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YOUGOLALA SparkPoints: (5,746)
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12/8/12 9:24 A

I have 75 lbs to lose, so I'm right in there with you. And I promise you: the sooner you can quit "hating" yourself, the sooner things will begin to change for you. You must accept what is before you can create what is to be. I KNOW it sounds like I'm saying it's easy, and it's NOT. I know. A month ago I lost my soulmate I'd waited 50 years to meet, and when I was at my absolute lowest, I had no choice but to come out fighting. I decided the better fight was for happiness and joy than for going through life terrified, angry, kicking and screaming like I know I had for so long. As a result, I got my love back, when I look in the mirror, for the first time since I was 30 I love what I see- flaws and all. There is so much motivation & love & support to be had here. I could give you a whole bunch of ideas, but I'm just going to tell you to get in and search the site and make connections. Before you know it you could be feeling so, SO much better - and on your way to changing your life forever. Read some of those motivator blogs. I swear I can't get thru a one of em without crying for joy. Good luck, my dear, pull the pieces back together, smile (though your heart is breaking) and trust me when I say: better times are ahead if you just let yourself BELIEVE like a little child believes: what if this really could happen? Because it does, every day. And those people are no different than you or me. NOW GO GET EM. I mean it. emoticon

EWL978 Posts: 2,021
12/8/12 9:15 A you can see, you are NOT ALONE!! We've all been there at one time or another.......and, YES, we knew it!! It didn't REALLY take the doctor to tell us....but hearing it was painful and hurt. So, the question is do you plan to do something about it??

Remember, it didn't take one day for it to happen. I used to joke and say that I woke up one morning at age 35 and all that good stuff had "worked" overnight!! Well, it really wasn't funny but it was the best I could do at the time.

Now I know differently....thanks to the Spark Group I have learned. I learned how to count my calories and what composes them. I have learned to eat sensibly and that this is NOT a is a new way of life for the rest of my life. My next goal is to get more walking in as an exercise. And, I know that with the help of my friends here, with them joining in and encouraging me, I can do it.

AND, so will you... don't be hard on yourself. Let it happen. Join in and look around. There's so much to see here and so much to learn. Before you know it you'll be helping others.

Whew!! I have to get off my soapbox now and get dressed!

Keep on keeping on...any time you need to chat, check my home page. I'll be there.

LJBKENT SparkPoints: (126,973)
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12/8/12 8:37 A

You've made a great first step by getting on SparkPeople! You can do this, just one step and one pound at a time. Use your nutrition and fitness trackers daily - it's amazing at how well that can keep you on track. We'll all be cheering for you to suceed!

CARILOUIE SparkPoints: (94,852)
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12/8/12 8:10 A

One step at a time. When I am overwhelmed, I think about what I have to do next. Breaking it down seems to help me...


PHOENIX1949 SparkPoints: (74,916)
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12/8/12 2:16 A

In a discussion today with my nutritionist/dietician I referred to my 'excess fat' several times when questioning balance of carbs/protein/fat intake for myself and each time she immediately said 'stored energy' - after third time, I started saying 'stored energy' also! My 'stored energy' can be released by slowly but surely increasing calories burned while watching my calorie input. Semantics makes a difference to me.

LOVEXAVIE SparkPoints: (42,668)
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12/7/12 9:38 P

Happiness, when I had my ah-ha moment, it was brutal.
But you know what? I'm grateful for it today because if it hadn't happened, I'd still be dreadfully unhealthy and unhappy and yes, fat.

So use this as your ah-ha moment.

When I was slimming down, and I'd look in the mirror, and could still obviously see how far I still needed to go, I'd say to myself, "I'm not where I want to be, but I'm GETTING THERE. I'm getting there!"

Look at it this way: time is going to march on, whether you address this or not. In a month from now, in 3 mos from a year from now: do you prefer being thinner, heavier than you are now, or just the same as you are right now?

One of my favorite quotes learned here on Spark:
"Losing weight is hard. Being fat is hard. Maintaining is hard. Pick your hard."

But really, if you follow Sparks advice, I promise it won't be as hard as you might think!

You got this, my friend. You can do this!!

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HAPPINESSX101 Posts: 89
12/7/12 7:02 P

Thank you guys for everything.

ZEDMAY Posts: 41
12/6/12 11:29 A

I know that looming 200-pound mark. I remember how I felt the day I stood on the scale and I was at 198. I'd always told myself that I would never give myself a hard time about my weight as long as I stayed below 200 pounds, so to be so close was a real wake up call for me. It both scared and depressed me. But then I used it to motivate me to change my lifestyle.

If you allow yourself to get caught up in a negative image of yourself and your body, nothing will change. In fact, things are likely to get worse. But if you make positive changes to your lifestyle and push yourself to see what you are really capable of, I know you will find that the strong, healthy body that you want is something you can achieve. That is why I encourage you to find at least one measure of the changes to your body other than the numbers on the scale, so that you can truly see how incorporating healthy eating and more exercise into your life is changing your body for the better.

For me, I take measurements of my arms, waist, abdomen, hips, thighs and calves once a month. Sometimes I lose inches even when I don't lose that much weight because gaining muscle slims me down even when the numbers on the scale are the same. I also track my fitness benchmarks (e.g. how many push ups, jump squats, etc. I can do in 1 minute) once a month. As I see the number of reps I can do increasing, I see that I am getting stronger and it reminds me that that hard work pays off in more ways than one.

LOTUS737 Posts: 2,792
12/6/12 9:57 A

What a great post below!

Set small goals for yourself- aim to workout 30 minutes a day three times a week or to cook healthier meals a few times a week, wherever you need to start making healthy changes. Set a small weight loss goal for the short term- a pound a week? 3 pounds by the end of December?

Once you hit that goal set a new one for yourself- that way you can keep yourself motivated!

And if you'd like, take measurements (and photos) of your starting point- a great reference for later!

You can do this. Take it one healthy choice at a time!

DRAGONCHILDE SparkPoints: (60,917)
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12/6/12 9:19 A

You are not fat.

You may *have* fat, but you are not defined by it. You're not fat anymore than someone else can be "a schizophrenic" or "a depressed" - you have fat on your body, and that's okay.

You have to pull back, and realized that YOU are YOU. You're not defined by the fat on your body, any more than you're defined by the clothes on your back. You can change it... you can take it off.

It takes a little longer than a button-down, but it will help.

Don't beat yourself up for what has happened. Look forward, and define yourself by what you want to be, who you want to be. I'm overweight. But I am NOT fat. Why? Because I'm fit, active, and healthy, and working to take the fat off my body.

When we run through these kinds of negative statements in our heads, we get into a downward spiral of self-loathing that's not okay.

Why not take a page off your username. You're not fat... you're HAPPINESS, right?

So let's go from there. You don't want to be overweight anymore, you want to be HAPPY!

So, what's the first positive step you can take in that direction? Start tracking your food. Weigh it, measure it, track every sip, every bite. Learn where you are, and you can create a battle plan to get to where you want to be.


DIDS70 Posts: 5,368
12/6/12 8:57 A

Hey, I am 5'3 and 242 (yes my ticker is wrong but it motivates me because at one point I was there so I know I can do it again).
I don't see myself as fat or obese. The medical world might but I don't put much creed in them. The weight charts and all that are more for the insurance world.
I don't LOVE myself yet, but i am not so down that I will let it stop me from achieving my goals.
God gave me a powerful self healing body. Now I am putting that knowledge to work.

So you had your AHA moment. Scary at best, but you can now determine what is really important to you. Hating yourself will only keep you where you are. Now is the time to figure out exactly what you are putting in your mouth and how much exercise you are doing. Take a week to clock your food. Don't lie, don't cheat by not writing it down. You are getting your baseline together. It is only up from there.

NYARAMULA Posts: 20,877
12/6/12 3:31 A

Being 'fat' is your starting point. Only you get to decide where you go from here - do you stay at 'fat' or are you will to move on to 'fit' and 'fab'? Make the right decision for you and lets embark on this journey together, the journey to health and fitness and distant memories of 'fat'.

LILBUR86 SparkPoints: (1,890)
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12/5/12 10:47 P

I can understand your disappointment. I am 5' 3" and weigh 232 lbs. At first it's like a kick in the gut and then the embarrassment and disappointment set in. Just make sure that they don't get too settled in! I have learned the hard way that the "fat" way of thinking actually keeps you from your goals. Negativity breeds negativity. When it comes to weight loss, there is just no room for it. Set some mini goals for yourself and take it one day at time. It won't be easy, in fact, this is probably the hardest thing that I have ever had to do. Just know that you can do this and be thankful for this "wake-up call" that you received :)

HAPPINESSX101 Posts: 89
12/5/12 10:20 P

I went to the doctor today and found out I'm 5 feet tall and weight 179 pounds. I'm fat, fat and more fat. I am almost 200 pounds. I hate myself right now. I need to lose about 80 pounds. I'm scared right now because I'm so fat.
I need all the support I can get,

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