KATHLEENSMARTS - There are always going to be haters out there. That woman had a lot of nerve saying that to you. It's none of her business what you eat or what you weigh. Keep your head up and don't let these women determine how you feel about yourself. Continue your hard work and do what makes you feel good about yourself.
Wow, seriously? Someone like that really doesn't even deserve a response, because she might just be looking to get a rise out of you. I think I would have just looked at her and said "I beg your pardon?"....and then waited for her to just go away. If this ever happens again, certainly don't let a comment like that change what/how you plan on eating for the day.
People will do what you ALLOW them to do to you, especially those who get their affirmation from putting others down. You have to stop the cycle by not reacting and letting them suck you into their world.
I think I'd start looking for another job too. If that's not possible, maybe you can eat elsewhere? That way you take away the opportunity for comments and you can eat in peace.
5/6/13 7:53 A
Wow, it's tough when others focus on you instead of themselves.
But, isn't that typical? Take the focus off their own shortcomings and make up some for you - so that you'll likely be too embarrassed to say something back to them (as suggested by others).
You could say something like the previously-posted comment, or "that's really great that you've managed to hold down your job and get a degree in nutrition. Perhaps we should discuss menus together, and find out what you're doing that's right."
Well, that may not be exactly well put; but the idea is that opinions are like belly buttons - every one has one; and some are ugly.
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381 5/6/13 1:07 A
LOL!!!! EVAARK said it PERFECTLY: "The answer is to focus on YOU, and not on them. Perhaps a good answer would be, "Yes, I get to eat a LOT of really tasty things on this food program, and I still lose weight. I'd be happy to give you the web address if you'd like to try it. It's free, and you might need to lose a few pounds yourself.""
My favorite is when Grandma will say "You know...you'd be so pretty if you lost some weight." Well what are you saying I look like now - ugly? Geez! People can be really terrible sometimes. Trust me, I know how you feel exactly...from being fat my whole life. People at school, jobs, stores, etc...I haven't lived a day not self-conscious about my weight, Hun, but you look wonderful and you've done an amazing job. You two apparently aren't friends, right? So look at it this way, her opinion (whether it's the pot calling the kettle black or not) doesn't even come close to mattering. After getting a few years into my 20s...I've come to realize that if I let every little rotten comment someone had for me get under my skin...I'd be wasting energy on someone who wasn't important to me in the first place.
For now, just focus on numero uno - you. :)
First Goal Weight: 260lbs ***Reached October 17, 2013
Some people just feel the need to be rude and hateful to others. I like to remember what my mom always told me when I was little and someone said something hateful to me...."They're just jealous!" If she is bigger than you, then she probably IS jealous. Try to take these things with a grain of salt. I know its hard....but you can do it. Feel sorry for her.....inside your head, tell yourself the same phrase my mom always told me. And smile. I imagine her goal was to make you upset. Smile at her and say "I am doing well, thank you...how about you?" She will feel like an ass.
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This is seriously annoying! They have absolutely no right to say any thing about your weight! I would be tempted next time she eats bad food to tell her "oh that's probably why you haven't been losing any weight!" Lol just kidding but that would still be pretty tempting. She's just upset because you have accomplished something that she hasn't. Be proud of what you have accomplished and forget about what she thinks!!!
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22,504 5/3/13 6:39 P
First of all, that person was extremely rude, and I would actually have pointed that out to her. Secondly, I would have perhaps added in a bit of sarcasm and quietly included that I hadn't realized that there was a full sized mirror for her to be looking in to.
You eat what YOU want - and stick the PROVERBIAL finger in her face.
I am not a Dr - please check with your qualified Health Professional for a diagnosis and treatment plan
5/3/13 3:26 P
Having spent a lot of my life taking to heart what others say far more than was healthy for me, I have learned that it is very important for my well-being to let others be who they are and focus on who I want to be. Choosing to place your energy on developing a healthier lifestyle rather than understanding other people's behaviour will help you reach your goals faster. Bringing into your head the positive and loving voices of Nicole, SparkGuy and I think it is Denise, the nutritionist, helps to keep you focused on your long term goal.
The others are right - stay focused on all the positive things you have done I suggest praying for those who choose to be unkind and focus on your gratitude that you have chosen to be kinder and more loving to yourself by choosing to live a healthier lifestyle.
I'm thinking of you lots today. You go girl!
Kathleen (as well)
"Fall seven times, get up eight." - Japanese Proverb
"The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials." - Chinese Proverb
"Never give in. Never. Never. Never. Never." - Winston Churchill
"Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance." - Samuel Johnson
There will always be critics. The answer is to focus on YOU, and not on them. Perhaps a good answer would be, "Yes, I get to eat a LOT of really tasty things on this food program, and I still lose weight. I'd be happy to give you the web address if you'd like to try it. It's free, and you might need to lose a few pounds yourself." (That would be mean, but I bet they'd never criticize you again.)
Seriously, the answer is to focus on YOU . . . YOUR health . . . YOUR energy levels. You're worth the effort, AND you can become your own cheerleader. There will always be critics. Jesus was perfect, and they crucified Him! Hang in there . . . You're worth it!
Have a blessed day!
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5/3/13 2:46 P
So I have been at my current job for 5 years now, so the people know me pretty well. They saw me when I was 185lbs and then when I weighed 150lbs. Unfortunately some of them watch my weight more than I do. What kills me the most is that those who are opressed for being bigger are usually the first to opress me :(
I hate it when people point stuff like that out. So the other day I ws in the lunch room eating ground beef and naan bread. That was my food from morning till dinner, and a co-worker came in and decided it would be okay to say the following; " Why are you eating so much food? Thats why you are getting fat again!"
I immediately put away my food, and felt terrible for the rest of the day. She is bigger than me, which is what kills me, but I was ligit brought down after that. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THINGS LIKE THAT?
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