One of my friends decided that she was sick of having junk in the house temping her, so she got her kids together and said, you have either x amount of $ or x amount of things (a bag of chips and 2 candy bars OR $10 or whatever) for junk. Go buy what you want and that's it for the entire week. You have to keep your junk food in your bedroom (they had sealed containers for bugs) and once it's gone it's gone. This way their kids were not "deprived" and if they wanted to share or trade it was between them, and for her it was out of sight, out of mind.
Thank you for the ideas and the link to the resources. That is helpful. Eelpie is right about the crap. I can't get rid of it completely - not with 5 kids (mostly teenagers) and a husband who even though I have asked him not to buy the chocolate and beer still does. I do buy fruit every week. However, I tend to gravitate toward the chocolate rather than the fruit.
A habit takes 20-30 days to build. Initially I think you have to decide and force yourself to do it. Because face it, wouldn't most of us rather stay in bed? I know that I need to get into a schedule and that will start to build the habit.
6/10/14 7:38 P
Motivation doesn't last. Habit lasts. If I only went to work when I was feeling motivated to, I'd work about six days a month. If I only brushed my teeth when I was motivated to brush my teeth, I'd have no teeth left to brush. I go to the gym on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays, and if I stopped myself every one of those afternoons and ask myself whether I was motivated to go or not, I'd probably go a lot less. Make walking and tracking a habit, not something you have to decide to do every day.
As far as eating crap goes, Eelpie is right. Get it out of your house. You can't eat what you don't have.
6/10/14 3:58 P
" I seem to give up at night and then start eating all kinds of crap."
And if your kids have to have a little junk food (I get it, I do not believe in depriving kids 100%, know what I mean?) that's fine - but you don't have unlimited quantities laying around. Make a determination of what they desire for a week (plus the healthy stuff your gonna stock up with) and make it last. They need (say) 1 bag cheetos, 1 bag doritos - ok that's all - and it's their snacks, not yours - and because it is theirs, and it has to last...you need to keep your hands off
Yes perfection is an issue for me. I have this start and stop mentality lately and there has been more stopping than there has been starting and staying on it.
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6/10/14 1:08 P
You don't have to do a lot to restart your quest for a healthy lifestyle. That's why I suggested starting with some simple changes first as motivation to get you back on track. don't try do do everything at once or you will end up making excuses.
Just start with a few simple changes you can stick with and go from there. So, if you are eating a healthy breakfast and lunch, that's a good start. With time, you'll add dinner. For now, you really can't beat yourself up because you're not perfect.
But, if you want to make a change, you do have to be proactive. Waiting for something to happen isn't going to fly. If you want to see a change, you have to be ready to make some.
Thanks ARCHIMEDESII. I do some positive things. I typically eat 2-3 servings of fruit/veggies a day and when at work typically drink 8 glasses of water. My exercise is almost non-existent right now. So I guess that is what I need to focus on. I do typically track breakfast and lunch. However, I seem to give up at night and then start eating all kinds of crap. That combined with next to no exercise leads to no weight loss.
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6/10/14 12:17 P
Hi, Shelly !
Even though you are a long time member, I'm going to give you one piece I give to all new members and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
What to do ? Start with simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you haven't been eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
Can you do that ? Can you eat 2-3 servings of fresh fruit and veggies each day for one week ? Can you drink 2-4 glasses of water ? Can you take a 30 minute walk ?
If so, then you have begun to take steps that will help you regain your healthy lifestyle.
You take baby steps literally and figuratively. Take logging. Don't log everything. Start by logging one meal each day for one week. Can you log breakfast each day for one week ? If so, that's another good goal. You really don't have to do a lot to get started. Remember, one small change CAN change your life.
I have completely lost my motivation and can't seem to find it again. I am eating whatever and sometimes tracking it, I am hardly walking these days which was my primarily source of exercise. I look in the mirror and at the scale and hate what I see. Each day I say I am going to start again and by the end of the day, my good intentions are gone. I have been on this rollercoaster for a couple of years now.
I make excuses (5 kids, work full time, hubby who is gone a lot, volunteer role as President of a professional organization, house to take care of, etc.) for not doing what I need to. I know I need to track food, exercise, etc. but yet I don't do it. Do I not want it enough to overcome my excuses?
Anyone else in this position or have the same struggle? I'm not sure what to do anymore.
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