only 6 and doesn't think ahead or of the consequences all the time of not doing something before I have to ask her. Last night we actually worked out a system that we will devote our selves to completing all of her homework together and if we have time complete the whole packet and turn it in so we don't have to worry about it for the week.

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1/27/10 10:23 A

So, the first thing you do is apologize to your daughter, then sit down and work out a system that fits for you both. Let her know what you expect and that she needs to stick to the plan. Then give her a big hug and kiss, and tell her how much you love her.

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1/26/10 12:56 P

First you should talk to the grandma and ask her if she could help her before you get home. If she doesn't get it done I would just put her in her room and have her do it there if she needs help come and ask but don't get mad kids need help. If you feel you are going to spank her again tell her you need to be alone for a min and go to your room when you calm down then come back. Hope this helps. Also remember she still loves you!

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1/26/10 12:15 P

I feel so BAD I spanked my little girl (6 yrs old) last night. And she didn't even do nothing real terrible, I was just so frustrated and tired. It was after 9:00pm and she did not do her homework after school like she was suppose too, she we did it late last night because we had basketball practice. I get upset because I get home after 6pm and she had 3 hours of at home time with her grandma who can help her with homework instead of waiting for me to get home and then she (my daughter) gets in trouble for it and faces the consequences. IO feel so bad, she cried real loud and said that I hurt her, why didn't i just spank the pillow and why did i spank her..... I feel so awful and bad that I wanted to cry too.... I need to figure out a system for us to help make are weeks better. Any suggestions, please help me..