Start by relaxing. We all come with baggage and those of us who are truly obese often have more baggage than the rest.
Self-doubt, self-hatred, and just plain feelings of unworthiness are common feelings that we have to battle regularly. People argue that we have no self-control - which is NONSENSE in every sense of the word. It is not our self-control that is lacking, it is the love of ourselves and the respect for ourselves, and even the LIKING for ourselves that is missing. I read a great article that suggested that instead of trying to FIGHT these feelings head-on and trying to use brute force (what we usually do with starvation diets, crazy over-exercising programs, and various CRITERIA for success that NO HUMAN BEING could or SHOULD ever be expected to meet), that we should try tricking and outsmarting those feelings. Simply by using strategies and PLANS that make it easier to eat and exercise healthy than NOT to, redefine success as something realistic, to celebrate small successes, to learn to at least treat ourselves as we would treat a friend or a child who we cared about (I am NOT saying we have to LOVE ourselves, like ourselves, or even to respect ourselves at the beginning, BUT that we at least treat ourselves with some level of kindness, gentleness, and caring). We don't have to have the feelings to ACT in a reasonable and responsible manner toward ourselves. We don't have to have the feelings to behave in kindness. We do this for strangers and co-workers we don't love, and clerks in the store, etc. We don't normally beat up or yell at those people because they made a poor choice or made a mistake. Give ourselves at least THAT MUCH consideration.
Set goals that are realistic and reasonable - NO, NO, NO, NOT by setting a NUMBER goal, but goals like eating at least 3 servings of veggies a day, or doing 10 minutes a day of exercise, or eating a little bit less than yesterday/last week/last month/or even last year. THEN, when we DO succeed in achieving those small goals, CELEBRATE them. Use inspirational quotes, motivational messages, positive phrasing, and generally KIND, NICE, comments about ourselves. We don't have to say things like "I ONLY lost 1 pound this week" but rather phrase it in a positive way so we say "I LOST ONE WHOLE POUND this week, that reminds me that I CAN DO IT"
With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.
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2 9/16/12 1:47 P
I'm 43 and have developed a very defined way of thinking about myself. When I was a young child my parents divorced and my father completely left us. COMPLETELY. He wasn't ever around to tell me that it wasn't my fault and because of that I developed my own reasons of why. I'm now 43 and when my WW leader says that we have to be our own best friend, I just don't have a clue what that is. "My own best friend?".....I don't even like myself. I started at 316 lbs and was real successful at first with WW and hit almost 200. Then I turned 40 and between my PCO and my age, my body has been completely fighting me.
I still go to the gym, but at times I can really feel my motivation going out the window. I find myself thinking that I was crazy to ever even think that I deserved to be "thin".
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