I recall growing up having friends and parents who were less than supportive, and I was embarrassed to do things in front of them.
I hope you can get through to her.
My friend and I agree that we certainly don't have the moves down right. I was never a dancer (see first sentence above for a partial reason).
However, we keep moving along (whether in the right direction or not), and are getting the benefits of exercise out of it.
It's a sad person that sees the necessity to downgrade others just to make themselves feel better (in their own eyes)
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I hope she is back to her old self! It is always that one person who can deflate someone's ego.
I remember when my dad was talking about losing weight, my grandpa told him, 'well, you lost a whole lot of weight before and then you put it all right back on, and then more.' If it would have been me, I probably would have been devastated, but he just said, 'Yeah, I am doing it healthier this time though.'
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Wow, that's not a very nice friend! Hopefully, she'll recover quickly.
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This is sad and I feel bad for the student who has lost her enthusiasm.
At the same time, none of us should be doing or not doing anything to impress other people. Probably 80% of the people who take Zumba classes are bad dancers--so what?
We all need to have the guts to take care of ourselves and exercise even if everybody is laughing at us while we do it. I've been laughed at in a Zumba class--by a person who couldn't do a salsa basic, no less. I also had someone try to start a fist fight with me in class. I've danced next to Gina Grant--she is so tiny through the torso that it is shocking when you compare her to me.
You know what? I keep going, I keep trying. I keep up and I don't give up.
If you let other people control your actions, or even your enthusiasm--it's just another form of making excuses.
I have a friend that is like that. One time we were out at a bar and dancing and she said I couldn't dance. (the thing is I don't have rhythm and I know it but really she doesn't either) It was like she thought it was funny and she could joke about it. I told her she was just plain mean and wouldn't go out without anymore if she was going to be rude. Who cares what you look like as long as your having fun.
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I feel SO BADLY for the student who said that! Sounds like she needs new friends!
I love zumba, and find myself not turning the right way, or whatever, but it gives me such a thrill to look around the class at the various shapes and sizes and ages and how we're all having fun even though we may be flailing about.
I'm so glad you told her to have fun, and glad to hear from another member about how your instructor put you in your place, so to speak, about comparing yourself to her.
We are ALL wonderful, and we're on our way to getting fit regardless of our size, shape, and age. Do a happy dance about that!
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2,071 9/7/12 10:27 P
I take Zumba from a tiny, dynamic dancing "thang"...who is a single mom, one 5-6 yo daughter, and she is a spitfire who works HARD to keep her body tiny, agile, moving and slim. I felt like an elephant beside my instructor - honestly, I'm 6' tall, she is 5'2", I'm 210 on a good day and she is 109 on a "fat day"...she was doing this "shimmy" kinda thing next to me and I looked in the mirror and said, "OMG! I'm so THICK compared to you!!!!" and she stopped, she said over the music that I wasn't thick, I was thinning...and after class she said she NEVER wanted to hear that from me again. That we are all made differently, we are all different shapes and sizes so that we are all different and she always wanted to be "tall and willowy" like I was on my way to being...and that I was NEVER to put myself down or compare myself to others...I can tell you that your faith and belief in every one of your students is INVALUABLE to them. Honestly, I would still be beating myself up over being thick (4 months later) if my instructor had handled it differently...but honestly, I don't think of myself that way. I think of myself as moving, and thinning...because my hard-working instructor told me so...and yes, FenwayGirl, some people are just mean and hurtful...
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3,147 9/7/12 9:43 P
Did your student think she could dance? My zumba instructor is a great dancer. No one in my zumba class is a good dancer. The important thing is when the music starts and we're following the instructor we feel like we're ready for Broadway. It's all about attitude. We don't care what others think because we're having fun while exercising. Some people, like your student's friends, thrive on negativity. It might help if she doesn't discuss Zumba with them and continues to have a great time in your class.
Edited by: DIANE7786 at: 9/7/2012 (21:47)
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10 9/7/12 9:23 P
A students attended my zumba class today, she was awefully dull when she is usually bubbly the entire hour. I asked whether she is under the weather today, I don't want her to strain herself, though she loves zumba and I'm happy to see her every time. With her sad little face, she told me that when she was asked to demonstrate what she learns in the class by her friend, she happily danced. However, instead of appraising her effort to stay healthy and exercise regularly, all she got was giggling and "You Can't Dance!" I tried to comfort her, but still she has already got the words into her.
I just can't express how disappointed and upset when things like this occur, when someone is trying to stay positive and using the right way to achieve her goal, a few careless words just crushed someone's confidence in a split second.
"Don't ever, ever, let anyone tell you that you're a bad dancer, you're having a great time in the class, right? That's what matters!" I said.
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