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9/1/13 10:15 A

Only by my husband early on in our 34 year marriage but eventually he learned!

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9/1/13 3:29 A

I tell myself that all the time. Ironically I can't remember anyone else saying it to me.

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8/31/13 6:30 P

No never....probably because I look stern when I am discussing something I am passionate about!

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8/31/13 6:53 A

no, but sometimes the opposite

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8/31/13 6:24 A


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8/31/13 4:34 A

is something a passive aggressive bully says when called on their behavior. It's right up there with, "Can't you take a joke?"

Mean people say or do things to hurt you and then when you challenge their behavior, they turn it around again and put it back on you.

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8/31/13 3:20 A

I get told that i'm insensitive

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8/31/13 2:29 A

I am a sensitive person and I know it. I cry easily too, even when watching a sad movie. It can get embarrassing sometimes. But that's the way I am.

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8/30/13 11:28 P

I've never been told I'm too sensitive!!!

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8/30/13 10:07 P

When I get told I'm too sensitive my response is, not really. you are just too rude.
Puts them on the defensive. Their response, I was just joking! Mine, no you were deliberately being mean.

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8/30/13 5:57 P

perhaps occasionally, but not usually

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8/30/13 5:21 P

I've never understood the 'Joan Rivers' style of humor;
being snarky and tearing someone apart, then standing back and claiming: "Just Kidding".
The funny thing about those people is they usually can't take, what they dish out.
But I rather not bother. I hold back a lot and 'eat' my words.
Not good either.
Some people may think being sensitive is a 'weakness'; I think it defines one as being more human and more feeling...and that often translates into having more empathy for others.

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8/30/13 5:11 P

Oh, I've been told most of my life that I'm too sensitive, usually by family. What I finally realized many years ago is that my ENTIRE family (how I escaped this I will NEVER know) is very sarcastic. Mind you, there's a difference between humor and sarcasm. Sarcasm is most often NOT a great way of dealing with life.

My friends, on the other hand, and my partner (good thing) think that my being sensitive is one of my best qualities.

I've learned to pretty much ignore my family on this and know that their use of sarcasm is NOT the way I want to be. It can be mean and cruel. And yes, my mother OFTEN says "I was just joking" if I call her on something.

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8/30/13 4:04 P

It's been tried with me. Since I'm know for an irreverent sense of humor, I'm sure most people think it's okay. I've learned that letting people know they've hurt your feelings gets laughter and the "You're just too sensitive" routine. Anger backfires even worse. People get
belligerent and defensive. The best thing I've found is to cultivate indifference. It's not easy, but it keeps you sane.

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8/30/13 3:54 P

Like Michael Jackson!

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8/30/13 3:30 P

I've never been called too sensitive... I think I a, the opposite sometimes! But I never really let my feelings show if something bothers me.

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8/30/13 3:22 P

Ha, this happened to me just the other day-my dad told me I was. Anyone who knows my dad knows that he has a tendency to be condescending-he insists its not intentional, but that's hard to believe. He made a snide comment & I was a little snappy in my retort, & he said, "you're so sensitive." I believe people who say that don't want to acknowledge they have offended someone so its easier to place the blame on the offended party. It's a way to criticize and/or "rip" on someone without taking any responsibility for what was said.

My ex-BF used to do it too. He'd call me "fatty" then when I would get mad, he said he was joking & I was too sensitive. Why I stayed with him as long as I did still makes me shake me head. The funny thing is, he was super-sensitive about people calling him skinny, and I never called attention to HIS weight.

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8/30/13 3:18 P

No. I am fairly tough and I don't let people play games with me.

I'm not sensitive.

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8/30/13 12:18 P

I get this in combination with "oh come on you know i was only joking"... from my spouse.

I hate it, I absolutely hate it. Getting angry about it would, however, be "overreacting." Internalizing it, well... that came with its own set of problems. 25 years later, however, I think we've worked this dynamic out of our communication patterns (most of the time).

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8/30/13 12:06 P

That doesn't happen to me to often, I really try to avoid those insensitive people.

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8/30/13 11:46 A

Don't take the bait. If someone insists on discussing your weight, thank them for their concern. but tell them in a nice calm voice that your weight is YOUR concern, not theirs. Then change the subject.

If they continue to be persistent, be polite. stay calm. don't lose your temper. Some people love confrontations. They love a good dust up. Don't give it to them. Honestly, in a situation like this, I don't think your weight is the issue. I think these people just enjoy the attention that they get. That's why I won't take the bait.

Don't sweat the small stuff and arguments of this kind are not worth wasting good energy on.

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8/30/13 11:40 A

I had a toxic boss who was constantly telling me that I am too sensitive and decided to get her out of my life by leaving my job and going back to school. I had enough of her nonsense for 8 years and it was time to say bye bye...

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8/30/13 11:19 A

Most of these instances were prompted by conversations pointing out my weight. Discussions started by the other person aimed at me...And wouldn't you know they would not drop it...until they had a reaction from me. I find these people rude and obnoxious...but at the same time I don't know if some are insensitive and clueless.

Some people pretend they're just 'helping you' by pointing out your flaws emoticon
{...Like I don't know I have a weight problem....PULEEZE...}

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 8/30/2013 (11:21)

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8/30/13 10:22 A

I haven't had that happen to me in a long time but it does hurt. I usually have to get away from that person for awhile. Not the best way to deal with it, but I guess it's better than giving them a knuckle sandwich!

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8/30/13 9:58 A

Usually it's only narcissistic people that use that line. I have a cousin who is narcissistic (remember you can only pick your friends and not your family that you run into at family things)
so she says whatever she wants without thinking first how it would affect another person. Then when you don't like what a narcissistic pops out of their mouth they call you too sensitive.

Some people are more sensitive than others just like some people are smarter than others but as a kind human being one should be aware how things are said to others.

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8/30/13 9:44 A

Yes and the truth is I AM sometimes too sensitive. But other times I am not being sensitive at all and am maybe addressing an issue or expressing a thought or feeling and have ascertained that people who tell me I am too sensitive are just using that as a one-upper tactic to try to disarm me and "win" the discussion.

Other times those who accuse others of being too sensitive are doing it to feel superior.

It took me a LOOOONG time to reach the place where I understand that people who are labeling people too sensitive or too whatever have issues that have nothing to do with me.

So if someone else tells me I am too sensitive I ignore it and am careful not to internalize it.

If I tell myself I am being too sensitive about something, I correct that thinking if it is not correct or just realize that I have a right to be sensitive.

Everyone is sensitive. Insensitive humans are very bad news indeed so once I realize I am being sensitive about something, I also realize that there may be no such thing as TOO sensitive.

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8/30/13 8:26 A

So get your frustration. I have an employee that is about to push me over the edge...if I go over the edge I am taking her with me. LOL She creates scenarios that she thinks someone has done to her and then jumps all chain of commands to report an incident that hasn't happened. My stress level is greater than I can manage some days. Then people tell me "don't let it get to you." What kind of response is that? emoticon

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8/30/13 7:13 A

Don't you just love it when someone keeps trying to push your buttons and
when you react you get told:...."You're Too Sensitive."

{ that point I want to strangle them...}


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