Just responding to the OP, only skimmed the rest of the thread, sorry:
There is no reason to consume anything anywhere or at any time that you do not wish to consume and you owe no one an explanation and it doesn't make you a stick in the mud to just say no thanks and smile.
Edited by: EMPRESSAMQ at: 12/10/2013 (16:51)
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12/10/13 4:48 P
I don't drink because the alcohol causes migraines. I also don't like the taste of alcohol. I've had some really interesting experiences because of that. It's almost like the person or people drinking feel I'm judging them by making the personal choice to not drink. I don't care if they drink, although I do detest drunk people. I just say I'm good, or no thanks. I don't give a reason, I just keep saying no. If the person continues I'll generally walk away from them. Those who matter to me know why I don't drink, and I don't care if others think something bad of me for choosing not to drink.
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651 12/10/13 9:59 A
Just say, "No, thank you, I'll have diet soda (or water, or juice)"
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1,065 12/10/13 7:07 A
I've been to lots of places and occasions where there was drinking, or I was offered a drink. I just say "I'll have Diet Pepsi, thanks! (and if you are one who thinks Diet Pepsi is just about poisoness and worse for you than alcoholic drinks, then just say "I'll have water.")
Maybe I just hang with different people but I have never felt anybody, even if they were buying or offering me a drink, really gives a hoot whether I choose something with alcohol in it, or not. They are too busy with their own drinking and what-not to really be that concerned about your choice to drink or not.
I feel the same as you; I'm not crazy about the taste of most alcoholic beverages (and prefer diet soda) and I sure don't want to waste calories drinking something that doesn't taste that great. I have never really understood the desirability of feeling drunk, either. I have been drunk before, but not sure I would call it "high." I think it just feels out of control and sort of yucky, just not a way I really like feeling.
Honestly, it's nobody's business what in your glass. Water or juice is fine. If someone else doesn't like what YOU are having, they are the ones with the problem.
Laura, SW Ohio, EST
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12/10/13 5:52 A
My personal experience has been that most people do not care at all what you're drinking, as long as you have a glass of *something* in your hand. If the glass is empty or almost empty, to be polite they'll offer to refresh your drink. But rarely has anyone pushed a drink at me, when I've said "no, that's okay, I'm good". Or if I've said, "just club soda with a splash of orange juice". I do not drink alcohol, and you might actually be surprized how many people don't, these days. Whether for religious reasons, or health reasons, or because they're the designated driver. It is not rude to refuse alcohol, and it does not make you a stick in the mud.
Ruth in Cookeville, TN Central Time Zone
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OMG KJ! I love the Dick Van Dyke Show. He is the greatest comedian ever! I swear DVD has joints where the rest of don't. Great clip!
And I agree with the others. Order what you want. If someone offers to get you something either decline or tell them what you want. I would be surprised it someone comments on your not drinking. If they do, just smile and say you don't want to waste your calories on booze when there is so much good food to eat!
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19,563 12/9/13 10:47 P
You should never feel obligated to drink alcohol when offered. You can always say "no thank you" and offer what you would like
If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results.
"no thanks, i'm good." or you could ask for a cranberry juice or a shirley temple if that's what you prefer. as you probably noticed there are tons of reasons why people don't drink. you don't have to explain you reason unless you want to.
Since I been walk with walker, I no longer go to the parties, because no matter where I go, the walker always took up a lot of space, and when people gather, just no room for it; unless I know the person real real good, I do not accept any invitation, just to save both of us the problem, I don't drink any thing other than water or soda and juice; it's no big deal for me.
I see enough fool after the drinking, with 13 years work in hotel and restaurant, I don't know why people make such fool of themselves, seem they like to punish them selves the next day or two.
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12/9/13 7:57 P
I drink Perrier water with a piece of lemon or lime in it, or club soda, and I've been known to ask for Alka Seltzer if they don't have that!!! I too hate the taste of alcoholic drinks, and hate the smell of someone's breath after they drink that stuff, yuck !! As bad as cigarette breath on another person..........lol. I got sick at a winery when we took relatives for a tour, and threw up in the elevator just from the smell, years and years ago. Hate the stuff. These days, no one ever says one thing about me not drinking any alcohol, people are smarter now. Saying you are allergic or on medication works, too.
You can get your cranberry juice spritzer and say "No, thanks, I'm fine" if they offer you anything. And strike up a conversation. I think it's rude to push drinks on somebody. Hopefully people will know better.
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12/9/13 12:32 P
Just ask for what you want if someone offers to refresh your drink. You don't need to make any explanations and they don't have the right to ask why you're not drinking. That being said, saying you're the DD is always a good excuse if someone is being rude and not letting it go.
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3,293 12/9/13 12:29 P
Take it, swirl it around, put it down, pick it up...just don't drink it.
Years ago I had a job (in another country) which involved attending a lot of cocktail parties. Not drinking was not acceptable in that culture/context. However, because of medications, I absolutely could not have alcohol. So I would take a glass of champagne and just carry it around. This seemed to work much better than trying to explain the situation.
We have been invited to a few adult Christmas parties where alcohol will be served that I can't get out of. This sounds odd, but I never liked the taste of wine, beer, or other types of alcohol or mixed beverages. So question is what do I say when offered? I don't want to be the stick in the mud, so if I do have a small amount alcohol, my stomach burns like crazy! If someone is "tending bar" I privately request cranberry juice with sparkeling water in place of wine. But with a open bar, I don't know, always someone offering to get me a drink.
Edited by: SIMPLYME80 at: 12/9/2013 (20:02)
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