Thanks so much for the tips and encouragement, everyone! I have been trying to get back into the basics and it has been hit or miss. Sometimes I seriously lack the willpower no matter how good my intentions are. It isn't all or nothing and I know that; I'm all for cheat meals and did have them even during the height of my weight loss efforts. I'm trying new healthier versions of my trigger food/treats like pizza and milkshakes, so that if I do lose control of myself (ugh) I am not doing as much damage calorie wise. The plus side is that I feel like I am starting to come out of my funk now that I am trying new things. The fog of hopelessness is lifting! Anyways, thanks again!
I originally joined Spark in 2008 and made my goal in 2009. I kept it off for a while, but I'm back up again.
My advice to you: 1. Restart the spark. Like someone else pointed out, just pick one or two of your original goals, and aim for that for a week. Next week, try again if you didn't make it, move on to another goal if you did. 2. DO plan for pizza! I couldn't get through this at all if I could never again have pizza, chocolate, milkshakes, cookies etc. All that stuff fits in when you plan for it, and you will still lose. 3. Recognize that you already HAVE achieved a tremendous accomplishment! 78 POUNDS LOST!! That's a middle school child!! You're only 22 pounds away from your 100 pound mark- 22, not 100. Don't focus on where you've slipped, focus on where you've triumphed. You know how to get where you're going, and you know which way you're headed NOW. Make the course correction & don't worry about the time spent backpedaling.
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I have nothing to add, because all of this advice is so good, but I just want to say, I love being able to read these posts, with the encouragement, to think of things differently and break old destructive mindsets. You guys are great!
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All the replies here are great!
My new fave quote was taken from a poster on the message boards, and it may help you to "break out" of the cycle of I-ate-this-so-I-may-as-well-chuck-my-effor ts-&-eat-the-entire-house" thinking - otherwise commonly known as, "All Or Nothing Thinking."
"You are always just one choice away from being back on track."
Think about it! One choice - and you're BACK!! Not ten choices, not twenty choices - that can feel overwhelming!
Just ONE choice.
So you had your pizza or fried foods or milkshakes just now? Big deal! Make your next choice great & you are on your way. It's summertime now (depending on where you live). Go to the store and get some delicious berries or other yummy nutritious foods.
Don't dwell on the negative. Don't even think about it. Get busy on the positive. C'mon now, get going. YOU CAN DO THIS!!
PS: congrats on your tremendous loss to date. That really is incredible!!
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SPASTASTIC, to be 78 pounds down is AWESOME! Concentrate on the big loss and how wonderful that is for your health. You might not want to hear the word "exercise", but I swear just moderate exercise (10 minutes or less strength and a 30 minute walk) will energize you and help propel you into another mindset.
I encourage you to do just one month long Official Sparkpeople Bootcamp Challenge. It can change your life, truly. And it is totally do-able. I recommend the Official 28-Day Bootcamp Workout Challenge. Follow all the directions and you will be on your way to a new you that is beyond your wildest dreams. (I got hooked on the bootcamps; did ten consecutive bootcamps and it completely changed my life.)
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I give all new members and anyone who will listen to me one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
Good health isn't "all or nothing". Every little bit really DOES make a difference. As the old song goes,"Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for all the positive things you do for yourself AND don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.
Now, if you do find yourself binging, you have to ask yourself a hard question and that's why. Many people say they don't know, but the fact is, there IS a reason you are binging. Are you under any unusual stress ? Have you been having any issues at home, work, school, family or relationship ? Stress can cause any healthy person to take a nose dive into comfort food.
I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. So, if you're stress eating, then you need to find ways to reduce your stress that don't involve food. Take a walk. walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too. Listen to relaxing music. take a martial arts class. I find hitting a heavy bag very helpful for reducing stress.
BLOG. writing can be cathartic. find ways to vent your stress so that you don't feel an urge to eat. keep yourself busy. it helps.
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Hi There....since your Spark Page is public, I took a look....and I believe you already have your answer as to how to find your Spark again.... just go back to 1 or 2 of Your Basics:
"My Goals: Drink 8 glasses of water each day. Watch my calories. Watch my carbs. Watch my sodium. Track all my food. "
Pick just two things to do for the rest of this week--any two will get you going in the right direction!! Then later on, challenge yourself to add two more.... I have a feeling you'll be heading towards that 100lb loss again....
One thing I have found helps me is to plan to include my favorite foods--pizza, milkshakes, etc--once or twice a week. Try going to one of the places that sells pizza by the slice--buy one or two ONLY, bring them home, and enjoy. (Or if you have to get a whole pizza---bring it home, cut and freeze most of it BEFORE you eat any of it!!) If you plan for the calories, it will be fine. For the milkshakes, I know I can't have that many carbs at one time anymore, but I found some places sell kid-sized minis. A once in awhile treat isn't going to totally derail you. You Are Stronger Than That if You Were Able To Lose Almost 100lbs!!--You Can Do It Again!!
Try to look at your calories as a three day average. If you know you are planning a pizza night, eat on your lower end on the day before, and the day after. Focus on the veggies and really healthy proteins, then enjoy your treat.
I used to think I didn't have a problem, that being at an unhealthy weight was not because of how much I would eat, but what I would eat. I was in denial. It is odd how I never saw binging as that, that I didn't link emotions to eating, even though I have depression and anxiety issues. I was doing really well, went from 328 pounds down to my low of 236. So close to my 100 pound loss mark. I backslid and started eating poorly in high quantities. ( Pizza! Fried foods! Milkshakes! Cookies!) Two months later and I am now sitting around 250 again.. Argh! It is frustrating to wake up each morning with my goal of doing better and then falling into my bad habits. I'm scared I've lost control of myself and will continue to gain weight. I miss my spark. I hate being sad, embarrassed, and guilty that I'm my own worst enemy.
But I'm not going to give up. I will wake up every morning with the same goal to be better. I just pray that I will actually do it. If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it. I need help.
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