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RBRASHER Posts: 893
10/14/12 3:46 P

Weight loss is the same as any other thing in life. You just put one foot in front of the other one and just keep swimming - to quote Dory.... You absolutely can make it to your goal. Even with out your husband with you. I'm sure it is what he would want for you. I would suggest you get a friend who can help you stay motivated. That way, you'll not want to let her down even when you're struggling. I wish you the best of luck and I am so very sorry for your loss.

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10/14/12 9:23 A

Congratulations on taking that first step! How do you get started? I would suggest reading various articles on this site, and choose one goal for the week.

10/14/12 1:46 A

emoticon This past year has been difficult, but it's great that you are ready to start developing a 'healthy lifestyle' like others have all ready said - start slowly, set a goal for the day like track your food - don't worry about if it is too much or too little, overtime this will be come a bench mark for you to refer to to see where you may need to make changes.
Take time to explore this site - there is much here.

Reading members blogs is a good way to get a sense of what others are working with - I have found this very motivating to stay on target with achieving my goals.

Another suggestion, when you visit your Dr is to ask them to refer you to a 'grief support group' this may be an option if you don't have family/friends near.

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DEE107 SparkPoints: (839,053)
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10/14/12 12:25 A

oh my hugs I belong to a team for lost of a love one please join we can help you Dee

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10/11/12 1:20 P


I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. No one would fault you for turning to food for comfort while you grieved. At one time or another, we too turned to food for comfort. Try not to worry about that.

Let me welcome you to Spark People !! I know the website might seem overwhelming, but click on a few links and see what pops up. Spark People is a great website with all the "tools" you need to help you become a healthier you.

My advice ? Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals first. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 15-30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved those goals, then you set new ones.

One small change is all it takes to change your life. Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

Now, let me ask you this, when is the last time you had a full physical ? If you haven't been to the doctor in a long time, it's time to give them a call. Regular checkups are an important part of a healthy lifestyle. And if you have gained some weight over the last year, plus the added stress of losing your husband, you need to know what your vital numbers are. Find out what your blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol all are. With time, those will change.

But it is important for a person to talk to their doctor before making a change to their diet. Your doctor can also let you know what exercises would be safe to do because of any physical limitations you might have.

start slowly. take baby steps literally and figuratively. If you need support, that's why the Spark Community is here. We'll lend a cyber ear when you need one. We'll send cyber hugs too !! search the forums and read some of the questions. I think you'll find that replying to questions will help you learn about yourself too.

You may find this link helpful.

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10/11/12 9:43 A

This site is so helpful in so many ways. There are recipes and food planners to help you in the meal planning. And as for friends, I've made so many sparkfriends from all over since joining, so of whom I've met up with 'in the flesh' and all who are there for me throughout my journey, just as I am there for them. Take a wander - you'll be pleasantly surprised at what and whom you'll find...

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10/11/12 9:32 A


I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband.

For many of us, food can give us a lift when we are feeling low, but it is never a replacement for us having to go through the emotions of life. But coming up with other measures such as journaling or joining a support group may help you cope without turning to food.

SparkPeople's program is about making small changes over time. And while many believe that motivation comes from others, it actually comes from within each of us.. Others can inspire us,, but when it comes to motivation, we must look inside.

If you haven't joined any SparkTeams, that may be something you want to consider. These groups serve as a great support for those starting out.

Take care!

Coach Nancy

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10/11/12 9:23 A

I don't have much time for posting right now. Thursday is my day for volunteering at the hospital. But I wanted to take a quick minute to welcome you here. I understand what you are going through as I lost my husband suddenly a year ago this past May. And managed to put on 30 pounds as I struggled to get through that first year.

I am finally beginning to feel like myself again. And that has been why I was ready to take the journey back to being myself physically as well as emotionally. We all heal at our own pace and I did have family and close friends that really helped get me to this point.

Just start small and take small steps toward that journey. You will get lots of support here.

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10/11/12 8:55 A

Hi., I took the first step and joined yesterday. But now I am lost. Tomorrow is the 1st anniversary of my husbands death. It has been a rough year and I turned to food for comfort. Now I don't know how to break the habit. I have some physical challenges that prevent me from doing most exercises, even walking. I have no family near me and only a couple of "friends" so don't have any one to help motivate me. I really need to lose the weight. How do I get motivated and get started? I am still trying to adjust to cooking for one and find meal planning difficult.
Thanks for listening

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