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4/22/06 12:19 P

Hi Patty and I do understand where you are coming from I really do. Now, step back from the ref. LOL
I also ate and ate from stress, but it only gave me more stress. When you get home take a bubble bath or go for a walk or both. Put on some old records and dance to them, just don't go crazy with the eating. I know easier said than done but try it and come on here and read and read some more and type and type some more. We are here for you. Teddie emoticon

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/22/06 9:43 A

Teddy,

I think keeping track of the steps taken each day is wonderful and you have been doing great. We only get to our goals one step at a time and you are on the right path. Good for you.

I don't know Bates County. We were centered around Scranton.

Keep up the good work. Just one day at a time and eventually we reach our goals.

God Bless

Rosemarie

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/22/06 9:40 A

Well I know I love you already. How I wish I had the courage to walk away from this belittling doctor like that. I have only on 2 occasions (for the last 16 years) just lost it and blew up and told him off and said totally horrible, but TRUE things to him and left and went home. I didn't care if I ever went back and if we lost everything. There is only so much you can tolerate on a daily basis.

I had a terrible childhood and no real home. I got shoved around and around with a roll away bed from Aunt who didn't want me to Aunt who also didn't want me so I don't have much self esteem. I know I should have developed this in teh last 50 years, but still working on that issue. I don't, at times, even realize I deserve more respect, loyality until AFTER THE FACT. It is an afterthought that I should not have to put up with this abuse.

He is a foreign doctor and his country of origin does not hold women in high regard -- need I say anymore.

Between his culture and my low self esteem we are quite the ODD PAIR.

I am 57 years old and may be leaving the end of the year though. So I am only counting the days down.

I don't want to start somewhere else at my age. I get panic attacks and hate change so I try my best to ride it out and be positive.

Luckily I have a sweetheart of a husband and he is good to me. So I come home to a happy home and support, but I hate the horrible feeling I leave work with.

Well we all have our stressors and negative factors to deal with and I guess we just all try to do the best we can and deal only with today and its issues and just stay positive and upbeat. Sometimes I can deal with it better than others.

My boss also always reminds me how fat I am. It has nothing to do with the job, just brought up when he is telling me about a patient or something related to obesity. Once I was trying to get him to agree to a referral to a dietician for a SKINNY heart patient who had recently had surgery for heart disease. He said he didn't need a dietician, but I argued that the dietician could go over his diet and instruct him on what to eat to keep his cholesterol down and to eat healthier. I told him my doctor sent me to a dietician for my cholesterol.

With that, he quickly reminded me that my doctor sent me to the dietician because I WAS FAT and not for my cholesterol. I just left his office crying and walked around the hospital about 5 times crying that he could be so cruel to me. I do such a good job for him.

When I came back, he had left and left an apology on my desk in writing. I will never forget his comment till the day I die because I too hold grudges and what good was an apology because I know he thinks that way. I was fighting for the patient on education about his diet and he was insulting me which is his usual treatment.

Anyway, I have ONLY 8 months left there and I don't care how bad our money situation is or which one of my son's need help, I am QUITTING and RETIRING and removing myself from the medical field.

Even without the doctor, this field can be depressing with all the diseases and eventual deaths. Sometimes when I can't sleep at night, I think of all the people who aren't here anymore and how I cared for them and cry. Do I sound depressed. I am fighting this and trying each day to just be positive and kind to the patients and IGNORE the boss.

Well I am rambling and I think I love all of you==what a sweet group of people out there.

Lets all keep in touch and be there for each other. God Bless.

We are getting a lot of rain today --YUCK no fair on a Saturday and I think we are going to the antique mall locally and see what they have. A GREAT DIVERSION. I have bizillion pieces of pink depression glass and a whole set for 12 which I collected for a small fortune. Can't afford much of anything, but a great diversion.

I send lots of hugs to all of you and God Bless.

Love

Rosemarie

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/22/06 9:29 A

Never know we might have worked for the same telecommunications company. They offered a buy out for me in 2000 and I could not sign the papers quick enough. I was on vacation when the offer came out. My boss called me at home and told me about it. I said do I keep my benefits? He said yes. I said sign me up when I had never read a word on anything. I was just ready to get out of the rat race and all the politics. My husband was going to work another year, but when he found out I was retiring he did too. I was not to sure that I would not kill him the first year being under foot all the time, but we have worked it out. Well, most of the time anyway! emoticon

FITNESS57 Posts: 2,921
4/22/06 9:08 A

Good Morning Everyone
Glonski, I retired from a huge telecommunications company in 1998. Sounds like a similar tale, I was a Staff Manager. Downsized until you would have thought they could downsize no more. Then the package I took was offer and out I went. I had to go find another place to work. Which has turned out ok so far. Now, that place has rumors of being sold. I can only hang on and pray that I don't have to start some other new job. I would like to keep this one for at least another 5 years.
I have an extremely positive attitude and when I hear the woes. My comment lately has been ..I just can't worry about it, somehow I always land on my feet.
I am not in a position to retire. My DH was let go with the high tech crash and never got back in. He does excellent photo restoration running his own business, but it could not replace my salary which plays the bills.
I really just roll with all of this, I do not stress over it. As long as the bills are paid, we are healthy and reasonable satisfied with life, I am Ok.

That doesn't mean I wouldn't like more, to have more of a cushion for retirement, to be able to take nice vacations. They just aren't my priority.

I focus on daily living and doing the best I can each day.




GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/22/06 8:40 A

Good morning everyone! I hope the sun is shinning there. It is a beautiful day here in Arkansas. Got lots of good rain yesterday which means the grass is going to shoot up in my flower beds so that will be my exercise for today!

I retired in 2000 from a huge telecommunications company. The last ten years was so stressful. They were constantly downsizing and you had to obsorb the work that those who lost their jobs had been doing which mean you went from a 40 hour week to 60 to 80 hours. I was in management so that meant no overtime it was just expected for you to work all the long hours so I know stress too. When I retired I was doing three people's jobs so you can imagine how busy work was. Do I miss it not for a minute. I do find though that I got used to fast past and now even though I am retired I keep a lot of balls up in the air staying busy with church work, working for the city, volunteer work, good deeds, checking on my Mom and taking her to doctor appoints etc. My calendar stays full.

Working for someone who belittles you is extremely hard. It has nothing to do with your preformance he just needs a whipping post and you are there! I would not work under these circumstances life is to short. The man has a problem and it is him. I would be putting my resume out and getting away from him as fast as I could run Rosemarie. He is abusing you and you should not take it.

Patty tell us about your stress and job. We are here to listen and advise what has helped us. It may not mean that it will work for you, but never hurts to hear others life experiences. I worked for one man many moons ago that he loved to take out his flustrations on others. There was one other woman who worked for him and I saw him verbally abuse her time and time again. She would leave his office crying on a daily basis. When I was told that they wanted me to go to work for him I told his supervisor that I would work the job but that I WAS NOT going to be treated the way he treated this one other woman and to be prepared because there was going to be a fight(he did not treat the men the say way). A couple of weeks after I started working for him. He called me in his office and wanted to discuss a project. I carried in all the necessary books, paperwork etc in his office. He started in talking to me like I was a dog very abusive. I just closed the books up stacked up my papers. He looked at me and said what the h.... do you think you are doing. I said I am leaving. I am not going to be talked to this way and when you can talk to me in a civil manner then let me know and I will come back and I walked out. It blew his mind that I stood up to him. I never had him do this to me again. I started job hunting right then looking to transfer to another department. Finally found one and never looked back. Man I hated him. Well, in fact still do! I hold a grudge for a lifetime.

Teddie I would never have figured out steps as being the numbers. If counting steps is what keeps you up and moving I think that is wonderful. We each have to find our own motivation that works for us. I am in a wheelchair so that doesn't work for me, but I have to figure out my own types of exercise that I CAN do. Would not work for others, but it does for me. Each of us are unique, but we all have one common goal to be healthier and lose some of our lbs.

We love to go out and eat and I always bring home 1/2 of my meal. This serves two purposes. I eat half as much and I serve my leftover to my husband for supper so I don't have to cook!!!!!!! I will eat cereal or something like turnip greens that he does not like but I do and are low in calories. I just cannot make myself drink all that stupid water though. Can ya'll? Well, enough from me. Fill me in girls. Gloria

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4/22/06 7:59 A

Rosemarie, I'm from Berks County.
My baby is Simba and he is my joy, please don't tell him he is a cat he doesn't think he is. LOL
My numbers are the steps I have walked since March. For me who didn't walk any further than they had to it is an accomplisment, but I know it needs to be higher. Thank you everyone for such a warm welcome, it is so heartwarming and makes me feel so encouraged. Teddie

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4/22/06 7:56 A

That is so great on bringing back half your platter, that is hard.
The numbers I post are the steps I have walked on those days. The numbers aren't near as high as they should be but for me it is quite an accomplishment. Teddie emoticon

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/22/06 7:28 A

Dearest Teddy,

Hope that you doing well and enjoying that beautiful kitty cat in your picture.

How are you doing??? Well are you from any part of my Pennsylvania roots and are we distant cousins?????

Do your children live around you in the same area. Hoping that they do.

Are you retired or working??

Hoping that you doing better and able to see some success.

We are all not quite sure what the numbers are that you posted. Want to be supportive and extend a hand out to you and hoping to hear from you very soon.

We all send our love to you dear with a big hug.

Rosemarie

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/22/06 7:23 A

I totally understand this, because I too work in a very stressful environment and feel that this does contribute to overeating.

I always think when I quit, I may really be a skinny person waiting for a break to get out.

I work for a very demanding cardiologist and work in a ONE person office basically with only another girl two days a week. Doctors are mostly abrasive, demanding and belittling to work for. TRUST ME, I know after a bizillion years of doing this.

I eat when he is mean to me which is often becuase I can't really speak up and do much about it.

I am not sure how to handle this stress and negative environment whenyou have to stay there. I try to totally BLOCK him out, but it is very difficult since I am way too senstive to work there.

What is the nature of your problem at work? Can you transfer to another department or discuss the problem with a supervisor.

I have made a list of positive things I do at work to see the GREAT side of what I do. I never include the doctor. It also seems to help when I exercise because I then don't go in so anxious just waiting for the ax to fall. I also have given up caffein for the most part because that makes me worse.

You know very often in life the way people treat you has NOTHING to do wiht the way you are as a person or the way you are to them. It is coming from another area which has NOTHING to do with you. Since I can't control the other person and only my own reaction to them, I try ever so hard to stay positive and upbeat in spite of the difficult people who surround me.

Have a cup of chamomille tea which will relax you. I hate the tea, but found it in a health food store in pill form and that seems to calm me during the worse of it all. It also is a digestive aide so has double benefits.

If you are doing the best you can do, there isn't anything else you can contribute. Take a deep breath, and maybe make a list of stressors and think what you can do to handle them besides eating so in the future when they repeat themselves you can have some type of coping strategy. Or if you can't help the eating, take carrots or celery sticks in so when you do munch it is not empty calories.

Good luck. I know it is not easy. I know first hand how difficult it can be on a daily basis. I think most people are in the same boat nowadays with downsizing and layoffs and job insecurity.


Know that we are all here for you if you reach out. Sometimes just being able to discuss it helps too. God Bless and know that you are NOT ALONE.

Rosemarie

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4/22/06 4:08 A

emoticon Just wanted to start another group to say hello. Like to write to say HELP..Going to tough times at work and this is playing havoc on my program..so please talk me away from refrig. I am at work now but thinking about what can I eat.

Thanks emoticon

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/21/06 8:45 P

Teddie, what are these numbers that you posted?

You should be proud of me. Went out tonight and had my favorite supper. Chinese food. I looked up before I left home what would be my best choices. Brought back home 1/2 of what I ordered for a meal tomorrow and only had 1192 calories. Not to bad. Now if I can keep this up next week and try and get some exercise in. I am retired and should have time to put into doing some exercising, but it just does not happen as often as it should. I think it is called procrastination. Gloria

DESERTFLOWER1 Posts: 750
4/21/06 7:23 P

Hi!! Thank you for sharing the garage sale lady story. I have a wonderful friend that has been so down on herself because she has only lost .4 lbs in the last two weeks. But it is not just the scale we need to use to measure success. She has made some major changes in just drinking water, buying healthy snacks and walking 2 days a week. Small steps can bring big changes when you committ to a new lifestye of healthy eating. And it is so wonderful to have people that will lift us up and be encouraging.


TEDDIE SparkPoints: (0)
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4/21/06 6:45 P

No, I haven't to be honest I would be afraid to.
Teddie3/26 6,221
3/27 3,954
3/28 6,796
3/29 7,801
3/30 6,162
3/31 12,132
4/1 8,016 == 51,082 in seven days
4/2 3,471
4/3 4,586
4/4 3,581
4/5 3,010
4/6 3,100
4/7 4,021
4/8 4,058 = 25,827
4/9 4,651
4/10 too sick to care
4/11 9,056
4/12 10,205
4/13 3,517
4/14 5,867
4/15 7,392 = 40,688
4/16 3,622
4/17 11,025
4/18 8,902
4/19 10,005
4/20 4.575
4/21 12,802







GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/21/06 8:32 A

I have heard of Hoodia but have not tried it. Several years ago I tried one of those miracle pills and all it did was make me where I could not sleep. Must have had a lot of caffine in it to boost your metabolism. I was to stupid at the time to look what it had in it, but it did not take me long to find out that this was not for me.

I spend a lot of time figuring out meal etc too but I try to make a game out of it. Seeing what I can fix that will keep me within my calorie limit and still taste good enough that my husband will eat it. I am not cooking two different meals! If I make a game of it then I am OK.

I do not keep any snack stuff around that I can go to for comfort. In fact the other day my husband came home with candybars. That night I had one. Afterwards I thought hey that was 200 calories and you could have had something filling for those 200 calories. I woke him up in the middle of the night and told him to go hide those candy bars so I could not find them. He could eat them any time, but I was not to know where they were. Bless his heart he got up out of bed and hid them. He has it made though cause since I am in a wheelchair (had polio when I was 2) all he has to do to hide something is put it up high. Point is if I don't have it there to see then I go for a health snack of dried fruit or pretzels or low fat animal cookies. I still feel like I am sneaking a snack but at least it is a healthier one.

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/21/06 8:18 A

Well, I need more than 1/4 inch. Way lot more than 1/4 inch. Cup D has a lot of gravity pull on them!

Yes, my back is a problem too. I have love handles higher than the normal love handles people talk about. Of course, love handles are just a kinder word for fat. I wish when I had started on this diet that I had taken measurements, but I was depressed enough without seeing "those numbers too".

I know my body will never be what it was when I was 18 but then again I am not the same person I was at 18 either. I just don't want to look my age. I met a woman the other day and we got to talking and somehow age came up. I told her I was 57 and she NOT and I said yes. She thought I was about 45. Yeah, now I want to shoot for looking 40 then I will be happy. My Mom is 85 and looks about 70 see that is what I want. I don't want people to think I am her Mom!

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/21/06 8:17 A

HAS ANYONE OUT THERE TRIED HOODIA?? jUST WONDERING. IT IS AN APPETITE SUPPRESSANT AT HEALTH FOOD STORES AND WAS ON 60 MINUTES AND THE NEWS. PFIZER DRUG CO. WAS RESEARCHING IT AND CONSIDERING PUTTING IT ON THE MARKET.

I HATE TO TAKE ANYTHING, BUT ONLY RECENTLY LEARNED OF IT AND TRIED IT. IT SEEMS TO CONTROL THE HUNGRY PART OF MY APPETITE, BUT NOT THE EMOTIONAL SIDE OF MY EATING. I STILL WANT TO EAT, I THINK A LOT ABOUT FOOD, MY NEXT MEAL--WHAT I WILL COOK FOR SUPPER, ETC. WHAT WE WILL HAVE THIS WEEKEND--SO I MUST HAVE A VERY UNHEALTHY OBSESSION WITH FOOD.

JUST WONDERING IF ANYONE ELSE HAS TRIED IT AND HAD LUCK. IT REALLY DOES KILL YOUR APPETITE AND I FIND THAT BY TAKING ONE PILL IT SEEMS TO CURB MY APPETITE FOR A FEW DAYS. I STILL EAT, BUT MUCH LESS AND TRY TO EAT HEALTHIER.

LIKE I SAID I CAN STILL DEFY ITS EFFECT, BECAUSE I AM AN EMOTIONAL EATER AND VERY ANXIOUS MOST OF THE TIME I THINK.

WELL LET ME KNOW.

THANKS.

ROSEMARIE



ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/21/06 7:49 A

i AM LAUGHING. OF COURSE, HOW COULD I HAVE NOT THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE. TEA IS AT LEAST 8 OZ!!! I DON'T NEED THAT 8 OZ ON THIS OLD BODY.

YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THE GRAVITY PULL ON THE BOSOMS. DO YOU THINK THERE WOULD BE ANY HOPE IF WE LIFTED WEIGHTS EVERYDAY TO MAKE THEM RISE AT LEAST 1/4".

hOW ABOUT YOUR BACK??? I NEED TO GO TO THE DERMATOLIGIST TO HAVE HER LOOK AT MY UGLY BACK TO SEE IF ANYTHING LOOKS SUSPICIOUS AND I KEPT WAITING TO LOSE WEIGHT SO MY BACK WOULD LOOK BETTER, BUT I HAVE GIVEN UP HOPE ON THAT PART OF ME. WHEN I SEE THOSE GIRLS ON DANCING WITH THE STARS, I WONDER IF MY BACK WAS EVER THAT BEAUTIFUL EVEN WHEN I WAS JUST BORN.

I DON'T MEAN TO BE NEGATIVE, BUT THE EXCESS WEIGHT AND AGE CAN DO THINGS TO YOUR BODY.

I LIKE TO THINK IF I LOST SOME SIZABLE AMT. OF WEIGHT, SOME OF HTE BODY PARTS WOULD RESPOND. WE SHALL SEE SINCE I HAVE NEVER REALLY BEEN VERY SUCCESSFUL AT THE LOSING PART.

WELL CONGRATULATIONS ARE IN ORDER AGAIN THIS MORNING FOR THAT GREAT SUCCESS. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. GOOD FOR YOU!!!

YOU HAVE ME MOTIVATED THAT IS FOR SURE. LETS ALL GET MOTIVATED AND SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN THIS ENDEAVOR AND LAUGH AS WE STAND NAKED ON THAT MACHINE PRAYING FOR ANY DOWNWARD SPIRAL.

LOVE

ROSEMARIE

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/21/06 7:37 A

You have this wrong. You are suppose to weigh before the TEA. That tea might be 8 or so ounces emoticon . Every ounce counts. I am pumped now! Now if I could only find something that changes the gravity pull on my boobs.

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/21/06 7:26 A

Gloria,


CONGRATULATIONS GIRL!!!!!!!!!!! A SIZE SMALLER SHIRT, AND NOW 1 1/2 POUNDS LOSS IN ONLY ONE WEEK.

THAT IS INCREDIBLE. WHAT A REWARD!!!

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. I AM LAUGHING THINKING ABOUT HOW I GET UP IN THE AM, HAVE MY TEA, AND THEN RUN DOWN THE BASEMENT AND FREEZE WHILE I SLIP OFF MY NIGHTGOWN AND WEIGH MYSELF NAKED IN THAT DAMP BASEMENT. I HAVE A DOCTOR'S SCALE DOWN THERE WITH THE QUARTER POUNDS ON IT, JUST FOR MEASURING THE SMALLEST INCREMENT OF LOSS. ARE WE ALL NAKED PRAYING FOR ANY SMALL LOSS ON THAT NASTY MACHINE??

BUT BACK TO YOUR LOSS, THAT IS WONDERFUL. REJOICE AND CELEBRATE!!!

ROSEMARIE emoticon

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/21/06 6:25 A

Ok everyone. I am standing here stark naked writing this message of motivation. I am naked cause I just got off the scales and had to tell someone right away that I have lost 1 1/2 lbs this week. Any loss should keep us motivated to keep that scale moving down. Gloria

ONEDAYATATIME1 Posts: 12
4/20/06 11:39 P

Iced tea, a porch, a warm spring day and wonderful company...life doesn't get much better. Strangers are just people we haven't met yet.

I hope y'all have a great evening!!

Jodi emoticon

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/20/06 10:05 P

Now I am a Southern girl (Arkansas) and it has to be iced tea!

I went to town today and needed some knock around T shirts and bought a size smaller today. Yeah! I feel like I have jumped over a hurdle!

I guess there must be people out there that have not had to fight a weight problem ever and they just don't understand what it takes to lose weight. I am striving for 5 lb loss at a time and then when I make that I work toward the next 5. I know I will never be skinny but at my age who cares I just want to be healthier and not look my age. I know that the heavier I am the older I look so I guess the mirror is my motivater.

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/20/06 9:04 P

Dear Teddie,

Are you my relative -- I am from Pennsylvania. Scranton in fact. They put me on a bus to live with a different aunt in New York when I was 12 years old, but I started in Pennsylvania in the West Mountains where we didn't even have indoor plumbing. How about that. I am 57 (close in age to you). I love Pennsylvania and my brother, father and grandparents are all buried there. I had one Aunt left in Taylor who died a few years ago. Anyway you are going to get me crying soon, so I will close for now.

Back to the tea and front porches, let us all drink tea and de-stress in a nice rocker and visualize our blood pressure/cholesterol taking a nose dive when we are eating better and exercising once we get off our fannies and the front porch.

Rosemarie emoticon

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4/20/06 8:29 P

Oh that sounds so inviting, I will bring the herbal teas. Teddie emoticon

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/20/06 6:59 P

WHAT A GREAT GROUP OF PEOPLE

MY FRONT PORCH IS WAITING WITH THE TEA CUPS IN PLACE.

IF NOT IN PERSON, WE CAN VISUALIZE THIS AND EXTEND WARMTH AND SUPPORT TO EACH OTHER ACROSS THE MILES. IT IS POSSIBLE!!!

ROSEMARIE

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/20/06 6:56 P

You are totally right, sometimes strangers are much kinder and supportive and why should that be true????

Spark has a lot of very caring people and I have met very compassionate, sweet people on the message boards. Some of them have become supportive friends who I love.

What a big difference it makes to have support and positive influences in your life.

Keep at it and hopefully we can all be there for each other in some small way to make the path easier.

YEAH FOR SPARK AND ITS GREAT SUPPORT

SYSTEM emoticon

ROSEMARIE

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4/20/06 4:12 P

Isn't it great to have such positive people around. Life throws us too many hurdles and negative attitudes, that it's nice to have people around to make things look a little brighter.

Onedayatatime1.....I sure hope you're doing ok....You know the best support system is from complete strangers...I know that for a fact.

Sunshine hugs to you... emoticon

ONEDAYATATIME1 Posts: 12
4/20/06 3:17 P

I just want you all to know, your words and inspiration are truly helping save my life. Thank you.

BEKALAB Posts: 30
4/20/06 11:13 A

Rosemarie - what a completely inspiring story about the teacher! Thanks so much for sharing.

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4/20/06 9:13 A

Thanks, Gloria! I am pretty proud of myself too.
I have a lot more weight to lose than you do, don't give up! When I lost weight before and got down to the weight you are now, it was so hard to lose those last pounds!
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you are right! we are going to do this! keep your eyes on the prize!

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/20/06 6:00 A

I think my metabolism is sleeping most of the time.

When I graduated from high school I only weighed 80 pounds (I am only 5'2") I could eat nonstop and never gained any weight.

Well fast forward and now I am double that weight and still some more and don't eat a fraction of what I used to eat. It seems like I eat less and less and still don't lose much.

On another message board, I told the story of a teacher I met at a garage sale. She was trying to get me to buy her old "fat jeans" She said you look about a size 18 and I told her I wasn't in that size yet. WHICH WAS A TOTAL LIE. I never lie, but something made me angry about her pushing her pants on me when I wasn't interested. She didn't seem that warm and friendly and I chose to lie about my size pants. After I moved from the clothes to her other items, she talked more and told me she had lost 50 pounds through WW. She said that she followed the diet to the letter each week and cried when she didn't lose. She said she would not give up and quit and she did everything right. The younger people kept losing and she was staying the same. BY the fourth week, she finally lost ONE pound!!! It took her that long and she still cried. She said it took a whole month to kick in. Everytime I get discouraged now, I think of that woman sticking with it so long and not seeing any results on the scale. She was so dedicated to the cause and just kept at it. She was sure at our age it was slower to happen, but she eventually lost the 50 pounds over a long period of time and very slowly. She also shared with me the fact that she loved to eat volumes so would eat lots of salad prior to her lunch just so that she felt she had eaten a lot. At that point, I wanted to tell her I lied I was a size 18, but didn't tell her.

So I guess when I get discouraged, I think of her. YOu know it was so painful for her to tell me that she actually got wet eyed telling me how long and hard it was for her to lose that weight.

If I only had half her determination and stick with it I would be doing better than I am. But I will just restart the whole process and try to do better.

Bless your Mom. I am always trying to still feed my boys too. She means well, but I know that you don't want the sweets. I have a sweet husband who loves sweets and it is hard with them in the house not to eat them.

Well I better get on the treadmill. Keep up the good work and God Bless.

Rosemarie

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/19/06 11:42 P

I wish my metabolism was the same now as when I was 18. I can remember my Mom making us eat 3 big meals a day, if I ate that much now.....well, lets not go there.

When I first decided to lose weight I told my Mom and she said "that is nice want a cookie". I have said no to her enough now that she has quit and just send home desserts to my husband. It does not tempt me to see him eating a dessert and now she only offers me something that is low cal. She finally got the idea that I mean it and now she is supportive. So just think of this when you have negative remarks made to you and just tell them I am doing this and I CAN DO IT. They will get the point and stop the negative comments. I just wish my Mom at 85 was not such a good cook.

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/19/06 9:11 P

Twelve pounds is incredible and good for you. If I lost twelve pounds, I would have a party and celebrate.

Every lost pound is one less pound to carry around. Pick up a 5 pound bag of flour and strap that somewhere on your torso and tell me that doesn't matter.

You could pick up almost three of them. That is a HUGE difference so CELEBRATE and REJOICE and keep up the good work.

Love

Rosemarie

(we are the same age and I know how very hard it is to lose at this age. It is a wonderful age, but I think with each passing year it is a little more difficult to lose. SO DOUBLE CELEBRATE!!!!!!!) emoticon

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4/19/06 8:40 P

These are definitely words to live by. I know that there have been many days when I carry work home, but lately this has not been the case because I finally came to realize that it will be there tomorrow, I need to rest.

On the other side of the token you can say that everyday work to do your best and give it your all knowing that at the end of the day you can and will rest. Translating this to your health and life goals...everyday you exercise and give it your all, everyday you eat healthy and give it your best effort, every day you complete one thing that gets you closer to your goal...and everyday you take time to take the time to reflect, relax, tweek your plans and praise yourself for a job well done.

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/19/06 8:32 P

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WOW!!! Why don't all of you live around me so that we could have tea on my front porch and laugh and be positive and supportive of each other???

Thanks so much for the votes of confidence. I totally lack this in my life especially with weight loss which has never been an area that I have succeeded before.

I am smiling as a write this, because so many people responded and cared enough to take the time to write.

I am always touched by people's kindness and good deeds to others.

I have a nice saying on my wall which reads:

If there is any kindness I can show or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.

It must be that all teh lovely SPARKERS have this as their motto too.

Thanks for your kindness.

Rosemarie emoticon

DESERTFLOWER1 Posts: 750
4/19/06 6:45 P

I just loved reading the quote. I recently had a situation where I was around a relative that had nothing but negative comments about weight but she also sabatoges anyone around her that is trying to eat healthy. I don't understand this behavior but I am glad that I recongized what was going on and how it was affecting my emotions. I love being able to have the on line support and a few friends that I can call for encouragement..

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/19/06 5:34 P

Tamboh63, I read your sparks page and I hae to say I am really proud of you. Lost 25 lbs since mid Jan is wonderful. I had to laugh when you talked about seeing the mid aged person in the pictures. I did basically the same thing this year. It amazed me to see this older woman in a picture. That was not the person I think I see in the mirror each day or is it. A picture really motivated me and looks like it has for you too. I wish I could say I had lost 25 lbs, but I have only lost 12, but I am really proud of those 12 lbs. I think what is flustrating to me is that nobody seems to notice the weight loss but me, however, I am the one who counts! Exercise is hard for me to do too. I just can't keep motivated to do 60 minutes a day or whatever at a gym. We will all win our battle if we just take a day at a time. Congratulations. Gloria

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4/19/06 4:54 P

This quote means a lot to me because it is a change that I am really working on this "time around". In the past, when I stumbled or had a negative experience eating wise, it could mean the end of all the positive changes I worked so hard to make. I have decided that thinking this way will never get me where I want to be.
Life is not a smooth road without bumps, curves, hills and valleys. So, neither is my weight loss journey. People tell you to "let go and let God". Well, that is easy to say and yet hard to put into practice. It is hard to remember that letting it go or setting it aside is NOT a bad thing. You are not procrastinating. It isn't laziness. Sometimes your problems of today may not seem as bad tomorrow anyway!

MAJORTONNAGE Posts: 466
4/19/06 3:47 P

Rosemaries, you deserve to be in the company of supportive friends. It's in your best interest to avoid all the "naysayers" and other "it's hopeless" types.

Sometimes, in life, we really do have to change a circle of friends if they become negative and discouraging. You deserve much better. emoticon

GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/19/06 12:35 P

Nobody is perfect if they were we all be size 2. How many size 2's do you know. I know one and she is 10 years old. When you slip up just say I WILL do better tomorrow. I had about 2 weeks that I just could not make myself exercise, but I finally got back on track again. It happens to all of us from time to time. Just don't give up and ignore those negative forces around you. They just may be jealous because you are trying to lose those unwanted pounds and they are not there mentally for themselves.

SUSAN129 Posts: 85
4/19/06 12:26 P

Rosemary-don't let the "negative Nancy's" get you down!!! Find your inner strength and continue with the exercise!!! I have been around negative people before and they can really drag you down. I have been working on my diet for 3 weeks and I have lost 6lbs so far and the people I work for are just as happy as I am about the weight loss!! I never knew people like that were out there!!

Another important thing that I think about the quote is how it relates to losing weight and the trials that we all face. Don't beat yourself up for "slipping", leave it behind you and start over the next day, or do a little more exercise, but don't beat yourself up over it, just let it go...that was yesterday and today is just that, today.

Good luck and keep moving!!!!!

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4/19/06 12:14 P

I like this quote also. Leave the negative behind. I have been doing that since the beginning of the year and guess what, I feel less stress. So let yesterday be yesterday, do what you can today, today and let tomorrow be tomorrow. Everyday is different.
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4/19/06 11:10 A

I agree Glonski. "If you are around negative people, you will become negative."

I have spent a great deal of time trying to encourage those who had all these problems, and always came to me to fix them. I gave advice until I was blue in the face. They always went away happy and motivated, but I was left drained and depressed. I was stressing over their issues. I was intoxicating myself with their poisons. What a self-destructive thing to do.

I made the personal choice to remove all toxins from my life....toxic food, toxic drink, toxic attitude, and people. I had to teach myself to distinguish the difference between a real freind in need, and an "emotional drainer".

Mind you, it's an everyday battle. These things keep trying to wiggle their way into my life. The key is to make your sheild stronger than their wiggle.

Thank you Spark, and the people of these boards for strengthening my shield.

Lisa

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Edited by: BILLYS_SILLY at: 4/19/2006 (11:17)
APOOLE Posts: 1
4/19/06 11:10 A

THANK YOU FOR YOUR MESSAGE. I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT TODAY. YOUR MESSAGE IS A REMINDER THAT I CAN DO IT!

Edited by: APOOLE at: 4/19/2006 (12:39)
GLONSKI Posts: 3,856
4/19/06 7:56 A

Rosemaries, If you are around negative people you will become negative. If your "friends" are not supportive of you trying to lose weight then I don't really think that they are your real friends. I am 57 and have started since mid January to lose about 20 to 25 lbs. There are a couple of people I know that have said well you will never stick to it, I never did. As you will notice I did not call them friends just people I know. I just ignore these people cause if they are not the type who want to support my efforts then I don't want to be around them. I surround myself with people who care about me and my well being. If you need someone positive to support you I can be there for you. We all slip from time to time but we get back at it the next day and it does take one day at a time.

ROSEMARIES Posts: 134
4/19/06 6:56 A

I too am inspired by this quote, but wonder where are all the POSITIVE people???? I don't seem to know many -- if any. I have friends who say things like "Why do you bother to exercise, you don't seem to get anywhere--so why bother?" It was like a low blow in the stomach because I could not get this thought out of my mind and when I don't want to exercise now, I replay it over and over in my mind and begin to believe it even when I know any amt. of exercise is better than none and even if you don't see lower numbers on the scale, it is good for your joints, heart and overall health. I need more positive people in my life and sometimes think I would rather be lonely than with some of the people I know.

1BROWNCOW Posts: 271
4/18/06 8:39 P

Hey, that's my quote! emoticon

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4/7/06 10:54 A

Thats cool. Reminds me of online classes I took. We definitely got some good debates going.

DJHEILMANN Posts: 3,356
4/7/06 9:53 A

Next week we will launch a new Health Reflections (quote of the day) email. When it is launched, members will be able to discuss the quote in this topic!

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