We are having problems with our 12 year old. She is very belligerent and thinks she does nothing wrong. She got into serious trouble at school and is now in a special program under the guidance of a parole officer. I am praying this will help her to realize that her actions are wrong. Also, that she will feel bad about hurting other people.
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11/22/13 11:20 A
My girls, husband and I have been in therapy for 2 years now and I think it's the best thing we could have done. We have some nice sessions and then we have some knock down, drag out sessions, like last night. It's really hard hearing the people you love tell you honest things about yourself but in the long run it's the best thing. The past two years have brought my middle daughter (18) and I closer together. My oldest daughter (20) hasn't been to as many sessions due to being at school but she's more mature and gets things that the youngest (14) doesn't...obviously. Right now, there's a lot of stress in all our of lives and we take it out on each other sometimes without thinking of how it makes the other person feel. I admit that I do this a lot; but I always try to go back and apologize for my behavior once we've all calmed down. This is something that really hit home with therapy.
Hang in there and I wish you the best with you and your daughter. Remember....you're doing this to make your lives better and as long as you both stay with and take it seriously....you will succeed! Good luck!
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10/27/13 8:30 A
The first thing is...try to breath. Some of the things you are going to hear arent going to be positive, as I am sure you knew this. You cant change it you can just reflect on it and think about how you can help solve the problem or be supportive/receive support. Secondly, I can't stress this enough but I know some of the things talked bout in therapy sessions can be hurtful or even make people angry. Take those feelings and box them up and leave them at the counselors place. I remember my mom yelling at me or throwing things I used to say in our one on one sessions and I started to clam right up. Last, accept yourself and your daughter. Family issues can be some of the most painful issues to address. Just love and support not only your daughter but yourself as well. Great job on taking that first step. Good luck with everything sweetheart.
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25 10/11/13 7:16 P
Hi, It is good that you guys are going to counseling ,I imagine it is rough since you probably have to address the issues so you can work thru them..It will get better in time :)
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10/8/13 11:41 P
Daughter and I went to our first counseling session today. Good counselor; don't know where we go from here. All I want to do is cry and curl up. Any ideas to help? Please!
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