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MARIAH_92 SparkPoints: (8,358)
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1/13/14 6:48 A

Great idea! :) I weigh myself tomorrow for the first time in a very long time so I will be updating my page soon. Hopefully you are right because I am terrified right now! lol. Thanks for the support!

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1/13/14 1:22 A

So glad you went to the dentist, and hope the antibiotic & pain killer works very soon...Don't be too terrified about getting those teeth pulled! Plan for a few days that it Will Hurt...but you will have pain killers...and then it will be over & done with! Plan ahead so you have healthy softer foods to eat (yogurt, soups, mashed potatoes, etc)---ask the dental office ahead of time and they should be able to give you more information.

And that will be a Very Big One to cross off "The List" a previous poster suggested!!
All the best,

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1/12/14 5:44 P

Thank you! emoticon

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1/12/14 1:09 A

You're young and have you'r whole life ahead of you. I can only suggest that you try something new today. Sometimes we can get into ruts with the way that we think, eat, speak, feel that we need to shake it up. You seem to have a lot on your plate. When I feel that way, I make a list, even of the big things that need to get done, so when I DO get them done, I can see how far I've come. Feels good to cross them off the list.
Think about tiny changes you can make today that have nothing to do with losing weight and more about creating health - make a few meals with your boyfriend so you'll have leftovers and save your money. Plus the real food (not frozen) will make you feel good. A big pot of vegi chili, or soup or beans? Comfort food that tastes better as the week goes on. How about eating a piece of fruit each day.? Getting 8 glasses of water? Do some deep breathing and stand up and stretch some during commercials. Take a walk during your break between classes. Download an inspiring podcast to distract you. Don't bring money to school so you won't eat., go to the library,
The point is that small changes will help you feel like you are treating yourself better and that will help improve your mood, which will build on itself. Build your health and your mood and the weight loss will follow.
Gotta shake it up! Good luck, you got this.

Edited by: LUCKYONE60 at: 1/12/2014 (01:11)
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1/9/14 10:38 P

Thank you! I'm feeling pretty good about that now and I would like to start on Monday. I'm having a rough day though...I went to the dentist because I've had a constant headache for at least a week and I have been having trouble sleeping because of the pain so I thought maybe it was because my wisdom teeth were coming in. Today I found out that they are infected and that I need to have all of them pulled. I will also have to miss school for this but I don't think I can even get it done until Feb 11th (the surgeon is only there once a month) and of course it is expensive :( I am also terrified! But I'm trying to be okay with it. They did give me Amoxicillin and Tylenol 3 though so hopefully that will help with the pain until then. I hope everyone else is doing okay today!

1/9/14 11:07 A

Hang in there, Mariah!
I am a heck of a lot older than you are and I have struggled with my weight all of my life. A lot of people gave you good advice so I won't go over all of that again but the thing I tell my kids about anything difficult is this - you may as well do the things that are difficult now. You won't get any younger and the issue (whatever it is) won't get any easier to deal with with the passage of time. I wish that I had realized that sooner. I think to myself, "Self, if you had made these changes in your 20's you wouldn't have to do it now." You will be so thankful for hanging in there Mariah. And when you make your goal, you won't have that stress and disappointment weighing you down. You can do it! I will be working on it right along side of you.
One more thing - if you are breathing, it isn't hopeless! :)
Have a great day!

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1/8/14 9:37 P

Lol :) Well thank you for that! Yeah I have a long way to go and a lot of comfort issues that I need to deal with but i'll get there. I'm looking forward to Monday. Haven't quiet figured out what I'm going to do different yet but I have the weekend to think it over. How is everything going with you?

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1/8/14 9:45 A


I'll tell you a secret. SHHHHHHH....

I took and passed my learner's permit test on December 31st. Let me just say that I have a few years on you. So, it's never too late. LOL !

I too decided it was time to get my driver's license. Living in Boston, I really don't need a car. I can get most places I need to go via walking, the bus, the subway or commuter rail. Having a license would be practical since I don't make enough money to have a chauffer.

The point ? Don't be afraid to come out of your comfort zone. Yes, you may have to do some things that might seem a little scary, but you know what ? You're WORTH all the extra effort.


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1/8/14 4:41 A

Thanks for all of the support! I will take all of this into consideration. Yes I would say that maybe I am a little depressed right now but I also know that I am able to change the things that make me unhappy. No I don't have a gym by my college and I don't drive (I have to pay for gas for my dad or sister to drop me off at school and also for my brother to pick me up). I do have a gym about 10 minutes from my house but a year membership is like $163 so I think its best to start at home.

When I first started a few years ago I lost 8 pounds my first week just from giving up pop and fast food all at once (shows how unhealthy I was and how unhealthy I am again). I would love to do that again but with not having as much courage this time around it is harder. I am a little worried because I start school again on Tuesday and I have like an hour and a half between my two classes so I'm afraid of me going to the cafeteria to be unhealthy like I usually would do. I only go to class twice a week though so hopefully I can survive.

I don't have friends now that I am out of high school. The only people I talk to are my cousin from a different state (we talk all day every day) & my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years (5 years in May) :) He is truly amazing and has been there for me through everything. We live with my parents but he buys all of my stuff and takes care of me. Neither of us drive which does create some stress but I would love for us to get our license this year. His temps have been expired since July and mine actually expired today *sigh* I don't know if I should try to get my temps again (I feel like I need to read the book again first) or if I should just get a regular ID for now. I want to have my license by August when I start my medical classes but we'll see. I guess I have a lot of things to work on this year.

Well I appreciate all of the comments and I would love to have new friends so if anyone wants to talk you'll know where to find me :) I had a movie date with my boyfriend and we we're completely unhealthy with it but I think it will be the last time for that for awhile so we wanted to enjoy. Maybe Monday I will weigh myself again and start over (I've always stuck with weighing myself on Monday mornings). Then after that I will redo my spark page and hopefully get somewhere. This time I will be more open about what is going on with me and I will try new things on here. emoticon

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1/7/14 1:33 P


Welcome back to Spark People !!!

I give all new members and anyone who will listen to me one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. Thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

We have all been where you are. We all know what it's like to carry the extra weight. It is depressing. But you know what ? That's the past. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. set some simple goals to start. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how we slowly begin to change habits learned over a lifetime. Take baby steps literally and figuratively.

I know things seem overwhelming right now, but starting with some very small changes really is the best way to start.

If you ever need support, post a blog or post in the forums. The spark community will support you.

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1/7/14 8:31 A

You're not alone. The statistics for people losing weight and keeping it off are not encouraging. I've found out for myself how hard it is to maintain even a lower weight, never mind my goal weight. My goal now is to eat healthy and exercise, and if I lose weight in the process fine, if not I'm still doing something good for myself.


1/7/14 7:17 A

I say start with a clean slate and set small goals. This has helped me tremendously. Do 10 pounds or 20 pounds at a time, then start a new clean slate.

And like everyone has said, don't beat yourself up (yea, easier said than done). One day at a time, keep coming on here for support we are here for you.


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1/6/14 11:05 P

How well I know that "hopeless" feeling. It is all so overwhelming. But it's not, if you think about small steps like the others have suggested. I like the idea that I can promise myself to quit after 10 minutes if I get tired of walking. And I have once or twice, but I'm more likely to be enjoying myself and continue walking for longer times. Then I feel good, I feel energized and I feel proud. Because it works for me, and because spark people talk about it in all their wonderful articles, I encourage you to try it. When you're feeling hopeless, just read the fabulous articles offered here.

Use your age as a motivation. You are just beginning a wonderful life and looking forward to a special career as a medical professional. It's a great time to try again and be consistent in making a smart life style change.

Here's wishing you great success!

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1/6/14 9:58 P

Is there a gym at your college? It may be free or at very low cost to students.

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1/6/14 8:28 P

I would say start over like it never happened. (Except that of course you do have what you learned the last time. But it's important to let go of past failures when you start something like this. They only drag you down. You have to stay focused on the present, on what you are doing right now.)

You're right you want a lifestyle change, but the previous poster is also right you don't have to commit to doing everything at once. You lost weight before with stereotypical "diet" foods and so on, so that would be a useful starting point -- just getting rid of things like soda and limiting junk food and eating more real meals with vegetables and so on, even if they're pre-prepared to begin with. Set a longer term goal to have maybe half your daily calories (one meal plus one snack, that sort of thing) come from food you've put together yourself from scratch (or that's just fruit, vegetables, nuts and so on). Once you're at that point it's completely sustainable. Perfection is not necessary.

I had similar past issues with gym issues myself, so I got around that by just not joining one. I walked -- on a treadmill in my basement with an Ipod in hand, but outside would have done just as well. That's all I did for exercise for months. It was fine. Again, no need for perfection. You need to find what works for you, not for somebody else.

Good luck, you can do it!

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1/6/14 8:18 P

emoticon emoticon I am glad you shared with us. I am no expert but you sound depressed. For starters maybe you could set small goals, ones you can attain. you know how to because you have done it before. This time you should right down why you want to lose weight. All of the reasons have to be about you and for you no one else.

You are more important right now, than anyone. This is about your life. Being overweight leaves us open for all types of illnesses. I have a few myself that is one of my reasons for losing weight. (Better Health)

Do not spend more money on a gym. Sparkpeople have any type of exercise you need. If you are in pain chair exercising is a good place to start. There are many success stories of people who started this way.

I like dancing and sparkpeople has Bollywood dancing, it is so much fun. The instructor is so good she makes you feel happy just watching her.

I have only been a member for about five months, that is why I felt I could share with you. I hope you can find some encouragement, because that is how I mean it. emoticon emoticon

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1/6/14 7:37 P

Welcome back, sweetie!!

I'm sure you're gonna get some great advice, so I'll just touch on a few things, ok?

The fact that you did it to a degree before is great news! You already know some of the basics, and that's a huge start, you just need to start implementing them again. The best advice is to start small.

Weigh yourself and enter in your info again to to find your daily calorie range. When it asks for your goal weight, maybe increase it so you aren't initially looking at a daunting number (say your starting weight is 250 - make your goal weight 200...when you get to 200, you can lower your goal again).

You don't need a gym to exercise. You can walk everyday for 20 minutes - or do the videos here for free in your home at your convenience - and youtube has a ton of free videos as well - just search with keywords, cardio, yoga, pilates, etc. If you and your boyfriend are still together, maybe make it a "couple" thing, like going for walks together or doing a zumba video together :)

There are teams you can join - this is a link to find groups in your age range
- but there are a ton of groups here to join, from age, to goals, from cat lovers to people who knit!!!

Staying active on the message boards is also a great way to "meet" and talk to people.

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1/6/14 6:55 P

I have been overweight almost all of my life...the earliest I remember is 5th grade and I weighed 175 pounds. My parents never forced me to eat healthy (my whole family is unhealthy), but I think this is why I don't like trying new food. I think that even if I did force myself to try something "healthy" I would still always choose something unhealthy :(

On August 22nd 2011 I was at my biggest at 269 pounds. I was tired of being out of breath, my legs rubbing together, and just being unhappy all together. My boyfriend helped me start my weight loss journey and over the course of a year, I lost 81 pounds. Even though I wasn't eating "healthy" I was drinking water instead of pop, I stopped eating fast food & I started eating frozen smart ones and other "diet" foods like that. I also got a membership at a gym close to my house.

Even though my original goal weight was 135, I found myself "comfortable" at 188 (I still wasn't completely happy though). I was feeling better, doing more, in a good mood most of the time. However, eventually I got bored with working out...I became stressed out (there are a lot of things going on with my family) and I started eating because of it. My boyfriend wasn't staying on me about exercising and eating right because he didn't want to "upset me" since I was already upset about everything else. I ended up wasting my gym membership and now I am afraid that I will do it again if I buy another one.

Another thing that slowed me down was me starting college, I came to sparkpeople about my fear of gaining the weight back with me starting school....then I stopped getting on sparkpeople (I never had anyone to talk to on here or any friends since I finished highschool online) well my fear came true and I gained back all of my weight & possibly then some (I haven't had the courage to get back on the scale since I haven't done anything to change)

But I am completely unhappy. I know that this isn't just going to be a fix. This is changing a life style. It's going to be an every day struggle. I've tried to restart a few times after putting on a little bit of weight and I just couldn't get going again. I was hopeless. I'm annoyed because I know I can do it (I've done it before) but after wasting a year of my life and gaining it all back I'm afraid that I'm just going to do it again. I'm not working but I am still in college (I go back on jan 14th). I start my medical classes in August and I'm afraid that being unhealthy is going to make that harder and unenjoyable.

But as of right now I'm still pretty much hopeless. I don't know if I should just erase everything and start over like it never happened, or if I should try picking back up where I left off. I still haven't changed my goals or anything on sparkpeople :/

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