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MJEFFERSON23 SparkPoints: (32,691)
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3/14/14 11:08 P

I do not volunteer I tell them only if it comes up naturally in conversation.

TERMITEMOM Posts: 40,375
3/14/14 10:36 P


TCANNO SparkPoints: (344,365)
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3/14/14 9:08 A

some I do but others I don't

INSH8P Posts: 1,827
3/14/14 8:21 A

@HiCalGal emoticon In general, I don't tell many people about my lifestyle efforts. I feel that my efforts should "speak" for themselves. I would hope a friend would see that I am more than my outward physical appearance. My character and social justice values - besides just being pleasant to be around - should count for something. emoticon

HICALGAL Posts: 21,669
3/14/14 7:05 A

no and i dont like talking about it either. i may be the minority but thats just the way i am.

MLAN613 Posts: 18,598
3/2/14 10:39 A

Nope, unless it comes up. I wouldn't even bring it up with close friends and family. I hardly want to talk about weight loss day in and day out.

TCANNO SparkPoints: (344,365)
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3/2/14 10:10 A

if they didn't know me before then there is no point.

THROOPER62 Posts: 34,332
3/2/14 6:20 A

No, unless weight, comes up in the conversation

TENNISJIM Posts: 11,750
3/2/14 6:17 A

Only if they ask...

STEELER71 Posts: 8,048
3/2/14 5:04 A

Only if they ask.

DRLMAZ Posts: 6,937
3/2/14 3:45 A


ROXYCARIN SparkPoints: (95,965)
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3/2/14 3:43 A

Friends, family, strangers

ANARIE Posts: 13,185
3/1/14 9:10 P

There have been a few instances where I have had to. Once in a while someone who didn't know me when I was obese will make sort of a snide remark about "thin people who don't have to worry" when I turn down high-calorie food, or someone who's overweight will say, "I wish I were like you and didn't have to worry about [dieting, exercise, finding uniforms that fit, etc], and then I feel that I have to say, "Well, I used to weight 50 pounds more than I do now, so I do have to worry about what I eat, and I've experienced exactly those things." I have also had to mention it to explain certain things in my past-- If they ask about hikes in parks I visited 15 or 20 years ago, I have to say that I wasn't fit enough to do them. It gets some weird reactions; you're not supposed to be more fit in your 40s than you were in your 20s!

MAMA_CD Posts: 1,507
3/1/14 7:29 P

Usually not unless the topic comes up of weight loss.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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3/1/14 6:53 P

If the person asks, I will tell them what my exercise regime is as an endurance athlete. If they don't ask I just keep on going in the conversation.

AZULVIOLETA6 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/1/14 6:47 P

I think that the question is for those of us who have actually lost a significant amount of weight and maintained that loss.

Whether to tell people that you are starting a new diet seems like a different issue...

KRILL14 SparkPoints: (52,899)
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3/1/14 6:22 P

I try not to mention it since so many people in my life turn out to be diet sabotagers. I got a call from my doctor's office on Thursday that my blood sugar is too high and I need to be on a special diet for a while and then he will check me again to see if I need medication.
People who give me food generally give me sugary stuff which I really don't need right now!

3/1/14 5:51 P

No, I am scared that if I put it out their and I don't lose weight then I have failed in their eyes. it has happened before. I am accountable to sparkpeople though, you guys are the only ones that know of my ups and downs and failures.

CURLYLADEE SparkPoints: (95,489)
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3/1/14 4:21 P

yes if topic comes up

AZULVIOLETA6 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/1/14 2:19 P

Yes--certainly not ALL of the details, but it is something that tends to come up eventually.

A lot of my friends (old and new) are dancers, athletes, fitness enthusiasts, etc. I am very fit and have insane endurance even though I am still a bit overweight, so I often need to explain that.

Edited by: AZULVIOLETA6 at: 3/2/2014 (14:28)
ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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3/1/14 12:05 P

I don't bring it up ... but if someone asks, I don't avoid it. While I don't want to make a big deal about it, I want people to know the truth. I interact with a lot of people on an irregular basis -- just see them 3 or 4 times per year. So they have noticed changes and sometimes ask.

"Eat less. Exercise more." is what I say when asked about how.

I have also been honest about it not being all happiness and smiles as I adjust to a thinner body. People wrongly assume that the shopping for new clothes, etc. has all been fun ... and I have not hesitated to educate them about the "mental work" that has been (and continues to be) necessary to sustain my efforts.

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
3/1/14 11:52 A

Hey - if someone thinks you are fit and thin..more power to you!!!


Yeah, someone who weighs 200 pound might think I am thin, while someone who weighs 98 pounds might think I'm fat, so it's all relative. one, however, will ever think of me as fit. I seriously have to start toning this month with pilates. Unfortunately I fit that old expression to a T "Whenever I feel the urge to exercise, I lay down until the feeling passes"!!!

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,267
3/1/14 11:24 A

I made the "fit and thin" comment because when we moved to a new house, one of our new neighbors actually said that in conversation to me, when we were talking about going out to eat. (Thank you, Sparkpeople!!) She'd never known me when I was overweight. Keep in mind, too, that "fit and thin" is a relative term. Depends on how the person saying it, perceives themselves in comparison. Because people in general DO compare themselves. I'm certainly not anywhere near as fit as I could be, even though I'm at goal weight.

3/1/14 10:53 A


EELPIE Posts: 2,700
2/28/14 5:32 P

Wow - Ms. Ruth literally took the words right out of my mouth!!

Lol....except for the fit and thin part :)

DRLMAZ Posts: 6,937
2/28/14 5:29 P

only if I had weigh lost

SCOTTIEOWNER SparkPoints: (7,107)
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2/28/14 5:25 P

Nope! No one else's business!

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,292
2/28/14 1:04 P

No I wouldnt

RUBENB2003 Posts: 14,837
2/28/14 1:01 P

No, for the most part. If the subject comes up then yes.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
2/28/14 12:33 P

No, I've stopped talking about weight other than on diet sites that are by design places it is more or less safe to talk about weight, anonymously.

If someone tells me about their weight loss journey, I say something complimentary and/or supportive and don't discuss mine.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,365
2/28/14 12:33 P

I think some people treat weight loss history the way they treat their hair color....

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 2/28/2014 (19:48)
ETHELMERZ Posts: 19,710
2/28/14 12:29 P

I've never had anyone tell me "You're so fit and trim", even when I was, before, lol. But no, I wouldn't mention it unless everyone was sitting around telling their personal tales of woe, and it doesn't last that long, anyway..........

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,267
2/28/14 12:24 P

Only if the new friend raises the topic in conversation. Like, "my SIL really wants to lose 20 lbs but can't afford WW or Jenny Craig". And then I'll say, "well I lost xx pounds using Sparkpeople, and it's free". If they say "you're so fit and thin" then I usually just say, "I try to eat a well-balanced diet and get some exercise". I don't usually say anything else unless they specifically ask or say something like, "I bet you've never had a weight problem". And even then I don't go into great detail unless they're really interested.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,459
2/28/14 11:33 A

If they ask I do. Other than that I just keep it to myself.

Same with old friends. I will only volunteer information if they ask. Otherwise it is in one ear and out the other. Or you have the people who look at you and assume that because you are currently slim. That you have never had a weight problem.

Even the ones that ask go silent when I tell them it was hard work and exercise. No product hawked by Dr. Oz

Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 3/14/2014 (13:59)
SHERYLDS Posts: 17,365
2/28/14 11:14 A

After you've lost a substantial amount of weight
Do you tell a NEW friend about your struggle and show pictures before and after ?

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