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155HEREICOME
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2/19/13 1:14 A

I am also frustrated, working out 6 days a week, eating right, journaling, water, etc. but have lost 4 lbs. since, the middle of dec. so frustrating, very slowly, want it to dod down, but I think I am losing inches, cuz, today,I looked at myself in the mirror, and thought my face looked smaller, as well, as my sides. It will happen, remember the turtle! He FINALLY made it!



TACDGB
Posts: 6,130
2/19/13 12:14 A

when I changed my thinking from diet to life style change that helped. I also got the junk food out of the house too. If it isn't there I can't eat it. I also put working out in my life on purpose. I found workout I like to do and that made it easier. When you set these things up you have more successes than failures.



ERINTFG
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2/18/13 10:15 P

One thing that really helps me when I screw up (overeat or just make a super stupid food choice) is to remember that one bad choice does not equal a bad day or a bad week. If I eat badly at lunch, fine. I'm going to STOP eating badly after lunch. And I'm going to drink some extra water and fill up on veggies as much as I can at dinner and probably see if I can add in some extra exercise, but I'm not going to beat myself up or quit eating for the day and I'm also not going to just give in and turn it into a binge. And I'm going to log every food I ate and look at my daily calories and just be honest with myself. And tomorrow I'm going to get up and do better.

You have a choice when you fall down-- you can get up or you can wallow around in the dirt.

You can do this! One day at a time, one meal at a time, one workout at a time. Don't stress about next week or next year. Just do the next thing you need to do, and eventually it'll be a lifestyle.



BLUEEYEDBETTY
Posts: 124
2/18/13 9:49 P

You will get there!! Try not to focus on what other's are doing and focus more on how you are making positive changes in your life! Find other reasons to smile!!!



SARAH2676
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Posts: 8
2/18/13 9:33 P

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT IT WILL BE A LONG HARD JOURNEY BUT I WILL DO MY BEST AND TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME...



AKATHLEEN54
Posts: 595
2/18/13 8:34 P

You just really have to MAKE yourself to it even when you don't want to. Take little steps at a time and just don't try to change everything all at once. You will find once you make one change the next one comes easier and you will start to feel better. Once you are feeling better you will notice that you want to keep doing this for yourself because it has become such a positive change in your life. Mostly, always reach out to the community when you are feeling down and you have questions or gripes or just need some advice and/or encouragement. The community is always there for you. Good luck. Don't give up.



GLITTERFAIRY77
Posts: 8,023
2/18/13 4:49 P

You make yourself do it. You don't need the motivation to get up and go to work every day. You don't need the motivation to get the laundry done. You just do it because it HAS to get done and no one else will do it for you. I HATE to exercise most days, but I do it because it has to get done. I always feel awesome about myself when I do something necessary that is not pleasant, and that includes intentional exercise.



AGITATOR1
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2/18/13 4:26 P

Many times negative feelings and emotions get in one's way of doing things. This is self impossed barriers that can be dealt with. Logic and reasoning rules. I am thankful to have a dog that takes me for walks-runs every day, enen when I don't feel like it. I have added bike riding and swimming that takes away the boredom



JENNIK2
Posts: 1,826
2/18/13 3:16 P

What really helped me was when I figured out not to deprive myself. It only makes me feel like I'm being punished. So I really focus on portion control.



128PERFECT
Posts: 3,026
2/18/13 2:17 P

Hi Fluster, I has in your shoes a month ago today. What I did has I put a dvd and start to work out. That made me want to eat better because I do not want to waste a work out. From there I took it one day at a time and when I want to cheat I try to remember how hard it is to get start a gain.



MONICA.R
Posts: 16
2/18/13 1:27 P

I understand how you feel.. Been there 220 pounds ago. You have to ask yourself how bad do you want to change? Your mind has to be set and your heart has to be ready for change. One step at a time. Find a workout that you enjoy? Walking is the easiest thing to do. I fell many times and gave up! But one day I woke up and said enough! I have been on this wonderful journey for 3 yrs now. Just keep smiling and take small steps to find where you want to be. We are all different so find what works for you! Good Luck and if you need to vent just look me up, I am always ready to try and help someone out... emoticon



MEXGAL1
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2/18/13 10:14 A

I feel your pain!
what is working for me for years now is to track everything and share on sparks. really helps keep me focused.

also, just discovered the book, The Plan and it is life changing. check it out. really helps with cravings and such.
Best of everything to you...you can do it!
Sallie



07SOJO
Posts: 1,648
2/18/13 10:10 A

I'm not very strong or determined on my own so it helps me to work out with others wanting to work out, or wanting to lose weight. The only way to change your attitude is to change your thoughts and I know it's hard, but comparing yourself to others is hardly ever a good thing to do.



SHERYLDS
Posts: 11,744
2/18/13 9:57 A

this journey isn't easy...it requires not only WANTING to change,
but MAKING those changes ... and that begins with a mindset.
Motivation comes from within.
If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it work for you



DASHER68
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Posts: 246
2/18/13 9:19 A

I agree with DMJAKES. Its not a competition. We are all here to encourage each other but at the end of the day we have to take responsibility for our own choices.

For me, accountability is the key. For my exercise, I have to work out 12 times per month to get the payment from my insurance for gym fees. That is a big help in getting me to the gym.

As for what I eat, I know my boyfriend (he's a truck driver) will call and ask how my day has been. He supports my goals and I know I don't want to have to tell him I messed up.

It's all about accountability. So maybe if you find an accountability partner that will help you.



DMJAKES
Posts: 1,583
2/18/13 8:46 A

Sarah - first of all, you must get your eyes and mind off what others are doing and focus on YOU. If you're a diabetic, your health should be at the top of your priority list. Forget what everyone else is doing and whether they're getting results---this is YOUR journey, YOUR health, and YOUR life.

There could be many reasons for your lack of motivation.....are you a perfectionist who feels that if you overeat at one meal or skip one workout you've "blown it" so you quit? Or do you try to change too much at once, overwhelming yourself with trying to instill more than one new habit at a time?

You need to dig deep and figure out why it's not worth it to you to stick with it. Is there a little voice in your head that's talking negatively?

How about starting with some small victories and building from there? IMO, the food tracker is the best way to begin using the site. Commit to logging your food TRUTHFULLY every day. No eyeballing---weigh and measure if you must to train yourself on proper portion sizes. As a diebetic, you should have access to a registered dietician--if you haven't seen one yet, ask your doctor the next time you have an appointment. Educate yourself on how diabetes can be controlled with diet and exercise.

You can do this!!!



BILL60
Posts: 253,242
2/18/13 8:10 A

For me, consistency is the key. I exercise at least 6 days a week, rain or shine. There's no maybes cause it's part of life.



KKKAREN
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2/18/13 7:57 A

put your goals first and try, try again.



CHERYLHURT
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Posts: 21,849
2/18/13 7:16 A

Until you decide YOU are the most important person in this equation you will continue to stumble and fall. We women are programmed to put others before ourselves. I've not made real progress here in 6 years on SP. I am still learning I have to put myself first. Hang on with me. WE CAN DO THIS!



TRYINGTOLOSE64
Posts: 49,423
2/18/13 6:55 A

we all know how it is. First of all, deal with the issues of being jealous and beating yourself up. You aren't perfect and neither are we. Then you can address your health and fitness issues.



GEVANS7
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2/18/13 6:40 A

Most of us know how hard it is - especially after a "certain" age. It IS hard. My turning point was after looking at me in vacation bathing suit pictures. It was the final wake up call to get my life in order. Mind over matter and sheer determination. Tracking ALL FOOD and establishing an exercise pattern were the keys for me. I had stopped exercising because of aches and pains and once you stop you are setting yourself up for bad habits and bad health.

I'm stuck at a certain weight now and probably won't reach my goal weight.

I hope you find your answers and good luck.



CMCOLE
Posts: 2,667
2/18/13 5:29 A

Slimmerkiwi has some very good suggestions.

Weighing, entering in tracker (even in advance) is a great habit to initiate



BLUENOSE63
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2/18/13 4:51 A

I keep on track by journalling and venting out all the feelings of frustration there.



SLIMMERKIWI
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2/18/13 3:38 A

Hi Sarah - I didn't have any problems keeping on track. I found that by weighing all of my food and entering it ALL into the Nutrition Tracker helped me to stay focused and on course. When I was in weight-loss mode I allowed myself one day per every two weeks to eat whatever I wanted, and giving myself this permission, helped me to stay on course, too! I also keep a daily spreadsheet which has the calories and exercise I have done, in columns, along with general comments about tiredness, whether I was out all day, poor sleep, etc. This meant that I could go back and discover various patterns - like lack of sleep equated to severe tiredness during the day, and this in turn equated to a craving for sweet things. Because I was able to analyze this info, I was able to put practices into place to help me stay on target. As a result I managed to reach my goal after having been overweight for about 30 years.

When I started this journey I thought it was virtually impossible because I had always eaten a very healthy diet, and generally in a very healthy range - normally between 1650-1850 cal's per day, but I was still gaining on that. I had had very high cholesterol for a lot of years, even tho' I was on medication for it, and my HbA1c put me in the borderline pre-diabetic range. Since the weight-loss my bloods are now perfectly normal.

After I had lost a few kg, others started to notice that I was looking good (didn't realize the reason for it at that time, tho') and that helped to drive me on. Then when they finally twigged WHY I was looking good, AND they started commenting on it, it gave me even more determination to reach that goal - which was my Dietitian's goal - not mine - LOL! NOW it is MY goal.

I am sure that if you really put your mind to it, you will reap the rewards, just as I have and many others before me :-) All it takes is determination and motivation! (maybe you can find something which motivates you in the motivational articles above??)

Take care,
Kris

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 2/18/2013 (03:39)


BLUETIGERCLAWS1
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2/18/13 12:41 A

I am the same way. I find the best way to become motivated to exercise is to find friends who want to lose weight also and go out of your way to join them when they exercise. I also find that if i enjoy the exercise, im willing to do it more... If i want to walk, I try to find some good music that i want to (or need an excuse to listen to) and lately ive been doing zumba which is really fun and doesnt feel like exercise. I also find its easier to eat better when you plan your meals out in advance, that way theres nothing in your way which would cause you to eat something thats not good for your body.



SARAH2676
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2/18/13 12:24 A

I'm so frustrated with myself and jealous of everyone else who is doing what I wanna do...How do you guy's keep on track? Yes I understand you will fall and dust yourself off and all that but when I fall I fall and I can't seem to get motivated again. I've been trying to loose weight and eat healthy and can't seem to get it right =( I'm diabetic only taking pills (for now) I wanna have a better attitude but I can't seem to be able to get it right.... emoticon



 
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