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5 11/10/12 10:15 P
Thank you all so much. I have never been one to ask for help especially in the cyber world, but ya'll have changed my mind. Your valuable insights and kindness is so appreciated. I would normally wallow in food if this happened to me a year ago - I didn't this time, I reached out in a different way and food never came into play. Yea me! That is what my friend always used to say. All good things to all of you and I will continue to stay on track! I CAN do this.
You had a friend. How WONDERFUL that is. Grieve her loss, celebrate her presence in your life--take the time for that.
Once you have grieved--and it will take longer than our crazy society thinks it 'should,' so you may not get much support for the process, sad to say--then build her into your life. She can still motivate you, she can still love you.
Be the best of her while you are being you.
My sympathy for your loss...but you have had a good friend--and that's wonderful.
I too am so sorry you're having to go through the loss of a close friend and motivational partner. I hope you can find some support here, and through the memory of all the great things she encouraged you to do
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1,371 11/7/12 8:09 P
I am sorry for your loss. its most important to celebrate your friends life and how she touched you by spending extra energy taking care of yourself. They would've wanted it that way. You remain to remember them. I think you are taking great first steps by putting your feelings out there. Its very brave to be frank with your feelings and face them head on.
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90 11/7/12 7:11 P
Bearing with a loss is so hard especially if you were so close and worked with eachother everyday. My husband went through the same situation. It is hard because you learned to count on that person being there everyday. First of all, give yourself some time to grief and grab a different prospective while taking care of you!. Secondly, everyone is looking at you because they know your partner is gone and you feel alone. They don't know what to say or how to approach you, so their looks will have to do for now. You will get through this, it will be painful and sad, but you can do it. Remember your great friends words to you. They are not gone they are in your heart and soul. What would she say right now. How would she get you to take those first few steps. You admired her, so now it is up to you to honor that love and admiration to go forward with your life and your business/personal goals. She will remain in your heart forever and the time you had was precious, so concentrate on that and she will get you through your transisition now! Please do not forget what I said give yourself the time you need to grief and take care of yourself. Your friend would want you to do that first, then procceed forward with your life, because life can be a wonderful blessed thing if you take the right approach.
It's tough to grasp that someone is not a lifetime, but only a reason or season. It's also tough when you seem to identify positively with someone to guide you when you struggle with something in your life. You know what to do. She was there to point you in that direction.
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2,785 11/6/12 12:20 P
so sorry for your loss. the first weeks of grief are so raw and real- allow yourself to miss her. soon you will be seeing and hearing her words of encouragement as memories (sights , sounds, events) trigger thoughts of your time spent together. missing a team mate at work is like trying to see-saw by yourself- reach out to other co-workers, learn to soar on a swing as you continue on in the workplace playground. a new team mate will never replace who your friend was BUT will enrich your life as you discover their unique gifts, abilities and way of encouraging you back. hugs
I'm so sorry for your loss. It takes time for grief to subside. When something like that happens, it is often helpful to stay as much in your routine as you can. It will be hard because you are missing your friend. It's possible to make adjustments while still staying on track. Best wishes for your continued healing.
I am so sorry for your loss and the best thing I can express to you is that you should try to focus on the positive influence she had on you and never loose that. Your friend obviously wanted to you to succeed so allow your self to.
Fitness Minutes: (380)
5 11/6/12 12:27 A
I had my friend, who I worked with everyday die on Saturday. Although she was struggling with depression, she was there to motivate me to appreciate what I had and keep moving forward. She and I were a team at work and now everyone is looking to me and i am sad, tired and miss my friend. Not sure how to stay on track.
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