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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR SparkPoints: (212,649)
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2/1/14 12:36 P

No I don't, if you are invited for dinner you eat whats served as you are a guest in someones house. i would be offended if someone brought food when I invited them for dinner

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2/1/14 12:35 P

No most don't, so I often bring a dish that is a healthy alternative that I can have

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2/1/14 12:17 P

Yes doesn't everybody?

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BANKER-CHUCK Posts: 5,869
2/1/14 12:09 P

No, so I plan ahead and normally eat prior to getting to any event and eat what I can at the host event.

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MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 14,253
2/1/14 11:59 A

I don't and I don't just show up with something. I ask the host if there is something I can bring.

Bringing something without permission or just for yourself. Says to the host. So what to all your planning. Your food is not good enough for me.



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2/1/14 11:24 A

No

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2/1/14 11:18 A

I've never had any complaints about party food when I've gone to them. I usually expect there to be the typical appetizers that aren't the healthiest, but there's also usually a fruit and veggie tray set out.

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2/1/14 11:15 A

No I don't expect it (although usually there is) and I wouldn't be offended if there wasn't. As far as bringing something, I always offer to do so when I'm invited, but will only bring something if the host/ess takes me up on the offer. I wouldn't just show up with something to eat or drink, except maybe a bottle of wine.




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2/1/14 10:48 A

It would be nice, but there is no obligation to have healthy options. Totally up to hostess.

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2/1/14 10:34 A

I feel they should have both especially a veggie tray.

SLLYONS51 Posts: 2,644
2/1/14 10:30 A

No. I usually offer to bring something that I feel safe with if it is a good friend. New friends--no I would just accept what is offered and try to make the best choices.

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2/1/14 10:27 A

Definitely not. The host should be able to have whatever options they want to have. If they choose to put in some healthy options, then that's awesome.

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2/1/14 9:49 A

i think they should have both.

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2/1/14 9:47 A

No, I expect before I go I will have a healthy snack so I can consume a little of everything my host has worked so hard to provide for me and other guests.

ASHLEYAMBER0710 Posts: 244
2/1/14 9:34 A

No I don't. I really believe this is where we should practice "in healthy moderation" I guess I am not at a point in which I have given up everything bad for me. I just try to be accountable for what I eat. Which means if I accept a party invite and there are only things like hamburgers and potato salad and the fatty comfort foods I try to indulge a little but stop when I am full. Which can ultimately be a motivating tool for me when I succeed on a learning tool that tells me I still need to work on paying attention to being full and letting myself go past my comfort point.



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2/1/14 9:20 A

No; I expect them to serve whatever they want and if I accept the invitation, I gladly participate in the meal they prepared! emoticon

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2/1/14 9:12 A

If someone is entertaining you, the menu is up to them, it is up to us as to how much we eat of what is being served. there is no bad food, it is always the amount of food that we eat that is the problem!

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IVYXXO Posts: 695
2/1/14 9:07 A

Haha NO! they're giving you free food, who cares if it's healthy or not? It's not like your paying for it. If you don't like it don't eat it.

Bringing your own food is rude.

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2/1/14 8:59 A

no I expect the host to serve the best that they can and not cater to each individual.

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2/1/14 1:45 A

No and it is a good challenge to make sth out of nothing ;-)

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2/21/13 6:46 A

No not everyone has a weight issue. Their party their food choices

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2/21/13 4:12 A

yes, i expect the host to cater for invitees needs

BILL60 Posts: 526,114
2/18/13 8:02 A

Not really.

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LYNN955 Posts: 701
2/18/13 7:56 A

No but it also depends on the host. Many of my friends are already health conscious. So with them I do expect better choices of food.

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2/18/13 5:27 A

not usuallly

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2/18/13 4:59 A

Not unless I offer to bring them

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MISSRUTH Posts: 4,047
2/18/13 3:34 A

Do I EXPECT a host to have healthy options? No.
Do I get UPSET if they don't? No. Disappointed, maybe. Upset, no.

Kind of goes back to, when you're a kid and you get asked to eat supper at your best friend's house. And they serve something you don't like. You accepted the invitation-- do the best you can with what's available to choose from, do not throw a fit because you don't like it.

All that being said.... if it's good friends or family who are hosting the party, I'll definitely offer to bring something. They all know I eat healthy, and are usually relieved that I'll bring some healthy stuff and then they don't have to figure out something to make for me. If it's a dinner or party with people I don't know well, or say, the company Christmas party (small, family-owned business; the party is NOT a pot-luck type thing, it would be a serious faux pas to show up with any food) I say nothing and do not show up with platters of food. I just do the best I can, from whatever they've prepared.


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2/18/13 3:29 A

No, because most people don't think about it


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2/18/13 2:29 A

I really don't like parties, so I don't go to many, but I never expect the host to provide any particular type of food. I always eat before I go, unless it's a dinner party, in which case I would ask what they are making and if I can bring anything. Otherwise, if there's something I want to eat there, then great, if not no biggie.

I'm not in a particularly "upscale" sort of crowd, so most gatherings are of the everyone brings a dish sort of variety anyway, so if I want healthy food, I bring something healthy.

Also depends on the type of party and who is going to be there. If it's a pizza and beer sort of gathering, I don't really expect the host to set out a bunch of "healthy" alternatives that have a high probability of not being eaten.

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2/15/13 1:45 P

I am just grateful to be invited.

LYNNIEV Posts: 394
2/15/13 9:44 A

I don't expect it either. If I'm invited to someone's house, I scope the food selection and try and make the wisest choice based on what's offered. I don't want to be completely rude and eat nothing at all, so I'll usually have at least a LITTLE of what's being served, if it happens to be a bunch of stuff I wouldn't normally eat. It's not something I have to do every day, so I don't worry about it. I simply make the best of what I have to work with. It's like going to a restaurant - you're completely in control of what choices you make - or not make.

NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
2/15/13 9:37 A

Upset as in visibly upset? No, never -- but if someone invited me over and had only potato chips and beer, yeah I probably would just make sure that our get togethers happened at my house in the future!! It doesn't make sense to be upset if there are unhealthy AND healthy foods available though , maybe your friend just didn't see anything healthy at all. That's like being a low fat raw vegan and getting upset because there are too many almonds on the table.

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2/15/13 9:33 A

no, i don't expect it
I usually bring my own dish, just in case (if it is not a formal dinner)

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 14,253
2/15/13 9:28 A

No, if someone is kind enough to invite me into their home. I think it would be rude to dictate the type of food they serve. I will bring something that I like, to share with everyone else.

Although as a hostess I do like to make what my guests like to eat. If the food preference is something like raw vegan. I will try, I don't guarantee success. Since that is so far out of my comfort cooking zone.

I also think it is rude when a guest brings their own meal. For them alone and none to share. What is my cooking so offensive that you need to bring your own meal? How bout you don't get offended next time you are left off the guest list.





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2/15/13 9:23 A

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,898
2/15/13 9:21 A

@KKKAREN.....I don't think there is a problem bringing a healthy crudite platter, or a healthy dish to a party. People often bring a bottle of wine...so what is the problem with bringing your own contribution to the party.

but I just ask the question about IF PEOPLE GET UPSET....
because I've known folks who were expecting everything to be healthy and then resented it when there WERE junk food options that they could not have.

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WHOVIAN85 Posts: 861
2/15/13 9:00 A

If its family yes, because they all know im eating healthier and I always offer to bring food too. If its a party or someone I dont know well, yes it would be nice if they offered something healthy but I don't expect it, nor do I get upset if they don't provide healthy stuff. Just probably wouldnt eat anything there.

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QUEEN3510VA Posts: 493
2/15/13 8:55 A

I don't expect the host to have anything healthy for me if I'm an uninvited guest (just stopped by and offer to stay for dinner is extended, etc.) but if the invitation is extended, they usually have options for me. At our church functions, the hospitality ministry know that my husband and I are vegetarians and they ensure that we have options and are not limited to just salad. Even then, we sometimes bring out own and end up almost not getting any since others are gobbling up what we bring.

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2/15/13 8:46 A

Yes and no. If it were someone I didn't know well, I wouldn't automatically expect them to provide the kinds of foods I want. Out in the world, there are not always the kinds of things you want to eat available, and that's okay. It might be worth your time to phone ahead and ask what kind of foods will be present. At that point you may be able to be like "Oh I'm just trying to eat healthy and I just wanted to know what to expect." and then offer to bring something to help out.

If it's one of my close friends, yes I expect them to provide healthy foods. All of my friends that would invite me over know that I am working really hard to be healthier, they know how much it means to me, and they know about my progress and struggles. I make it a point to let my friends and family know what is going on, and we talk about it regularly.

While it is not their responsibility to make sure I eat healthy, it is their responsibility to make sure their guests (and FRIENDS!) are comfortable. If one of my friends invited me over knowing how hard I'm working, and then didn't bother to be sensitive to my food needs, I wouldn't think they were being a very good friend.

Edit: Now that I think about it, i think it would really depnd on HOW WELL I knew or didn't know the person on whether I would phone ahead. If I didn't really know them at all, there's no way I would do that. I would either probably ask someone i'm better friends with if they knew, or just show up and play it by ear.

Edited by: XKUROIBARA at: 2/15/2013 (09:12)
CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
2/15/13 8:38 A

Unless a host/hostess asks me in advance if there are any issues/allergies or something like that; I expect them to have whatever they provide - healthy or not.

It's not their job to make sure I'm eating healthy.

If I want to make sure there's a healthy option - I'll ask if they would like me to bring something along.


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2/15/13 8:32 A

It depends on who it is, If i know it's someone who isn't healthy then I will end up bringing a veggie tray or something. I never criticize what a host prepares for their guests

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2/15/13 8:25 A

a good host has some healthy choices, a good guest does not bring his/her own food!

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KISSFAN1 Posts: 6,257
2/15/13 8:19 A

No, I don't expect it, but it's great when it happens.

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2/15/13 7:01 A

no

NIRERIN Posts: 12,515
2/15/13 6:55 A

i think the issue with this is that "healthy" is such a relative word. there isn't a single, solid set definition that it includes these 400 things and nothing else. so what one person thinks of as healthy won't necessarily be on the list.
i mean, broccoli would probably make most people's lists. some people would prefer their broccoli steamed and that would still fall into "healthy." other people might add some butter and bacon to the broccoli and that's where you start getting some discrepancies. for some people that additional 100-200 cals would make it "unhealthy." for others it is a drastic improvement on what they would have otherwise eaten and so it still quite "healthy."

with that being said, i think it depends on if the host tried. i know i am fairly picky with things and most of my hosts know this as well. if i see that they have made some effort to accommodate me then that has to be good enough. i mean, if i want everything exactly as i want it i should be hosting, not guesting. and just because i am picky about something shouldn't mean that the other 20 people there shouldn't get things the way they like them as well.

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2/15/13 6:35 A

No I don;t, and this is why I eat before I go to a party and drink a ton of water while I am there....it is really up to the guest to eat or not to eat the foods.....you don't always have to eat unless of course it is dinner and then you could offer to bring a healthy dish to help out while actually it would be something you really like to eat that is healthy

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,332
2/15/13 6:33 A

Well, if it was a party for a group that had health as a central focus and no healthy foods were served then that would upset me because it wouldn't be in line with the focus of the group.
If it was a party for a group of people that didn't have health as a focus then it would be nice if some food was healthy but it isn't going to upset me if it is not.

So I would expect a SparkPeople party to have more health concious food choices than a party with random friends or relations.

TENNISJIM Posts: 11,405
2/15/13 6:23 A

yes or at least be aware of the guests dietary needs (food allergies)

NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
2/15/13 6:14 A

yeah, kinda. If someone expects me to eat at their house, I would be pretty mad if they only had things that contribute to ill health. What kind of hospitality is that? When I invite people over (which I do a LOT) I always make sure that all the food is health-promoting. And I do go to the trouble to meet specific needs, for example my FIL is on a low sodium diet so I respect that. And I know which of my friends are vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, etc., and of course prepare food that they can eat. Otherwise, what's the point?

SHERYLDS Posts: 12,898
2/14/13 11:28 P

I often hear people complain about party food.
And I think the answer is to bring something you CAN enjoy.
But
do you EXPECT your host to HAVE healthy food options
and do you get upset if they don't?



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