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JIBBIE49 Posts: 56,416
1/28/13 1:55 P

It always pays to have a "son or daughter" of your beloved dog or cat, since we all know that they don't live that many years. A 14 yo dog is really 98, so he was old. My darling cat, "Mr. Wilkes" had to be put down last year and he was 16. He'd had a stroke and was blind, so he was crying all the time and afraid. As long as we held him, he was quiet, but that couldn't continue. We all cried. He had fathered a liter when he was about 4 and we kept one of his "sons" who looked just like him, but then, after we had him "fixed" someone took "Mini-Wilkes" and we didn't see him again.
Get back on track and don't let yourself binge on sugar. It will only make you feel worse. I read that you should name your next dog the same name as the dog you had. It is a tribute to the dog u loved.

NANCYPAT1 Posts: 46,866
1/28/13 10:24 A

There is a team on SP called LOST A LOVED ONE - that deals with this topic in detail and the people on the team all share the stress of the loss of people they cared about. I have lost many CLOSE family members and even though they didn't ALL happen recently anniversaries and holidays are always challenging when we have lost loved ones. The worst death and DIE T issue I had was when my son died and I really found it challenging to even CARE and I WANTED and ATE all kinds of comfort foods.

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1/27/13 11:48 P

I've had recent experience with a similar situation. I had multiple deaths in my family in the last few weeks and I found this board because I was searching SP for advice not necessarily on eating emotionally but just not having the time to grieve and live my new healthy lifestyle at the same time. For example, with me I really crashed when I, unexpectedly had to spend all day at the funeral director's office with family and could not eat on time. Once I got out I was hungry and made some poor food choices.

What I decided to do is to never leave the apt without a planned lunch or lunchbox of some kind. I usually can put together something easily enough and everything I pack would be normal food selections probably already on my food favorites list. On the outside of my lunch box I put a pen and sheet or paper. If I do decide to eat fast food I write it down so that I can take a look at what I have eaten later. The biggest and most helpful thing for me has been not leaving the house without a planned meal lunch/dinner box.

One of my cousins that passed loved Butter Pecan Ice cream and my mom wanted to remember her by having some butter pecan ice cream. What I tried to do was to think of other things that she liked to do and other memories of things she did in her lifetime. She had cancer so I made up my mind that I would work toward doing a Race for the cure marathon in her honor. It made me feel better knowing that I was doing something that allowed me to pay respects but not wreck my diet.

I also tried really hard to not bring the bad food choices I made back to my apt. I usually do not keep desserts around and once you bring them back in its easy to fall back into that pattern. Don't know if this helps anyone but it helped me to realize that I definitely needed to come up with an emergency plan of action during the grieving process.


NANCYPAT1 Posts: 46,866
9/15/12 8:30 P

The advice you have already received is great. Death - whether it is the family dog or a person you cared about - can really throw a wrench into a healthy lifestyle IF YOU LET IT.

You can make plans to deal with your grief in ways that do not involve food. You can work through some of your pain with exer cise and/or simply staying active. Taking time to grieve is more important that the IMMEDIATE weight loss, but you will find that you FEEL worse when you simply let it go and eat foods that are not healthy - at least I do.

The rule of thumb is to not allow yourself to get too -

Not too hungry,
Not too tired,
Not too lonely,
Not too thirsty,
Not too angry,
etc.

Take care of your needs and don't beat yourself but strive for keeping on an even keel - if you eat a little extra or sleep a little more, or whatever, it is okay, but really focus on TAKING CARE of YOU.


Edited by: NANCYPAT1 at: 1/28/2013 (06:52)
UNIDENT Posts: 33,498
9/15/12 8:00 P

Life sometimes hits us with a curve ball.

Sometimes, just for a wee while, we can't focus on two goals at once. Perhaps just for a week, your goal is grief. Properly mourn the passing of your best friend. Forget about weight right now - if you can't do both then don't even try. Just for ONE week. You won't gain those 2/3rds of all that excess weight all back on again - not in one week.

And then, at the end of that week, having appropriately said goodbye (even though it never stops hurting and won't necessarily feel much better by then), you can start again even if it's just purely with tracking. Just track. Then when you're tracking you can see what kind of changes you want to make.

I think your doggie probably loved you and thought you were just the most awesome person to be around. Honour him/her - be awesome. Awesome people take charge and do the right things and they find a way (even if you give yourself a week to grieve first) to work towards goals they have and eventually achieve them.

Having lost both a dog and a cat in the last couple of years I understand your pain. Please take the time to deal with this loss properly without giving yourself a guilt complex over your weight at this particular moment. Take life's curve ball and just deal with the ball itself ... just for now. You can still be a great healthy person and make good positive food choices, even if you take a few more days to feel completely ready to do that again. Don't beat yourself up. Grieve. Get on with it.

BUMBLEBEERN Posts: 199
9/15/12 7:04 P

Ouch -- so sorry to hear about your dog. Our pets can be such a big part of our lives and families. When they die, they really do leave a big hole in our hearts.

The stress of that may have forced you to put your guard down. Now it is time to get back to your journey. F O C U S.

GRANDMABABA SparkPoints: (125,786)
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9/15/12 4:56 P

I am so sorry for your loss. Perhaps figuring out some substitutions ahead if time could help when you are stressed and nearing that time whe it seems only unwelcome food will do. I drink a big glass os water, with ice, and try to get away from the temptations...gou for a walk, send some emails to encourage someone else, etc. a very close friend does not have a lot of time left with cancer spreading widely now. Stress and sadness often overcome me as I search for new ways to help. I confess that foods sometimes tempt me and occasionally I do give in to a taste of them. But, only sometimes. I distract myself often with writing her notes, visiting with her, helping her plan the adventures she still craves. Good luck and much success!

MRSLINDSAYB SparkPoints: (1,544)
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9/15/12 3:30 P

It seems like you've partly answered your own question...you're plateauing and scared of back sliding...you're also not tracking every little bite. While it doesn't seem like a big deal, you can see that it is. Most of us with a weight problem tend to have a problem with emotional eating...you are NOT alone in that! It is something you have to learn to control, and you're smart for getting a grip on this while you're young. It's okay if you fall off the wagon every now and again...just get back on, and quick! Don't make yourself feel guilty about it, but make sure you pick right back up with tracking your food. Try to find things to take the place of food when you're feeling emotional. Examples: spending time with family/friends, exercise to release stress, etc. Good luck! You are doing a great job, so keep it up! You'll be at your goal in no time. And I'm sorry to hear about your dog.

CURLYGIRL728 SparkPoints: (5,488)
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9/15/12 3:22 P

I am a college student about 2/3 of the way to my weight loss goal. Yesterday, my parents had to put down my childhood dog of 14 years and I really fell off the wagon. I worked later that night and indulged in many pieces of candy and cookies. I have been struggling a lot lately and feel like I'm plateauing. I have been eating a lot of "extra" and not tracking and I am worried yesterday will set me back even more. Trying to figure out how to stay on track when emotional and stressed. Especially as school starts to pick up, I don't want to end my journey here or gain back the weight I've lost

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