You could try explaining to him that this is what you need to do until you only eat when hungry and not bored or just craving something.
Do you and your boyfriend always do everything together? It took me years til I felt comfortable doing something separately from my hubby (long sordid story, lots of problems earlier).
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11 1/6/12 1:22 P
I have the same problem! I am single so I don't have to worry about anyone else but there are a few things that I do to keep myself busy! I find that I eat a lot when I watch TV so I put my exercise bike in front of the TV and I will only watch it if I am riding the bike! When I find myself going to the kitchen when I am not hungry I chew gum. I have bought all of the fun flavors! I also started crafting to keep myself busy! I don't know if these will work for you but they are helping me!
I've always struggled with this myself. One thing I'd like to say about this before I give any advice is that the bad habits you have now have taken pretty much your whole lifetime to develop. So you can't be too hard on yourself; these habits are not going to change over night, over the next week, month, or even year sometimes.
The positive thing here is that you're aware of the fact that you are not in fact hungry, but rather you are bored, which compels you to want to eat to keep you occupied, entertained, comforted, etc. Here's my advice.
I suggest you keep a journal. If you know you're not hungry but you still feel the need to eat, write down why you want to eat. Actually writing down "because I don't really have anything else to do," or "Well, I'm not really hungry but [whatever food] sounds pretty good," and reading it to yourself may be all you need to snap yourself back into why you've even started this diet/lifestyle change in the first place.
What I've done in the past, and still continue to do, is suck on tic tacs or starburst or eat a bag of light or 100 calorie popcorn when I'm in that "I'm not hungry but I'm bored and I want to eat" mode. A pack of starburst is 240 calories. Which is a little high for one snack, but most of the time half will suffice. Sucking on the candy occupies my mouth and tricks my brain into thinking I'm eating. And the candy tricks my brain into thinking I'm being bad or cheating (because sometimes that's the real source of why I want to eat when I'm not even hungry. At least for me.)
Popcorn is another good one. Even those 100 calorie pop corns could last me about 45 minutes if I sit back, taste it and enjoy it. That's the key for me: Personally I will not succeed if I have a list of Can Do's and Cannot Do's. There is nothing i can't eat. I just need to practice moderation and portion control, and self inspection. If I'm bored, and if I *could* eat (meaning, I didn't just finish eating lunch or something) and it's driving me crazy not being able to eat, then I'll suck on some tic tacs, or a handful of starburst for a while, or pop a bag of 100 calorie popcorn.
I have the same problem - it is usually when I am in front of the television or computer, not doing anything of consequence, that I find myself feeling hungry and wanting to snack.
I've found a happy compromise with crafting - I enjoy making handmade stationery, and doing other art projects, and I can do these while relaxing in front of a movie or tv show. Making a card or painting/collaging keeps my hands busy, but I'm still able to sit down and relax while doing it. Or you could also journal or write letters to people while sitting with your boyfriend. Anything to keep your hands busy.
Another thing is to re-assess what types of foods you have in your house - try to only keep around the foods that are "safe" to snack on, like vegetables with hummus, fruit, etc. That way, if you do decide to snack while relaxing, you're eating good stuff.
Lastly - and I hope this isn't getting too personal - but is your boyfriend on board with your health goals? If so, then he will hopefully understand your need to keep busy in the evenings, and may even join you. Maybe the two of you could take a walk together after dinner, or play a board game together or something?
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1/6/12 11:11 A
I read one of the daily Sparkblogs today, and part of the blog talked about not confusing boredom with hunger. I struggle big time with this. I feel like I have to keep myself moving from the time I get home from work until the time I go to bed in order to keep myself from eating. This causes issues between my boyfriend and I because he wants to relax, and he feels with me constantly moving, he can not relax because I never relax myself. Does anyone have ideas about how to get around this? I DO want to relax....but am afraid of the consequences....
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