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KASSIANDORA SparkPoints: (35,199)
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4/15/11 2:31 P

Glad she recovered well.

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4/14/11 9:58 P

My daughter is home.... she has some meds to take daily.... We bought her a moped to go to school in May... so she has been excited to drive it.... So far things are well... only time can tell if this med will actually be good for her....

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4/14/11 9:32 P

So sorry about this situation. I hope she's doing well at home. keep us posted!

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4/12/11 3:13 P

I just got some good news... my daughter called they are releasing her today.... they will call once the paper work is done....

I am curios to see what meds she has to take.... and if she will take them.....

Lucille
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Edited by: BLACKROSE771 at: 4/12/2011 (15:14)
GLITTER282000 Posts: 285
4/11/11 5:10 P

I feel your pain and wish I had some helpful advice. I have two step-daughters that have been through similar situations. Both were admitted for short-term psychiatric care.

I know it feels like things will never get better....just try to take things one day at a time and know that things will get better. Both of my step-daughters are better now. They still have their moments, but only once have we had to hospitalize each of them.

I wish you the best of luck.

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4/9/11 1:33 A

I can relate to this more than you can imagine, but I'd prefer not to get too personal on here.

I just wanted to say that I'm very sorry you're going through this and I hope that with time, things will get better for both of you.

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4/8/11 9:05 P

Thanks for your feed-back... it is appreciated...

I am glad that Tori went to Vermillion.... They have good doctors and actually listen to their patients.... Tori was diagnosed as bi-polar... It did not surprise me... I am bi-polar and her natural father was bi-polar... It is in the family... This helps me because I know what I go through daily....

I see a doctor regularly... They just now changed my visits from monthly to every other month, to try and see if I am strong enough to manage...

Things are going well, I just was not expecting my daughter to have such an episode.... It shows the people who she hangs out with are not truely friends.. They gave her the drugs to take...

Thanks again,
Lucille


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ELIZABETH_SKY Posts: 442
4/8/11 6:57 P

I'm glad to hear that things are going better. I also think it's good that she can stay a bit longer...you don't bounce back as quickly from those things as insurance companies want you to!

Here's another thought...you as a parent have an opportunity to help Tori benefit as much as possible from her medication. No medication can make you happy. What they can do is prepare your mind so that it's CAPABLE of being happy. Long-term, a person with mental health issues has to know how to care for themselves so that they are not dependent on that medication......as a parent, it'll be tricky to convey this to her. I recommend trying to keep a positive attitude, and casually - normally - asking questions to open her up to talk to you. About everything, but also about her expectations of the medication. Listen nonjudgmentally. Questions might include "how long do you expect your brain will need the medication?" "what goals do you and your doctors have for your recovery?" "do you ever feel nervous about the day you'll have to stop taking the medication? What will you do to take care of yourself once that happens?" - and let her work out the answers in a safe environment :)

And you know, you might want to think about seeing a psychologist yourself. I imagine you have some things that it would be helpful to talk out. Even if you have *perfect* mental health, a psychologist can probably give you way better tips and ideas about how to both cope with and help your daughter in her recovery than I can give you.

Good luck :)

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4/8/11 6:33 P

Thanks everyone....It is nice to know that others care...
Today I feel a bit blue....
Tori is doing well... They are putting her on a new medicine to make her happy, as she described it....
She sounds like she is in good spirits... and may stay another 4 days to observe her....

Thanks again,
Lucille

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LKISINSATIABLE Posts: 382
4/7/11 11:24 A

Definitely, feel free to pm us if you need someone to vent to or need an electronic shoulder to cry on!

ELIZABETH_SKY Posts: 442
4/6/11 9:02 P

Send me/us a sparkmail if you feel like you want some extra support/need to vent a little/anything :)

LKISINSATIABLE Posts: 382
4/6/11 6:59 P

Wow, I agree with Elizabeth. Take a breath. Give the hospital a call to see if there are any updates. Try to distract yourself until you hear more. It sounds like you're doing all you can. If you are a religious person, I would pray. *hugs*

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4/6/11 3:18 P

Thanks for replying.... I am finding it hard to chill out right now.... Have to be carefully not to eat to come my emotions..... I never knew it would be this tough being a MOM..... Her infancy was a cake walk compared to her teens.....

Thanks again,
Lucille

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ELIZABETH_SKY Posts: 442
4/6/11 2:37 P

Remember to breath! Take it one moment at a time...try not to wear down your energy worrying about things that aren't real (yet). Get help for yourself, if you haven't - professional as well as help from friends or family that you can rely on.

It sounds like your daughter can really benefit from having a little time off of life, as well as whatever professional help she can get. Please encourage her (in a non-pushy, non-overbearing way) to continue to get professional help. I think it's appropriate to help her out in any way with this - giving her a ride there, paying for expenses (like copays or whatever else) that you might not normally, obviously continuing to help her with whatever expenses you do now.

It's important not to be overbearing. Your daughter will need to know that you'll help her get help in any way possible. However, if she feels like she's being forced to do something or like you're not letting her take control of her own treatment plan, she may shy away from getting help at all (this is what happened to my sister when she was having some problems).

Above all, it'll take enormous patience. Hence, the most important advice is the keep breathing, take it one moment at a time bit :)

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4/6/11 2:26 P

Last night was a night I wish I could erase from my memory... My daughter went visit a fried and came back asking for gas money, to go get her clothes her friend has at her house... I gave her the money and about 15 minutes later she comes in the house all pissed off, saying some guy that was in the car with them stole her $20.... She just started going berserk.... She was yelling, crying, throwing things around in her room, hitting the wall and broke her already fragile door.... Her door now is officially broken.... After about 3 hours of this I gave her another $20, but calmed her only a little... My husband called the police but they did nothing!!! A bit later my husband brought Tori to a friends house to try to calm her... on the way she told him she wanted to kill herself..... When he got home he called the police back and told them... Now they could pick her up! They brought her an ambulance and took her to the hospital... She was rude to the nurses, me and my husband... After the doctor saw her she decided to have her PEC (Physicians Emergency Commitment).... She was extremely upset.... She refused to allow them to take blood and to walk to a new room..... I was asked to leave while they put her in a suicidal room to watch her more closely.....(She has Bi-Polar Disorder, and I have it also)

It is now the next morning.... I don't know if she did what they asked or not! I need suggestions on what to do!!

What would you do in my situation.....
Any and all comments are greatly appreciated.....
Thanks, Lucille

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