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WHEELS54 Posts: 492
9/3/13 5:30 P

I just saw a pic of myself in a bathing suit from our vacation last month. Yikes! I knew I was pudgy but I was shocked at the sight of that big fatty wearing my suit. Sooo motivated. I can't believe I was so in denial about how big I am but no more.

JACKSGRAN Posts: 1,512
9/3/13 4:17 P

A touch of both in a way. Funnily enough, I've just blogged about it and then saw this thread.

Have a great day Sparkies.


TEALLEN04 SparkPoints: (12,104)
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9/3/13 3:52 P

An epiphany: rejoining Spark armed with new skills from learning about behavioral modification strategies and healthy calorie ranges. Oh, and learning how to incorporate exercise into my life again!

KATIEWOLFIE SparkPoints: (7,097)
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9/3/13 3:32 P

It is definitely desperation that initially motivated me to make a change. Throughout this journey though I am having several epiphanies about myself, about the way I see food, and how I view the world. My latest ephiphany came this weekend when, for the first time, it occurred to me that when I only talk about my weight-loss journey with other overweight, unsuccessful, friends I am not going to achieve sucess. I have been reluctant to talk to my healthy, skinny friends about my food issues thinking that they could not possibly understand, relate, etc. I'm grateful for a trustworthy friend, who is committed to living a healthy lifestyle, who patiently listened to me yesterday and who humbly offered advice, support, accountability, and unconditional love. I see her success and I want what she has. I realized for the first time that it doesn't come easy for her, she fights as hard as I do, she just doesn't give in to failure as often as I do. Today I am feeling hopeful.

ANDI262001 Posts: 1
9/3/13 2:58 P

Mine was an epiphany of sorts. I realized I had been using my weight as a crutch. My mother has told me repeatedly, since my divorce, that I'd likely be single for the rest of my life if I didn't lose weight. Instead of seeing that as a reason to lose, I (stubborn as I am) saw it as a reason NOT to lose. My comment was, "If they don't like me fat, they don't deserve me skinny". And for that very reason I refused to lose weight. Then I realized it was a crutch. I'm not STAYING fat OR thin for anyone but me. If I'm happy, that is all that matters. It was like the curtains parted and the angels sang! I know I have a long way to go, but I'm finally heading in the right direction and I don't care if I stay single forever! I FEEL better when I'm healthier. And quite frankly, I still have the mindset that those who don't want me fat don't deserve me skinny. I'll just get to be as selective as these people apparently are emoticon

REJ7777 Posts: 4,027
9/3/13 2:18 P

Unfortunately, it took a heart attack to get me to do something about my diabetes, obesity and stress. I knew what to do, but knowing is not doing.

FLOYDIE40 Posts: 34
9/3/13 2:14 P

My most successful weightloss changes have begun as simply as, "why not?"

I suppose in the end it's logic, or an epiphany. I know when I've tried to create the same feeling myself it didn't work. I could fake it, but didn't really make it.

COO_KIE SparkPoints: (63,787)
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9/3/13 2:03 P

Thanks Susan. I am not sure of food allergies, exactly, but I am gluten intolerant. That usually affects me intestinally, though. Still, I am trying to get off my BP meds, and get so I do not need to emoticon use the rescue inhaler very often.

SUSAN727 Posts: 1,880
9/3/13 1:45 P

Oh, I definitely think the weight has something to do with the asthma and breathing. I even think food allergies have a lot to do with the asthma and breathing also.

PTREE15 SparkPoints: (8,292)
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9/3/13 1:30 P

Epiphany, I guess. I was/am not getting any younger, and I realized I wouldn't be able to keep doing things I loved, such as hiking, biking, roller blading, dancing, etc., if I didn't change my ways, lose weight and keep it off. I'm still in "losing" mode, and this is probably the first time I feel like there has been a real shift in my thinking/outlook. This is how I will eat and exercise, period. It's not temporary, it's not a diet, it's for life.

SUBMOM2 SparkPoints: (46,301)
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9/3/13 12:45 P

I got serious about weight loss out of desperation. I was "sick and tired of feeling sick and tired!" The epiphany came about a month later, when I realized that I am in control of this process...MY CHOICES create my healthy lifestyle.

STEAMY17 SparkPoints: (5,932)
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9/3/13 6:46 A

Funny, I don't think of it as change - more of an evolution. But, I decided to make other choices because of a logical response to some developing health issues.

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9/3/13 6:33 A

Neither, I did it out of personal responsibility and because Im a grownup and that means no one else is going to take care of it.

J2740LOU SparkPoints: (317,433)
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9/2/13 8:06 P

An epiphany. Not really explainable. One day I just embraced finding SP. The rest is history.

9/2/13 6:28 P

Mine was logic. I could either eat the same way and be the same weight in 3 months or I could try something new for 3 months and perhaps weigh less. I chose the second option and was richly rewarded by going beyond 2 weight loss goals!

COO_KIE SparkPoints: (63,787)
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9/2/13 5:53 P

I had breathing issues, and blamed my weight. I started SP, and in a couple weeks went to the doctor for what I thought was a routine checkup. He diagnosed asthma. He said the weight did not cause it, nor cause the asthma attacks, but I was already losing and did not want to lose the momentum. Besides, I hope to prove my asthma gets better when my weight comes off.

CHARLOTTE1947 SparkPoints: (44,675)
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9/2/13 2:46 P

Both. But if you want a guaranteed epiphany, go try on some swimsuits at the Labor Day sales. Gag!

I.M.MAGIC Posts: 13,161
9/2/13 1:52 P

Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same.
I guess it's kind of like, if I'm not moving forward, I'm either moving backward or stagnating--Yuck! LOL

LJBRANDOK Posts: 183
9/2/13 1:04 P

I just started making little changes and started losing-then after the first 20 pounds the epiphany hit. I thought that maybe I could finally lose weight by just making smarter lifestyle choices.

9/2/13 12:52 P

Mine was a conversation with a woman who was training for a marathon. Something just clicked inside me....I guess that is an epiphany. I realized that it is never too late to accomplish a goal or live a healthy life.

BUSYGRANNY5 SparkPoints: (517,517)
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9/2/13 12:49 P

Combo of both... bottom line just wanted to live a healthier/happier more productive live...

9/2/13 12:42 P

I have lost a minimum of 85 pounds four times in my life, but my health remained good (even at 64). NOW, however, my knees are really bothering me and give me hope that this time I will make the change to healthy eating and exercise permanent!!! emoticon

NICKYCRANE SparkPoints: (86,298)
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9/2/13 10:36 A

desperation a few years back when I was 76 kilos and knees hurt. A medical student misdiagnosed arthritis from being overweight (in fact it was DOMS from overexercising, but not to worry!), so in desperation I shed 18 kilos - and promptly put 7-8 back on. Last summer I joined SP. last Autumn I started eating according to SP principles seriously, on New Year's Eve I started forcing myself to do January Jumpstart, out of desperation . By end of January I was losing faster than my unambitious goal and was enjoying exercise, even hooked on it for a while. SInce early March I have been maintaining. Intuitive ate for a while, but that didn't work, so I recognise grim necessity and am back to calorie tracking!

ELORA101 Posts: 427
9/2/13 10:02 A

Mine was a combination thereof. I developed a chronic, rare stomach condition that causes stomach aches if I eat too much fat. I quickly learned that I could still get by with a ton of sugar, as long as it wasn't fat... thus, in 18 months of a "low fat" diet, I lost only 20 lbs.

But I don't want to be in and out of doctor's forever. I want energy and excitement and I want to feel great (physically and about myself) so now I eat well, work out, and have dropped another 20 lbs in the last 3 months.

MAMA_CD Posts: 1,507
9/1/13 10:48 P

I changed when I realized that I was heavier than ever, over 100lbs overweight and I knew I could easily go higher than that, so I decided to make a change.

BLINGQUEEN:O) Posts: 249
9/1/13 10:36 P

I am constantly evolving or devolving depending on the day. So mine was desperation. At the end of June beginning of July this year, I had a couple of nights where I had to move my legs or they would hurt. Intuitively, I knew something was wrong. My body was aching in different joints almost daily but when the "restless legs" happened, it was an "in your face" moment. I started on the Dean Ornish Spectrum program. I could only start with the food July 5th, within days I felt clearer, less inflammation in my body. Now I meditate for a short time about 3-4 Xs a week; I am making use of support peoples (like Spark), and hope to get the exercise back on track soon.

AMGIFF Posts: 93
9/1/13 10:19 P

Epiphany for me. One day I realized that I have complete control over my eating and exercising, and I was the only person who could change my appearance and live a more healthy life.

I had been exercising three times a day for three months, without measurable results, and I realized that I had to change my eating. I tracked my food for a couple weeks without any changes, just to see what was inside what I considered a "healthy" eating plan. I was horrified after those two weeks - way too much fat and sugar-filled carbs, not enough protein and too many calories overall. I had an epiphany that my weight problems were due to my own choices, and I resolved to begin making better choices going forward.

Every day, every meal, I make a choice. I might choose to eat something less healthy, but overall, I chose the healthier option, knowing that I am making a deliberate decision to help myself.

NEECOLE09 SparkPoints: (6,062)
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9/1/13 9:37 P

I wouldn't say that either of them really caused me to change but if I had to choose it would probably be closer to epiphany than desperation. I just got so dang tired of being fat! I knew I needed to change my lifestyle completely and so I am.

JBALDWIN29 Posts: 5,136
9/1/13 8:40 P

I changed my behavior when I lost my job. I needed something to fill the void so I looked toward exercise and then changed my eating habits.

9/1/13 8:24 P

I loved the article on how internal stories drive your behavior. I am going to try to rewrite my current story from "often too busy to make time to work out and track food" to "strong mother who is no longer making excuses on exercising daily."

In the past year, my mother has given me a great deal of motivation. She discovered that she had heart disease and required open heart surgery, and subsequently made a big switch to exercising and eating fantastically every day. Seeing my mom make this switch and take her health so seriously has helped me to realize that i need to take the time to do the same for myself.

9/1/13 7:53 P

Difficult event for which I blamed my weight.

SIMONEKP Posts: 2,745
9/1/13 7:13 P

Neither really. I just got to the point where I'd had enough

KITTYCAT64 Posts: 599
9/1/13 6:45 P

I had an epiphany that drove me to do this out of desperation. Diabetes is the big "D". I have we had and still have health issues, but this one bit back. So it is time to take my life back.

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CAMEOSUN SparkPoints: (86,617)
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9/1/13 5:54 P

I had no energy and knew it was from lack of exercise & bad food choices.

SUNFLOWERGAMMY SparkPoints: (27,692)
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9/1/13 10:16 A

Unfortunately, it has taken desperation regarding my eating habits. emoticon

SLIMTHICK2 SparkPoints: (90,300)
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9/1/13 10:12 A

A little of both.

PBROWN5110 SparkPoints: (44,664)
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9/1/13 7:49 A

A little of both. I have always burned the candle at both ends, particularly with international travel for my job and it was getting harder to bounce back. Was diagnosed with high blood pressure last fall and decided I don't want to be on the meds forever. Told my daughter that exercising is now going to be a priority and, like Julia1154, found that I do have time (although cleaning seems to have gone by the wayside). So, not desperation, but a wake-up call.

Here's the epiphany -- I realized that many women I know gave up taking care of themselves to take care of their families when their kids were young. Then we/they hit 50 or so and reap the effects of not taking care of themselves - high blood pressure, Type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol or all 3. Then we/they start taking care of themselves TO BE AROUND FOR OUR FAMILIES. It's like we can't do it unless we have permission (because we're sick). So, we're still not doing it for ourselves. That's the mindset we have to get over.

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9/1/13 3:55 A

A little of both for me. Being a small-time freelance model, I got tired of the comments from photographers about "If (I) would just lose some weight" so my "body would match (my) pretty face". At the same time I had a epiphany about a particular regimen working for me in the past and how I'd forgotten ALL about it. So with some determination sprung from anger and sadness and a plan I started losing.

CANNIE50 SparkPoints: (32,430)
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9/1/13 12:00 A

I think change can come from a variety of places - from a series of small nudges, from feeling "sick and tired of being sick and tired", from being inspired by seeing someone else change, by feeling a glimmer of hope after a period of hopelessness. Change is inevitable and unavoidable. Are we going to channel our energy into changing for the better, or stubbornly fight the need to change? I feel better when I am actively making small changes on a daily basis, as needed.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
8/31/13 8:40 P

I think change comes from a million unexpected places. No one can avoid change, in my opinion, even if they think they can. It is the whole essence of life.

JULIA1154 Posts: 1,783
8/31/13 7:34 P

In regard to my health it was a traumatic event (injury due to unsuspected illness) that led to an epiphany. This led me to put MY health first - before my clients needs, my family's inclinations and even my own inclinations. I started making time for myself in a way that I'd not done in about 15 years. Surprise - everyone's adapted to it, my husband is inspired by my example and the sky has NOT fallen. :)

MEMKEEPR Posts: 1,531
8/31/13 6:43 P

Mine was desperation to get out of the rut I was in. I am just plain tried of letting my life being controlled by being overweight. I want more clothing options and to be less self conscious. I also want to do many of the active things I used to do and enjoy.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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8/31/13 6:29 P

Well I tend to look at change as a Challenge!

8/31/13 4:54 P

My change came out of desperation of hating the way I looked in a photo - I finally realized how big I had become. emoticon
My change also came out of a place of hope (I had a miscarriage about 2 months ago). I gained a lot of weight from it (which I've now finally lost), and I'm trying to lose more to be in a healthier place when I concieve again. emoticon

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
8/31/13 4:47 P

my change came from a miserable unhappy place. I was fat and so unhappy about it. I asked God to help me..........He did and I am never looking back.

CINDYM1963 SparkPoints: (8,177)
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8/31/13 2:55 P

I would describe it more as an epihany... Whether it's quitting smoking or losing weight I think I always know in the back of my mind that things need to change, but it's always that "wake up call" that actually spurs me into action. Luckily I haven't had any serious health issues (knock wood) that would make me "desperate", but at some point the penny dropped.

Good question!

JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (563,578)
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8/31/13 12:56 P

It's funny, but I have always embraced change. It's what makes the world go round!!!

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,361
8/31/13 10:48 A

Some people embrace change, others avoid it.

When did you change your behavior....
Was it in response to a traumatic event that made you change things ?
Was it an epiphany that made you change your paradigm and attitude ?
Was it something Someone else convinced you to do?
Was it something else?

you might enjoy reading How Stories Can Permanently Change Behavior

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 8/31/2013 (10:50)
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