Muscular men are very attractive. I like a "thick" man with "muscles" and/or a lil meat on his bone. I do not like obese/heavy men nor do I like really skinny men. I'd choose the slightly overweight guy before I choose the skinny guy and I have been like that since I was a teenager. Back in my "shallower" days, I've turned down guys because they were "too skinny." Too much muscle intimidates me (body builder type). Also, I am an ARM gal. I love, love the look of a man's biceps...I don't care about the abs as much, its all about the arms! Yum! ;-)
In answer to the question..no, women dont need a muscle head. We would much rather a man who treats us well and loves us. Being is shape is always nice, but its definitely not in the husband hunting list...lol
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...I think every women looks at men differently...size..shape...what ever it may be. Its what turns you on...that counts. Been married twice , both men completely different in sizes and shape. It's what makes you happy.
i know that this is the guy's message room. but i wanna tell you no. real women just want a heath guy. so keep pushing your self to get to a heather life. as is when my husband and i first got to gather yes he had a six and i was alot slimier. but then i started cooking. know he doesn't have a six pack any more, but he is still at a heath size. i just gotta get back there. so i hope you get where you need to do with your self, mind, and body.
Any form of fit is fine with me. My s.o. has gone all through the sizes by now anyway. But in the past I just seemed to date all types that went from bone skinny to lifter. Every size has its natural personality/habit trade offs. The lifter was obsessed with eating clean and the bone skinny ones were obsessed with not overeating and any time I gained weight.
Emo: Genre of softcore punk music that integrates unenthusiastic melodramatic 17 year olds who dont smile, high pitched overwrought lyrics and inaudible guitar rifts with tight wool sweaters, tighter jeans, itchy scarfs (even in the summer), ripped chucks with favorite bands signature, black square rimmed glasses, and ebony greasy unwashed hair that is required to cover at least 3/5 ths of the face at an angle. ::sniff sniff:: "The Demise of the Siberian Traintracks of Our Rusty Forgotten Unblemished Love" sounds like it would make a great emo band name. ::cry::
Boisins...yeah, emos attract, you are right. Emos usually have low self esteem, too. I have several emo friends, all of them have low self esteem but they dont want to admit it, but their actions prove it.
Ive never seen a emo chick with a muscular guy. Of course, emos probably seek other emos, because they are the same 'type', same as big people USUALLY pair with other big people. There are exceptions to every rule.
i think its really great if guys want to work out and get really fit and build muscle, just dont build too much muscle in your heads... choosing a partner for their looks only lasts as long as their looks..or until the next beautiful person catches your eye when u choose a partner it should be because you cant deny it, no matter what they look like, of course, we all want someone next to us we can be proud to be seen with... but, not only that i see alot of really great looking people who are so into themselves that they could nt see the right one unless they were standing next to them in the mirror, and maybe not even then...
The 'problem' seems to be that no one wants to be labeled as "VAIN" hence, shallow.
"It depends" is a cop out so I ain't buyin that answer.
Also, the question isn't assuming anything such as; are you currently married or in a relationship. We're also ALLOWED to like whatever we want, HOWEVER, often times 'others' will judge folks negatively if they don't agree with that person therefore someone (and a lot of someones at that) think that vanity and selfishness are BAD so the person who says they'll pick the muscluar is therefore LAMB-BASTED!!!!
Also, "Muscular guys are gross?" How about "Fat chicks are gross?" The reason the first comment is ALLOWED and accepted is that at the very least the muscular guy is enjoying a better quality of life than the fat chick (who is assumed to NOT be enjoying her quality of life).
Don't allow folks to get away with statements that say muscular guys are gross, if you see that aggressively oppose that just like someone (again, a LOT of someones) would hunt you down IRL and beat you silly if you said Fat Chicks suck!
Here's the best part; someone will totally mis-read my post here and lamb-BASTE me!
ok,i'll be perfectly honest here.i would never go out with a guy who doesn't attract me physically,no matter how good a person he is.just as i would never be with a guy who sucks but looks good.i also don't like men who are very muscular,it's just gross. the perfect balance would be the way my husband looks like(he's the guy in the photo with me).just my opinion.and don't think i'm a bitch for saying this cause all you boys know that if you had to choose between megan fox and rosie o'donnell you would instantly pick the former. :)))
Sure muscular guys are attractive however I personally also think that Jack Black is cute ie The Holiday. I think Seth Rogen is hot and he isn't muscular.
I am not attracted to skinny guys but that's because I am a big girl myself. I want a guy that makes me feel smaller. I shouldn't be able to pick him and kick his butt. Whether that guy is heavier or muscular it really doesn't matter to me. I have found men attractive on the outside then gotten to know them better and thought they were complete tools on the inside. In the long run personality, humour, wit and how they treat me count for more than how "hot" they are.
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ARMSPORTS: You're right, it is tough to call. There are a ton of factors that go into attraction. Although I don't really buy the skinny guy being more apt to cheat. Certain men cheat and certain men don't. That has more to do with are they happy at home, do they love their mate, are they still attracted to their mate or is the guy just a complete jerk. But with our 'species' the nice thing is that there are tons of choices for all types of people to find the right mate that they are happy with - no matter what the reason is.
BOISINS: Personally, and this is just MY opinion, but I think women like their men to have some degree of muscle or girth simply because they want to know that they can be defended if need be or 'rescued' if their life is in danger. Attitude can go a long way here too. A woman feels comfort from knowing that they will be taken care of, at least mine does. She doesn't need me to take care of her, but she knows that if someone threatens her or our family I'm going to do everything in my power and whatever it takes to eliminate that threat, and that gives her security. By the way, I'm not ripped or cut. I do lift weights and exercise and I have have weight loss/toning goals I'm trying to reach. Ultimately, I want to be healthy and look healthy for my wife so we can spend a long time together.
Yes they do but its a matter of opinion.....I dont think they like "juice head" look but a lean muscular athletic body is something I'm they dont mind. thats like asking men if they want a fit chick or a fat chick.
I think the issue is how much muscle. There's a difference between bodybuilder and toned/defined. I think that some are turned on by either one. I also think that as people get older, the appearance factor decreases some.
All things being equal, sure. But...things are never equal. Nine times out of ten the guy that is chubby or bald or short or whatever he considers unappealing is going to work harder than the more "attractive" guy for the women's affections. Plus the woman might be thinking this attractive/fit guy is more likely to cheat or maybe expect too much of her in terms of her appearance.
So if we are talking initial attraction, fit guy wins out. If we are talking long term relationship, it's too tough to call.
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I think we can all throw out the guys with biceps the sizes of cantaloupes... I'm pretty sure that's not what the question is referring too. You don't have to tip toe around the question and try to nice/PC.
We know, and KJ backs me on this, that a woman prefers a fit/athletic/muscular man even if she won't admit it and will pick that guy every time over a guy that carries weight around his belly, has love handles and chubby thighs, especially if the personality/intelligence/etc are equal. If all things are equal, the heavier guy has no chance.
Don't worry women, I'm not calling you all vain and it's perfectly fine to admit you would prefer a fit/muscular man. Just like most men will always choose an athletic/trim woman given the other intangibles are the same (intelligence/personality/etc).
I hate to say it, but anyone who says otherwise just isn't being honest with themselves.
Like I said before, have any of you guys with girlfriends/wives EVER heard them say the following guys are attractive:
Drew Carey? Jack Black? They have funny/witty/intelligent personalities but I'd be hard pressed to find a woman that would date one of those guys for any reason other than the $$$ they have.
Maybe I'm a jerk/vain whatever, but that's the way I see it.
As to my wife, she doesn't like the bulked-up steroid-infested type or men with an unbalanced physique (just big arms or just washboard abs for example). She says she likes a man to "look fit" and "toned." That is how I am looking now and it has its definite advantages.
What is your definition of muscular?...lol. Is it like the dudes on the cover of muscle & fitness, or is it a dude on the cover of mens health?
Most of the women I know think that body builders are gross. I have a subscription to muscle & fitness and everytime my wife pulls it out of the mail box and gives it to me, she's like, "that's nasty" I hope you never look like that...lol.
I think most women find a fit guy more attractive than a muscular guy.
No woman would EVER admit that they like muscular men without saying something along the lines of this; (in a high pitched girly voice) it doesn't matter what he looks like so long as he is kind, funny and loving on the inside....
yuck, I'm a diabetic so any more of that faux sweetness would KILL ME!
I agree that while men who are "JERKS" regardless of what they look will NOT be liked by women. However, given the choice of a two men who are equal in personality, intelligence, whatever that 'matters' to women but one was short and stock and the other was taller and muscular,....crap, is this even a CHOICE!?
Also, anyone who begins to say that bodybuilders look gross or that muscular men are yucky, let me add this; if any of us said that fat people are gross or ugly we'd get thrown OFF this site!
Maybe in the short term or in a infatuated way. But, in the long term, they want a guy who connects with them and they feel comfortable with. They want to know the guy's going to be around for the long haul.
I also think there is a line that women don't want men to cross in terms of size/muscularity. After that point the woman is likely going to think the guy is more interested in working out that spending time with her. Probably why most women would choose Jay Cutler the quarterback over Jay Cutler the bodybuilder. (Though the quarterback's $7 million annual salary factors in too!)
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I agree, if the guy isn't a "jersey shore" candidate then yes, I think they prefer a fit/muscular guy.
Although, you never hear your wife/girlfriend say, Jack Black or Drew Carey is really hot.
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