Maybe while you are making dinner- your husband can do some of the chores... or bath your son- that way you can spend some quality time together when your son is in bed- and maybe it will help your relationship. and will help him understand how important it is that YOU get you time. I would be so mad if my husband just didst do anything at all after work, regardless of his job. You both work, you both are tired after work, but you both have a child together so he should share in those responsibilities.
7/24/12 2:04 P
that's great. Thanks.
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7/24/12 11:37 A
Unless your hubby and son join you in the tub, the bathroom is a great place to get a few moments to yourself. If you need to reduce stress, lock the bathroom door, fill the tub, light a candle or two, put on your favorite music and relax. just sit and soak.
I know you said money was a little tight, but do you have enough for a manicure or a pedicure ? maybe grab a couple of girlfriends and have a girls day out. the hubby can watch your son for an hour, can't he ? If so, having a mani/pedicure is a great way to feel a little pampered.
Those are just two simple things you could do to reduce stress. When do you find time to exercise ? No one says you have to exercise for 30-60 minutes to be healthy. If you can only do 10 minutes, that's okay. 10 minute workouts are all the fitness rage these days. doing three short 10 minute workouts spaced out through the day still adds up to a 30 minute workout. Coach Nicole has a bunch of short 10-15 minute workouts posted in the fitness section. YOUTUBE has a bizillion !
Try getting up 10 minutes earlier and doing a 10 minute routine. If you work and get a lunch break, take a 10-15 minute walk at lunch. At dinner time or just before you go to bed, sneak in one more quickie workout. And that's 30 minutes.
Those 10 minute workouts are another good source of "me" time.
7/24/12 9:30 A
thank you. But only if I could find some "me" time. I work 9 to 5. When I get home, I cook dinner, wash dishes,do any chore that needs to be done. Give my son a bath, wrestle with him to go to bed at a decent hour, but he ends up going to sleep around 11:30. I usually go to sleep around 12, and I'm too pooped to wake up an hour earlier to work out. I'm not trying to make excuses, I just need an answer and I can't find it. HELP!!!
My husbands a plumber, and when he comes home, he's pooped as well, so I don't even bother asking him for help. He works physically harder than I do, I sit behind a desk all day.
Unfortunately, I found out that the only time I can be alone and have "me" time is when I go to the gym. I go to the women gym and walk on the threadmill. I think on how I am stepping on the horrible things or unfair events that happen to make me mad. When I have no chance to go there, then I try to have vegetables on hand to stuff my mouth. I am allergic to chewing gum otherwise I would reach for it. I know that you probably feel like yelling at him but you can not because of your small son.
Don't lose the other part of the lesson here - you feel anger, you want to medicate feeling that way by eating.
You might want to connect with some of the other boards around emotional eating or mindfulness.
Just a suggestion, hope it helps.
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7/20/12 9:34 P
I agree with the others... take the kid for a walk. It will do you both good.
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9,693 7/20/12 6:18 P
Take that rambunctious 3 year old on your walk WITH you! Challenge your kid to run in spurts! You'll be spending quality time with your child, focusing on keeping the kid safe, and you'll find that your temper will ease.
The more you go, the stronger those little legs will get! And you'll be demonstrating, first hand, how to be healthy!
7/20/12 4:14 P
thanks. Good ideas. I love SP and all the support that comes with it. You are absolutely right that I will feel good while I'm eating and then afterward I will feel bad. It always happens. Thanks.
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7/20/12 3:36 P
How about taking a walk around the neighborhood instead of turning to food. I find that when I get angry or upset, a nice walk helps clear my mind.
The fact is, eating food will not solve your problems with your hubby. You need to be able to think sensibly. And well, if you turn to food, you might feel better for about five minutes. The next thing you know, you're going to feel guilty for eating all that food.
So, why not take a walk ? Or... take a few BIG DEEP BREATHES. I find some deep breathing exercises helpful too.
Lots of happily married couples get into arguments. It happens. Take a walk, before you know it... everyone will be apologizing to each other.
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333 7/20/12 3:35 P
Ummmm take your rambunctious 3 year old to the park and hang out with some other moms? Call up a friend and see if they have a minute for you to go to their house? Basically, get out of the house! Preferably do something productive, but even just going to Starbucks or something and getting a low cal treat for you and something for your little one might help. Probably the drive would help as well, just putting time between you and the incident.
7/20/12 3:19 P
I am so mad right now at something my husband did and all I want to do is EAT. Anybody had this problem before and what did you do? And please don't say read a book or walk because I have a rambuntious 3 year old. Thanks, Amy
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