I don't usually feel I am boring but it kind of depends on the situation whether other people will agree or not. I don't particularly care if everyone likes me or finds me fascinating. I can be kind of quiet but I have a curious mind. I like finding things out. I pay attention to what other people are saying. I don't talk for hours about my particular interest that others do not share. I detest small talk but I have opinions on lots of real topics. I'm not just like everyone else. I have been known to make humorous remarks.
I suppose it also depends on what you are talking about when you feel people think you are boring. If you are talking about someone who does the same job every day, doesn't climb mountains or jet off to Spain as being boring then that is different than being bored by someone who drones on for hours about insurance or sports and will only eat plain boiled chicken with white potatoes.
When I do feel that I am boring it is usually because I am feeling jealous or frustrated. When I feel someone else is boring it is usually because they don't try anything new, are focused too much on one thing and don't try to have an equal exchange with others.
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Yes, all of the time.
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3/11/13 4:38 P
I don't think about what others think about me!
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3/11/13 4:12 P
Ever? Sure but I would say the majority of the time people would say not. Definitely an extrovert which may mean that I simply bore people because I'm usually always "on".
Pretty much a loud and proud Texan!
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I bore myself stiff, so I'm sure some people do find me boring, yes. Oh well, it is what it is!
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I'm kind of boring most of the time, but I guess some others think not. I associate with people I think are a little boring at times. But what is boring? Someone who doesn't share your interests. Analytical people are boring to Interpersonal people and vice versa, and we all help make the world go round.
In the meantime, 'Life's a ball, if only you know it, and its all just waiting for you. You're alive so come on and show it. You've got a lot of living to do.'
I try to be as "spicey" as possible, and if there's people out there that don't like it, too bad!
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I think I'm boring, though my husband and other family try to convince me I'm wrong. I guess I don't give myself enough credit.
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yes, but who cares
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It is my considered opinion, which are like rectums everyone has one, that if you spend time worrying about what other people think of you, then you are in for a lifetime of misery. While in the army 6yrs I met a lot of people in various countries, one of which made me a 100% disabled veteran with PTSD, who has decided to retreat from the society of people who won!t stop pushing their opinions on me, and understand that I just don!t give a damn. I must say although they tried to kill me the vietamese people are for the most part humble and mind their own business. If everyone in this country did this there would be no boring, ugly, or nosy people, so without rambling AND ranting on I say to u, don!t worry about it, be happy, life is short.
I try not to think or care what others think of me. I do what makes me happy, I am a simple person and pretty easy to please. I like my exercise, gardening, love working in my yard and spending time with my kids and hubby. If someone thinks I am boring that is really their problem,not mine. A good quote and I can't remember who said it but, here it is.. "it is none of my business what others think of me".
As for you (O.P.) is there evidence that you are boring? Evidence that would prove to yourself that you are boring? 'Boring is as boring does' so if you are not boring then this subject is resolved.
3/11/13 8:42 A
Invisible? That's awful. Unless one wants to be invisible, I suppose. But do people ever want to be invisible? Do you think sometimes we make ourselves invisible in social situations due to insecurity? I try to remind myself that other people are as nervous as I am, and that they'll be pleased if I start talking to them first. Some people snub me, but many are nicer than I thought they'd be.
3/11/13 8:30 A
definitely. I think so myself sometimes
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3/11/13 8:26 A
boring & invisible
3/10/13 9:09 P
Yes all the time. I think I am boring. Not sure what I need to do because I do not like new people or new things. Makes me feel way out of my comfort zone and I dont like that. I dont like change at all.
3/10/13 8:33 P
Thanks, Leanie! Just got off the phone with a longtime girlfriend, and she said the same thing. I guess I worry that at almost 50, maybe I should settle for a "good guy," but the "smart" side of my brain said that I enjoy my own company and that of my friends, so there's no reason to be bored with another person. I should let him find someone who appreciates him. If anyone is worried that he/she is boring, I'd say find things you love, and do them. One of my favorite friends has run marathons, is now doing triathlon training, is working on a novel, and is always getting friends together for food, or parties, or to volunteer at charity events. She also expresses her opinion, and doesn't always say things are "nice" to keep the peace. It stinks when I start dating someone, and he has no leisure time activities of his own. If you don't know what your passions are, try different things.
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Dear Digdeeperstill...Just reading your post..here's a thought..If you feel that he's boring..quite wasting his time and yours..Take a break..maybe when you have had dating experiences with others who aren't so accommodating..you will appreciate him, if he's still available...and then again..maybe you will find someone to stimulate your brain..who is just the person for you..One thing I have found..there is no perfect someone..we all have to make our minds up what is the best for all parties. I found a great guy..but honestly I wouldn't of chose him..if I hadn't had some horrid experiences previous to him. He is short and slender and I always desired a tall big man..One who was a real man..Well my short skinny guy is the best..I am so thankful for him..Good luck in your search and please..do yourself and him a favor..take time away from the situation.
Edited by: LEANIE64 at: 3/10/2013 (19:57)
3/10/13 7:47 P
Funny, I have maybe the opposite problem. I have been dating a man for three months, and I'm starting to think we should stop seeing each other, for being with him is boring. He is so accommodating. Anything I want to do is is fine. My friends are great. My kids are great. My cooking is great. It's ridiculous. We go to watch a beautiful sunset, and all he does is repeat over and over again, "This is so nice!" I'd much rather be arguing about politics or whatever, or be talking about something real. Am I crazy? He is employed, stable, decent looking, relatively fit, and takes me to nice places. Nut he wants to go out this coming weekend (after I blew him off this weekend), and I have no interest. Help?
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Probably, I'm not really a people person.
3/10/13 5:18 P
No. Unless I want to be boring because I don't feel like talking.
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3/10/13 4:42 P
We all have bad days, it happens. We just hope it doesn't happen every day.
Have things become status quo at home ? There's nothing worse than getting stuck in a rut. If you've been doing the same thing day in and day out with no variation, people might consider you boring. Why not do something different. How about shocking the wife and bring home some flowers just "because" it's not her birthday, it's not your anniversary, it's not Valentine's Day or Mother's Day. It's just nice to have fresh flowers on the table.
Take the family out bowling. kids enjoy bowling, don't they ?
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