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LINDY2202
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2/14/12 1:48 A

Glad you feel better Sarah. Keep doing your thing...getting HEALTHY! Have a good day. emoticon



VALANIS9335
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2/13/12 8:47 P

I hear ya! It can get so annoying. I think that these people don't know how to approach the subject the right way. Each one of us is different and we shouldn't compare ouselves, but embrace our uniqueness. Brush it off, just like you said and stay focused on what makes you happy and where you are headed!



SARAH19K
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2/13/12 5:08 P

Thank you all for your words of wisdom. I'm taking them to heart and brushing off any comments that anyone says to me if they are negative. Also, i loved to funny comments too hahaha. I think the women in my family are exagerrating or were unhealthy. Thanks you all for the support!



MSGNOME
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2/13/12 10:35 A

hahahhaha please say what zorbs said!! That's perfect!



LINDY2202
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2/13/12 1:52 A

Tell them...when I am YOUR age, I plan on having a 20 inch waist. Then walk away.


haha.

Just kidding. Kinda emoticon

Edited by: LINDY2202 at: 2/13/2012 (01:54)


ADRIENALINE
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2/12/12 11:55 P

I'd have to let get know that saying that makes me feel lousy and I don't want to hear it anymore.



MRSWILKI
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2/12/12 10:26 P

Yep, my mom likes to say how she weighed 127 pounds when she graduated high school (she is the same height as me) and weighed 129 after college. Woop dee doo. :) It used to make me feel insecure but now I just ignore it.



ZORBS13
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2/12/12 7:56 P

I'd be so tempted to reply, "I wasn't around in the 1870s like you."



Edited by: ZORBS13 at: 2/12/2012 (19:56)


CURLYBRI88
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2/12/12 7:04 P

Not this particular situation but everyone in my family has been married or engaged by my age, and family members are constantly reminding me of how they had x amount of boyfriends by my age, or were married, etc.
Sometimes it gets to me, but most times I try to ignore them.
Their stories/life situations aren't going to make a knight in shining armor run up and sweep me off my feet, just like her telling you about her 20" waist isn't going to make that happen to you (at least not right away). Why let yourself feel inadequate for something that isn't even realistic for you at the present time?
I, instead, focus on what I want in my life and achieving my goals for me in my own time. If those stories don't motivate you, throw them out. Focus on the encouraging words you've said to yourself or heard from family members.



MISSRUTH
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2/12/12 7:37 A

I SO agree with Archi. When those older family members were your age, all women wore girdles, every single day. No matter how thin they already were, to begin with. And they wore bras that made their bosoms look really pointy, like weapons.

Let it go in one ear and right out the other. From some people we learn how TO behave, and from some people we learn how NOT to behave. This is a definite example of how NOT to behave. The only lesson in it, is not to ever repeat that kind of talk to anyone else-- it is not a good motivator.



ARCHIMEDESII
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2/12/12 6:36 A

Sarah,

I think every single person in the world has a family member who likes to stick needles under our finger nails ! In short, some times our loved ones can get under our skin.

Don't take her words seriously or personally. Some grandparents will tell you how they had to walk 10 miles each way to school too ! There are folks who do like exaggerating stories to get attention. Maybe this aunt did have a 20" waist. A good corset can do that for some women.

Just shrug off her comments. If you let them get to you, you'll just end up miserable. And that's no good. Some people really do say things because they want attention.




MBHRD27
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2/12/12 6:22 A

don't listen to them, just continue your journey. you will succeed if you stick to it



SARAH19K
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2/12/12 2:20 A

ugh, I can't tell you how many times one of my older female family members say..." well when i was your age I had a 20 inch waist." It makes me feel pressured and upset. Anyone have a similar problem?



 
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