My oldest son is 17½ and has never asked for much.. I have tried to keep interested in what he is doing- listen to him when he has/had problems and encouraged him to go to meetings with social services and found even a boarding school to him..
Boarding school was the best experience ever- he saw others eating decent food- it was not cool getting a efter sitting for being a picky eater and not allowed to go to the shops with the other teenagers..
He now earns a small sum of money going to a production school- we had a set back he got turned down for a grant to go to 3d school but he will get there..
I am not on his case about sleeping for ages as he has ADHD/Asperges so has a very high stress level.. I try to take up stuff we have to discuss when he is feeling okay and not grumpy..
I also allow his friends to turn up and chill with him over their computers.. Some of his friends would trade their own mothers for me..
I heard them say- hey Rik you mom understands your alternative lifestyle- wish my old lady did lol..
I ask when he is coming home- and keep in contact by telephone.. I don't pry into his life and if stuff weights his mind I am always there..
The lifted finger never achieves anything- I had to accept my sons learning difficulties.. He is good at computers and will get a job some day- I encourage him to do stuff he is good at.. i253.photobucket.com/albums/hh54/Rena1965/
It has been hard getting into his life- he was a real dads boy.. He has been with drawn since his dad passed away.. i253.photobucket.com/albums/hh54/Rena1965/
dad was a home going dad- due to diabetes type 1.. It has taken alot of time for my son to warm up to me, I was going to language school and holding a job down..
Edited by: RENA1965 at: 11/6/2010 (14:45)