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SLIMANDTONED
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3/30/12 7:11 A

yes: that's why I still haven't lost the weight after all this time.



SMIDGON
Posts: 4,177
3/30/12 7:03 A

Yes.
I can start out doing good, then, wham! Something will come up, I'll think Oh well, just this one time won't hurt, I really will stick to plan tomorrow. But, as we all know tomorrow doesn't come!



IN102WIN
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3/30/12 7:02 A

Yes and its called a binge!



DRRPH35749
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3/30/12 6:55 A

yes, he urge is there all the time some times i give in but most of the time thank God i don't



BLUESPAGAN
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3/30/12 6:26 A

I think we all do this in some way or another. I know for me I self sabotage when I have been doing good all day long and then I notice that I have some left over calories which means I can have an evening snack! That is usually when I go overboard and have candy, soda or some type of pastry which puts me over my allowable intake. I feel horrible afterwards. Last night I almost did that (I make an awesome snack consisting of peanut butter sandwiched between 2 ritz crackers and then dipped in chocolate) but I stopped myself because I have to CONSTANTLY remind myself of how good I have been feeling since eating right and how bad I feel when I don't. So instead I had a piece of wheat toast with raspberry jam and a cup of hot tea. It was a good snack and I love raspberry anything so it was win win for me.



TENNISJIM
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3/30/12 6:19 A

No way!



128PERFECT
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3/30/12 6:13 A

Yes, I do and I wish I could figure out why I do that.



TRYINGHARD54
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3/30/12 5:44 A

yes



LOSTLIME
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3/30/12 5:41 A

yes,I have.



ODIEJO2
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3/30/12 5:27 A

Of course! I will get so far and then do something stutpid and have to pick p and start all over again. I fond that drinking water before eating helps feeling full so I don't eat as much. It is getting much better



SCULLEN84
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3/30/12 5:10 A

Yes, I am without a doubt my own worst enemy!



SCULLEN84
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3/30/12 5:08 A

I am without a doubt, 100% my own worst enemy!



BAMBI31311
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3/30/12 2:47 A

Unfortunately, yes at times I do. Two steps forward, one step back !!!! A real challenge.



NOREENB2
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3/30/12 2:32 A

I was just self sabotaging and I came here and saw it as a topic. I'm tired and frustrated of my food binges. Trying to keep positive about the whole thing. It seems I am constantly fighting my urge to eat to console and comfort me and yet afterward my body feels so uncomfortable! As many have acknowledged, today is a new start.



RAFKA3
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3/29/12 9:02 P

Not as much as I used to! I have been able to control it better!

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MISSKIMOH
Posts: 107
3/29/12 9:02 P

Yeah. Mostly on the weekends. But I'm trying to do better.



KMVBBAM
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3/29/12 8:52 P

sometimes



MOMWATTY
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3/29/12 8:41 P

I just logged in quick to put my food tracker in and I see this note off to the right of my screen. "Does anyone self sabotage?" I sit hear sick to my stomach after eating 4 pieces of pizza and 5 wings. Sabotage? You bet! I just did it and after a day that someone gave me a compliment about how I looked! Pissed myself right off! So what next?????? Tomorrow is a new day and I get another chance. I need to move on and do better tomorrow!
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SHE-LION
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3/29/12 7:55 P

When I get the hang of it, I won't do it with food. I will do it with excuses on why I can't DO anything. I will use everything from being too sleepy to my job to the crack in the sidewalk because I procrastinate and just don't go on ahead and do it. emoticon



UMBILICAL
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3/29/12 7:34 P

Frequently



PANFRIEDTROUT
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3/29/12 7:28 P

you betcha!

I sabatoge my efforts on a semi*regular basis ~ done it all my life & not just with food or fitness. I've killed myself on jobs, relationships .... whatever.

I've struggled to understand the "why" of it so i could develop a plan for when it happens. and the self*recriminations are so vicious! everything can be going along just fine & then i have to throw a monkey wrench into the works and then scramble to salvage whatever i can.

@ TORIAMAE ... I really liked your response & think I'll add it to my arsenal.

the one positive thing i can say is that no matter how many times i self*destruct, i don't give up (or at least when i do, it's extremely temporary) and so the hope is that if i just hang in there, at some point i'll be the best me ever, clear across the board.






AQUAGIRL08
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3/29/12 6:21 P

I do sometimes and it makes me mad at myself. I just move on to tomorrow and do better from that point on.



MICHELLE_391
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3/29/12 6:16 P

Oh goodness, yes I do. I think though, I self-sabatoge, because as much as I want to be lean, strong, and healthy, change frightens me. Going by past performance, every time I get rid of some weight, I stop tracking and stop trying. Yes, I am mental, I know.



FLOWINGWATER
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3/29/12 5:32 P

Yep! For me it stems from thinking that I "deserve" this food treat or that food treat. For me, the way around it is to not deprive myself. I can eat anything I want. The key is to log it, and eat it in moderation. As long as I'm not feeling deprived, I don't fall prey to self-sabotage.



TAMELARENEE
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3/29/12 4:38 P

I've lost the same 20 pounds at least twice and before that 10 pounds 10 different times, With all the dieting I've done I should be in the negative weight catagory. Now I have lost 20 pounds and still need to lose 10 to get to the place I originally began.
I know people do overcome this mental pogo and I literally pray everyday for the day when I overcome it too. I feel better when working toward a goal, than when I'm simply outgrowing clothes, and that's the only reason I haven't given up completely.

So, sadly my answer is yes. When I write this it is discouraging to me, but I hope to learn here on Sparkpeople why I do this and to eventually stop doing it. So I keep coming back daily trying to take several steps in the right direction. emoticon

Edited by: TAMELARENEE at: 3/29/2012 (16:47)


DIDS70
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3/29/12 4:03 P

is the grass green? is the sky blue? Is the pope Catholic?-- Self sabotage is what I do best. I don't necessarily do it through my food choices and i try not to skip my exercises, but more deadly is through my mind. With food and exercise I go through the motions, but if you are not 100% committed, there is no way to succeed. Working on mind issues.



CWITT10
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3/29/12 3:53 P

I'm good at making excuses to not workout or to indulge in something I shouldn't. Trying to break these habits is hard!



TORIAMAE
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3/29/12 3:25 P

In the past, I definitely did this. A lot.

In fact, more than just skipping a workout or having a second helping it was eating a ton of ice cream, or other such junk.

This time around, I don't seem to have this issue. And I think part of it is that I am changing who I think I am.

I've decided that I am an athlete. So, I don't skip workouts because athletes don't skip workouts. I don't eat junky food because athletes don't eat junky food.

I've embraced the mentality that my identity is shaped one decision at a time...so I might as well make the decisions that make sense, that shape the identity I want to have.

So whatever your magic phrase is...whether you see yourself as an athlete, a healthy person, a supermodel...whatever. Adopt the habits of that person to become that person.



CHLOEMINOR
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3/29/12 3:15 P

I get why I do short-sighted things when I'm tired and already not doing well -- sensible diet and exercise are hard, and when I'm tired and depressed I can't do as many hard things.

I don't know why I do short-sighted things when I'm otherwise doing well. I don't think it's a secret desire not to succeed. I think it might be because I don't want the long term to be *so long* -- when I've been good for a week, why do I have to plan to be good for a month? Let alone the rest of my life? (I know why. It's just tiring to think about the whole thing at once!)



SSIMON74
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3/29/12 3:03 P

I'm drinking a Dr. Pepper as we speak so that's a big Yes. Then I will feel bad in about an hour.



LEMONADEFISH
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3/29/12 2:18 P

In 2008 I think, I worked really hard to lose 25 pounds. I also started running, and got my health in good order. As soon as I had a good doctor's report, I thought, 'oh good - I'm done,' and promptly stopped. Now I'm pretty much back where I started, only it's a lot more difficult to stay on track this time. Ug. I've got no idea why I sabotage myself, but I sure do it!



NWLIFESRC
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3/29/12 2:02 P

All the time



SUZANNEHYMAN
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3/29/12 1:29 P

go through cycles where I do. Usually not. Although right now seem to be in one. Hopefully admitting it here will be first step towards taking action.



MRSQUTPIE55
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3/29/12 1:10 P

Yes, even though I have been trying to stop munching. I always break down. Yesterday, I eat so much candy I finally had to go to bed to stop! Today, I am again pledging not to do not again, so here I go.



GRAMMYNSC
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3/29/12 1:10 P

I don't!!!!! I have enough people around me doing that already...no need for me to do it to myself.....seems like no one gives a crap how hard this is.....im loosing faith in the human race....



GW197234
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3/29/12 1:07 P

Yes, I have been doing it almost all my life! I start a fitness routine and within a week, I am off of it again...I so easily give my self excuses like, I will never lose the weight because my thyroid is bad (I have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis) so I think, "if I do all this walking, it's all going to be for nothing...I have portion control down. I can't eat a lot and I usually don't, but it is WHAT I eat that again, plays in my head that I cannot do it. This time around, I am just going to start out slow and not worry about whether or not I am wasting time.

But yes, I self sabotage...



PMJAHN
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3/29/12 12:40 P

Not in the last week. I love to graze for food, you know have a couple of pieces of cheese or a slice of some cold cut when I go in to the fridge... munch a bit on various goodies that are put out in the lunchroom at work, 75 calories here, 75 calories there pretty soon your talking about an extra meal or two. Last night was tough, I really wanted to just see what we had in the fridge. Grabbed an extra ice water instead. Hopefully, I can keep it up.



HEALTHYOTTER
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3/29/12 12:33 P

Oh, yeah. My perspective is that changing my life, my physical body, my mindset is challenging work. Of course I will slip up / self-sabotage sometimes. I get a lot of comfort from routines. Changes, while positive and energizing are not as comfortable for me. I try to look at my setbacks with compassion. A few times I've caught myself BEFORE; before buying those sweets at the store, before I've copped out of a workout. If I can catch my thinking at the "You can't succeed" stage, I'll argue back, yes, I can, I am, look at how much I've done already! Catching the downswing is the best. If the chocolate cupcake is already eaten, I aim for "what can I learn from this".



YOGAANDBIKE
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3/29/12 12:16 P

How do we overcome self-sabotage?



CLOUDCAT13
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3/29/12 11:59 A

All too often. Mine is with food...I'll make up for it later...I'll work extra hard at the gym...and so on. I know I'm not losing weight as fast as I could be, but I try not to let a slip-up kill my motivation completely. Take things one step at a time.



MRSJOCCO
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3/29/12 11:31 A

That's my natural tendency, so now I'm working on being conscious of it and talking myself through it. emoticon



TOMALLE
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3/29/12 11:28 A

I'm so good at finding excuses:

Oh, I had a stressful day so its okay to overeat or skip the workout.
Oh, I did a really hard workout yesterday, so its okay to skip it today.
Oh, I'll workout twice as long tomorrow so its okay to overeat today.

And on and on it goes . . . emoticon



TARAFROMTX1
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3/29/12 10:56 A

Guilty also... wish I knew how to make myself stop!!



SHERRIE59
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3/29/12 10:54 A

Yes, I'm guilty of this sometimes.



MANDIETERRIER1
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3/29/12 10:45 A

Yes I have been at this a couple years and I still sabotage myself. I am finally losing the fifteen pounds I gained from last years sabotage



SOON2BSMALL1313
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3/29/12 10:44 A

i have issues with all of these things. What I'm trying to do is always have healthy snacks on had and less unhealthy ones. I am now leaving my wallet at home with my money and debit cards so i have no excuse to eat downstairs. I am done using im to tired as an excuse not to do someting but sometimes it just sabatoge even though i fight it :( it's hard to over come but i am taking steps to do just that



MELLYDIVA
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3/29/12 10:34 A

I think this is something I've struggled with for a long time. I'm usually pretty good throughout the day at eating well, but sometimes I let it all go in the evening. I'm trying to get to a point where I keep lots of healthy snacks around, but still little treats too so I don't feel like I'm denying myself those things. But, I'm also trying to get to a place where when I do have a crappy eating day, I pick myself up & get right back on track asap. And also trying to stop beating myself up so much when I have those days too.



MYZENIN10
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3/29/12 10:33 A

Yes, when I start to see consistent results on the scale, I will go overboard with a meal, or two, or all day long. Then I gain a couple pounds, then get mad and ask why I did that to myself.



DREBEAR
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3/29/12 10:11 A

I don't skip any workouts. But when I am out shopping I buy crap that I know I shouldnt. It is usually one item not a bunch, like I bought two fruit pies on monday they were two for a dollar. Now I have a cart full of fresh veggies and fruit and healthy food. But at that point and time I could not resist them... I knew I shouldn't get them but I did.. It seems like as I really start getting down in weight and people start telling me I look great is when I tend to self destruct... So now I have to re focus myself. Go with a list and only buy whats on there... That's the new plan of action..Good luck...

Edited by: DREBEAR at: 3/29/2012 (10:13)


SOON2BSMALL1313
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3/29/12 9:30 A

When things are going the way they should do you find your self taking second helpnigs even as youre telling your self not to. Or skipping those workouts you know you need to do? I am trying very hard to realzie when I'm starting to self sabatoge and I', catching it more often but I was wondering if anyone else does it? And how do they stop it?



 
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