KJ, head to the library and get The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Read it. Learn it. Live it. I keep a CD copy in my car to reinforce the changes I'm making.
that book changed my life. You have to learn to politely (but firmly) say NO. It takes work and lots of practice.
But YOU need to be somewhere near the top of your own priority list.
Bailing the same people out over and over does not help them, and it hurts you. They never learn anything from their mistakes (except where to find somebody to bail them out again).
How do I know this? I have a 52 year old sis who never has a penny to her name. I know not to give her any money that I cannot afford to never see again.
I have a 40 year old brother who still lives in dad's basement. He's been in prison multiple times (mostly drug related), but 'everybody is against him'. (insert eye roll emote here) Also did time for identity theft on dad. Dad didn't press charges the first few times, but when my brother used dad's info to open a Home Depot account, Home Depot insisted on him being charged. And I'm GLAD they did! I love my brother, but it's pretty sad to have to lock your car in your parent's driveway and keep your purse always in sight inside my dad's home.
Edited by: OBIESMOM2 at: 10/22/2012 (12:31)