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BAM0827
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5/24/11 1:57 P

I've been feeling a lot like this lately - I'm trying snap out of it. I was trying on clothes the other day and had on a pair of size 8 capris and thought I looked big. I almost had a head shaking get that thought of your head reaction - I started in an 18W and I think I look big in 8s - not good! I bought them because I needed a reminder that I'm not the same person, am so much healthier, and have gotten smaller!

I keep looking at my before and now pages on my SparkPage to remind myself that I've lost over 60 pounds.

You're not alone and I think it takes a long time to re-record our internal scripts. We can do it, some just take longer than others.

Go and treat yourself to a smaller piece of clothing - it's a good reminder how far you've come.



FROGISCO
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5/24/11 1:36 P

Yep...feel exactly the same way. Others notice I am smaller, but I don't see it in the mirror at all....despite the pants fitting now. I think it's because we actually see ourselves every day of our lives...it's not like we don't notice ourselves in the mirror for 2 months and then miraculously see a new self. I'm still trying to accept compliments and the fact that i'm down 23 pounds and fit into my summer clothes......but having clothes fit is a better confidence boost for me than looking in the mirror. Lets face it...us gals are our worst own enemy sometimes aren't we?



MISMIS19
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5/24/11 1:33 P

I know how you feel! I've lost major weight twice in my life, and whenever I lost the weight I kept thinking that I was still overweight, and when I looked in the mirror all I saw were places on my body that I still needed to lose weight from. Now here I am with all the weight gained back, and I would kill to look like I did then, when I really wasn't as fat as I had thought. The only thing I could think of is to actually look at the amount of weight you lost in an item, like a weight, and actually see how heavy it is. Also you could use the mvm.com site and look at virtual models to see what all that weight loss really looks like. Just know, people wouldn't complement you if they really didn't see your body improving!



ARCHIMEDESII
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5/24/11 1:18 P

We are our own worst critics. Flaws we see in ourselves, no one else sees. Conversely, we ignore positive changes because we don't think we have made a change. The fact is, losing
42 pounds is an enormous accomplishment that you should be proud of achieving !!

Some times, photos don't show changes that are very important. Do you have more energy ? Are you sleeping better ? Can you walk up stairs without getting winded ? Can you carry more bags of groceries without getting tired ? How's your blood pressure ? Are your clothes fitting better ?

let's talk about clothing for a moment. If you're still wearing the same baggy clothes you wore when you were 42 pounds heavier, it's not a wonder you can't see a change. Don't hide your new figure under baggy clothes. Go out and buy some snazzy new duds that flatter your new figure. Nothing shows a change or boots confidence like wearing new flattering clothes !!!

Once you've bought some new clothes, then you take some photos and you'll see the difference.

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Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 5/24/2011 (13:23)


TINKTHEBELL
Posts: 48
5/24/11 1:05 P

This is more about mental perception and body image than physical weight loss issues, I've been working out for a little under a year now and have lost 42lbs so far. The thing is that while other people have commented that they notice a difference in me, I don't feel like I look any different. I've taken body measurements and pictures since I started, and when I line them up I can see a change, but day to day when I look in the mirror or am out with friends I still feel the same as I always did. It is hard for me to accept compliments or even feel comfortable in groups of people because I can't mentally accept this new person in place of the body image I have always had for myself.
Has anyone else here experienced something similar to this? How did/do you cope? Are there any suggestions as to how I can feel more confident/outwardly attractive day to day?




 
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