How many ways can you try different methods to ovoid being criticized by the same person? Mine is my sister. She is the ultimate authority given that position because she has blue blood.
No matter what she looks like/250 lbs. over weight, she will critize her kids about their looks( fake nails is a must to self esteem, weight, dressing, ect..) Basically if she isn't criticizing, she's not talking at all. I have tried to approach her in many different ways from an area of kindness, but it doesn't sink in. I am a nurture , and I communicate using all perspective to let someone pick the best alternative. I try not to push my opinion on someone. It is only good for me, and not necessarily the right opinion. I have come to the conclusion that I need to letgo of her problem of coping. I realize she is damaged, and needs to build herself up by putting another down. I love my sister, but realize that I am hindering her from growing. Leading a horse to water, won't help it to drink. I gave her a great book on how to deal with the negative programing we learn as kids, and how it affects our communication as adults. I have let go . And realize that I wouldn't except this nastiness from friends, why her. Her life is in gods hands now. I hope this has helped you. eva