I'm so sorry to hear of your brothers diagnosis, I know you have support but a group meeting for caregivers and family who are dealing with Alzheimer's in the family may help you even more communicating with those who are going through the very same thing. I worked in the medical field for 20 years and I only came across one person who I worked directly with one on one who was diagnosed at 59 he was a very successful person in every way family, work and friends and this diagnosis was very hard for him and his family. His disease progressed fast and that is why I was brought in as a private duty caregiver in home, he was taking a medication that was supposed to slow the progression of Alzheimer's but I don't believe it worked. When I could no longer work for him because he actually became violent even though he was prior a very sweet man even when I had started working for him one year earlier. The family replaced me with another caregiver for a short time and when they realized that wasn't working because he wandered from the home and became violent with that caregiver also. He was placed in a home for alzheimer patients, he had two adult children and was divorced and most of the responsibility was left on one adult child because the other one he just couldn't deal with the situation he would deal with the money, me and or house responsibilities but it was beyond him to deal with his dad.
From my personal stand point I've dealt with Alzheimer's only briefly as a young person when my great great grandmothers was still living she was 104 yrs when she died, so I wouldn't count that as young for Alzheimer's. I believe she dealt with the disease for about 16 years before she died, but given she was in a very advance age I won't contribute just Alzheimer's to her death. My grandmother kept her at home and cared for her, it was a different situation because she was bed bound and wasn't able to wander. She didn't remember any of us except for my grandmother and maybe every now and again she would remember my mom and my uncle but that was rare and just a few of our family members. She would sing church songs all night keeping my grandmother woke lots of the nights and she would sleep most of the day. But she seemed happy until the end of her days, she didn't cry, get mad or angry that we could tell or fight us like I've seen other alzheimer patients do. This disease is so confusing and vastly different from person to person it's hard to tell how things will go or what to do.
The best thing to do is have a support team to really rely on, best of care to your brother, you and the rest of your family.
Edited by: FITMOM1969 at: 10/7/2012 (21:34)