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CILER11
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5/8/13 10:17 A

Please don't go back to smoking. I know it's hard (I was a pack and a half a day smoker when I quit 11 years ago), but it's so worth it in the long run. Could you take a short stroll at night when you're bored, or hang on the message boards at spark, or plan the next weeks meals? I know that keeping busy keeps me from overeating. I also premeasure a serving out and leave the bag in the kitchen. You also may want to consider talking to a counselor as it seems you've had a great deal of life changes in the past few months and that causes considerable stress. As far as building a support circle have you thought about volunteering, joining a book club, or something of the sort? Hang in there!



ARCHIMEDESII
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5/8/13 9:37 A

EGOODRICH3,

As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for all the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

The fact that you've been able to quit smoking for the last two months is a HUGE health benefit. That's a big positive that you must accentuate.

We all have stress in our lives. some more than others. I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. Don't beat yourself up because you've been turning to food for comfort. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. change takes time, thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

What to do ? For the time being, don't beat yourself up if you find yourself stress eating. However, when you do feel like you're stressed out, instead of turning to food, why not take a walk ? Walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too. you could listen to relaxing music. you could take a hot shower. you could read a book. you could knit or sew. there are lots of others things you can do that will help reduce your stress. Because when you're stress is lower, you're less likely to head for the kitchen. try to keep yourself busy.

It's tough to move away from friends and family, but you will meet new people. You'll have to be brave and come out of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. take a class, join a book club. Do some volunteer work. If you want to feel better about yourself, do something for someone else. Doing volunteer work really helps a person appreciate all the good things in their life that they might not notice.

And well, you can always post in the forums. If you don't have any support at home, the spark community will support you.






ERITAB
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5/8/13 6:50 A

I quit smoking about a year ago, after 15 years of smoking more than 1 and a half pack a day, in bad days, when I was stressed or angry (considering my husbands familiy this would happen every other hour) I smoked up to 2 packs a day, and my husband would join me, smoking about the same amount.
When I decided to quit, it really was the same determination as I am now feeling about losing weight. I calculated all the Money I would save, the things I could do with them, places I could see and if I saved up enough and didn't lose weight I could Always have some surgery ;)
all kidding aside, what you are feeling, this boredom, you need to fill it some other way, how about you everytime you feel hungry or bored, drink a glass of water and do 10 jumping jacks? Or go out for a run instead?
Replace what's in your fridge and pantry with healthy alternatives, like fruits, veggies, nuts and for a real sweet treat puré some fruit and freeze them to have popsicles.
Your brain, smart as it might be, is an evil sonofa and is trying to trick you into smoking again and taking the easy way out. Find a hobby or something else that occupies mind and body and you will be back to losing that weight.
If you need to talk I'm available :)
Good luck and don't give in to easy temptations :)



GLORIAMAJDI
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5/8/13 6:31 A

Please don't take up smoking again! Why trade one health issue for another? You've quit for two months....make it two more, and two more and two more. In the meantime, it sounds like you are bored and perhaps lonely. Sometimes we turn to food for comfort during these times. Do you have any hobbies? Have you met anyone in your new part of the country? Now that the weather is getting nicer, could you go for a walk to take keep you busy and take your mind off things (depends on whether or not you live in a neighborhood that is safe for walking). In the evenings I stay very busy...I do needlework, cardmaking and scrapbooking, and I read voraciously - books, magazines and even SparkPeople articles about health and fitness. I don't know if you have a yard but gardening is also nice this time of year. In the meantime, perhaps try to meet some people. Is there a Spark Team where you live? I know where I live there is a Spark Team (check out the community boards to find one) and I have met one of my SparkFriends. The team also does do some things together on occasion. I know that you can do this! It is hard but don't let some setbacks get you down. Just stick with it and it will all work out!



SLIMMERKIWI
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5/8/13 6:04 A

I wonder if some of the weight that you lost was as a result of stress from shifting, etc. It sounds like you could do with a hobby to take your mind off mindless eating. You really DON'T want to go down the smoking route again - that would be one of the worst things you could do!

Just start this journey off with baby steps - changing one or two things to start with, and when your mind/body is used to the change, add something else to the mix. You CAN do this, but you must have faith in yourself. If you tell yourself you can't do it, then believe me, you won't. Instead become that Little Red Engine ............. "I can, I can, I KNOW I can!"

Kris





DATPANNA
Posts: 158
5/8/13 12:11 A

Sometimes, easy ways out aren't the best way... Definitely not in the case of smoking. There's no quick fix to change your life style, it's true. You just have to figure out what works for you. Everybody has weight ups and downs. Some have downs of well over 15 lbs. What keeps you going is that you REALLY want this change. Don't beat yourself up so much. You're still showing you really care, and even if you did slip up, you're trying!!!! It's alright to have slip ups-- you're not perfect. You're never going to be perfect. And the best part, you don't NEED to be perfect, in any aspect. You just have to be you, and you take care of your body as best you can. Nothing killed you, and tomorrow, my friend, is a brand new day. Tomorrow, pick yourself up, and you keep going-- Because you DESERVE that. Your body deserves that. You won't be within calorie budget every time you eat. You may still have moments in life where your weight fluctuates more than you'd like, but you can get to a point where you're managing it better and you're healthier and happier! You can lose the weight you have now, and you can maintain the loss!!! And it doesn't need to be and isn't going to be a perfect journey either, but it sure makes you a stronger person. Don't ever compromise your health over wanting to lose weight, because frankly, your body has kept you alive through EVERYTHING you've gone through in life. It's a good body. It treats you as well as it can. You should be so proud of it. Yeeeeah, it might be a little lumpy, so is mine, so are 9836923692386 people's. You're working on making it healthier, but it has to be inside and out. :) Keep your chin up and give yourself a pat on the back in advance. You're still in this. You're still going to do this. Someone on here once reminded me that the journey to good health is NOT all or nothing. It is not black and white. You've GOT this. You can DO this.

All of that being said, I welcome new friends and have ears when ya' need 'em. I know what you mean about needing people to talk to. It's good you're making friends at least where you are! It'll all be alright. Feel free to add me or sparkmessage me whenever you'd like. :)



EGOODRICH3
Posts: 5
5/7/13 10:56 P

I could really use someone to talk to.
Last July, my son and I moved to a new state, leaving behind a lot of family and all of my friends. I have a sister here, but she has been having issues of her own lately, so I can't talk to her about mine. I have a new friend, and she is wonderful, but I feel like I lean on her too much. When we first moved down here, I lost 15 pounds fairly quickly. I was very excited, and thought this was the change I needed. Then Christmas time came, and I gained some of it back, but I wasn't worried because, it was Christmas, and I would lose it after the holidays... I did it so easily before. Didn't happen, but at least I hadn't gained any more back.
Then two months ago, I quit smoking (It has been two months to the date) I have gained every last pound back. For the past few weeks, I've been trying to eat healthier, I've been trying to move more. I want to do this. But evening hits, and me, being bored, end up eating everything I had saved previously. Today, for example, I was good for the morning and lunch, but dinner time came and I thought I could stop at one grilled cheese sandwich. And I did. It was the chips and hummus that killed me. I sat there and ate, and ate, and ate.. until I literally feel sick to my stomach right now. And then I get depressed, because I know that when I weighed myself earlier... I was heavy. Really freaking heavy. And I seriously considered taking up smoking again, so that I would stop eating at night. So that I would sit on the patio, and smoke instead of eat. I know it isn't the answer, But when I lost that 15 pounds, and was feeling so proud of myself... I was smoking a pack and half a day, more than I normally smoked (mostly due to stress, loneliness and boredom)

I feel so emo whining like this. But I just need to talk to someone. I can't burden my family. They all have issues of their own to deal with. I want to be a warrior... I just, don't know if I can do it alone.



 
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